If You Could Get Rid of Any Single Desire, What Would It Be?

[Celerity]

Besides the survival instinct, is there any desire of yours that you would be much better off without?

I wish I didn't want to associate with people, romantic or otherwise. My loneliness would be much more comfortable that way. I could just do the bare minimum to feed and clothe myself without all this complicated bullshit.

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

Desire for gf. If that went away my suffering would be more than cut in half.

The runner-up would be desire for achievement/prestige/normalcy/goals/grit/meta-motivation/etc. Another thing I'll never have. But I suspect this would be reduced to dust if I truly did not desire a gf (obvious reasons are obvious).

With that gone I only have to grapple with fear. And I have a lot of that, not usually actually appearing as an emotion, but I think a lot about dystopian stuff, becoming homeless, etc.

 

[Celerity]

Desire for gf. If that went away my suffering would be more than cut in half.

The runner-up would be desire for achievement/prestige/normalcy/goals/grit/meta-motivation/etc. Another thing I'll never have. But I suspect this would be reduced to dust if I truly did not desire a gf (obvious reasons are obvious).

With that gone I only have to grapple with fear. And I have a lot of that, not usually actually appearing as an emotion, but I think a lot about dystopian stuff, becoming homeless, etc.

I feel a great degree of anger which is really just anxiety with forward momentum. I didn't really understand that the root of hatred is fear until I got older. If that's not exactly true, the emotions are strongly linked.

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

I feel a great degree of anger which is really just anxiety with forward momentum. I didn't really understand that the root of hatred is fear until I got older. If that's not exactly true, the emotions are strongly linked.

I think all "negative" emotions come from some form of sub-optimal success on the genetic front (only a small part will be directly related to mating for most ppl).

You might get scared if you think your genetic interests are on the line, but you might also get angry--or both. What I mean is that the cause is the DNA typing numbers in the red, the response is something else, more related to how to proceed than what caused it.

 

[BeyondGoodNEvil]

my desire to live
nah thats such a generic answer
what i really want to get rid of will be the desire of just being lazy
i miss work and going out with friends but its just i have no drive to do so.
i feel comfortable doing nothing but yet it feels crap at the same time

 

[Celerity]

I think all "negative" emotions come from some form of sub-optimal success on the genetic front (only a small part will be directly related to mating for most ppl).

You might get scared if you think your genetic interests are on the line, but you might also get angry--or both. What I mean is that the cause is the DNA typing numbers in the red, the response is something else, more related to how to proceed than what caused it.

Well, I think negative emotions are part of life even for healthy people. When it becomes chronic, yes. And being without a partner is definitely a good candidate as being something that triggers dangerous psychological programs.

I don't know how inferior I am genetically. I just know that the sum total of my experiences has made me an undesirable person. Could someone else have come out better? Maybe. The particular combo I was handed was bad.

Being rejected to such a degree used to mean certain death back in the day, so it's not surprising that I'm leaning on one of the oldest and most rudimentary coping mechanisms. I'm snarling and snapping like a kicked dog.

 

[All Things Must Pass]

To be happy.

 

[demuic]

Somewhar similar, I would want to get rid of the desire to communicate with anyone or have any kind of companionship or people to relate to. Perhaps I would feel less hurt and isolated from always being the odd one out.

 

[Lmd]

I need people in my life to do something and I hate it. I wish I could enjoy loneliness and do things for my own without thinking that I'm missing something or that everything is boring and empty.

 

[motel rooms]

The sun set behind his eyes
And Joe said, "Is this desire?"

"Is this desire
Enough, enough
To lift us higher
To lift above?
Is this desire
Enough, enough
Enough inside
Is this desire?"

-- PJ Harvey

I'd like to get rid of the idiotic desire to make sense out of existence. Nothing actually makes any sense & nothing matters.

 

[Makko]

I'd rather cling onto the few ephemeral desires I have. Barely have any ego as it is.

 

[BottomlessPit]

Well, first and foremost of course the desire to live, as I consider this desire to be the cause for a lot of unnecessary suffering.

But if that doesn't count, then I'd like to lose the desire to be seen as normal. This would make my general awkwardness more bearable.

 

[Celerity]

Well, first and foremost of course the desire to live, as I consider this desire to be the cause for a lot of unnecessary suffering.

But if that doesn't count, then I'd like to lose the desire to be seen as normal. This would make my general awkwardness more bearable.

My desires are similar, except that I think my personality is within the range of normal: it's just not particularly likable.

 

[Taki]

As a lot of others have said here, the desire to be emotionally connected to someone. If I didn't have that life would be tolerable.

 

[TooConscious]

Human touch from the opposite sex.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I don't think getting rid of my desires to have a female romantic partner would be enough to end my need to CTB. Even without that, I have nothing else left to look forward to from life and I'm still a very evil person.

I think I would instead actually attempt to eliminate my incessant desire to abuse and sabotage myself. Of course, sometimes I'm not the one doing the sabotaging but the one being sabotaged so removing the desire from me might not necessarily remove it from him. Maybe if I'm lucky I could ultimately remove any desire at all to be cruel to myself in any way. Unfortunately, even if I did that it would just make me even more of an asshole only now I'd be just another incredibly selfish consoomer but hey at least maybe I'd finally have enough confidence to actually get laid.

 

[nolongerhuman]

I'd rather not the desire to have people like me, at least not so strongly that any criticism is an emotional punch to the gun that plays on repeat in my head constantly whenever I'm not actively thinking about something else. I think that would solve a lot of my emotional problems.

 

[bluedream]

I'd like to get rid of the desire to speak when spoken to, and when a thought pops into my head.
I hate speaking, despite being a somewhat social person because when I speak, the words never come out how I want them to, if that makes sense. But my parents raised my to talk in every conversation, or I would get yelled at, so now I still have a compulsive need to run my mouth sometimes, and though I do a good job of resisting the urge to speak, i wish the desire to do so wasn't there.

 

[DisillusionedDragon]

The desire to not be suffering. The base desire. I just want to be fine with being miserable. Probably sounds crazy but I am too aware of the constant fight to not suffer. It is exhausting, often unpleasant in itself and in the end often doesn't work and always only for a short time. You always fall back to suffering. And I'm at a point where I just want to be fine with that.

 

[absoluteanimal1]

The desire to be pretty/thin. If that was gone I would suffer much less, and might not feel the need to ctb.

 

[Snake of Eden]

desire to be someone that im not

 

[TheHatedOne]

i'd get rid of the desire of being loved in a heartbeat. it only brought me pain.

 

[FailureGirl]

The desire for human contact, I really want to just cut off everyone but I cant.

 

[Lost Magic]

I would be better off without the burden of society and the pain of the past creeping up on me all the time.

 

[Depressed Cat]

The desire to be seen as a productive member of society. I wish to get rid of it.

Fuck society and fuck this world!

 

[Mixo]

The desire to be accepted or liked.

 

[Callie Arcale]

The desire to be healthy.

 

[FailureGirl]

The desire to not emotionally hurt those I love. The thought them hurting is the only thing stopping me from ctb at the moment.

 

[JinZhin]

Reading all the replies, I thought that I'm so cringe, but I wish to be free of desire to ever eat anything again.

I've had an eating disorder for years and never being hungry/distracted by thinking about hunger/food etc. Q would allow me to just starve myself in peace.

 

[AlwaysAnhedonia]

My desire for addictive substances and behaviors. Would definitely lessen my desire to CTB.