If you are leaving a note, do you have a specific place for it?

[Cosmiq]

I'm thinking I'll leave a general note with my backpack I'll have on the bridge. But I'll also have notes written for specific people mailed, I'd drop them in the mailbox on the way to bridge.
I can remember reading a book as a teen, like 15 years ago, where the girl left her note under her stepmothers pillow who had been abusing the girl. It's always made me think, that placement might matter too.

 

[june]

I think your letters may get wet, or worn or torn if you have them out in the wilderness with you

 

[Cosmiq]

I think your letters may get wet, or worn or torn if you have them out in the wilderness with you

I'd only have the one with me until I'm on the bridge which isn't too isolated, it seems that most have jumped get found by a jogger or someone within a few hours.
The others would be fine, I used to be a courier and am very aware of delivery in my area, also I live in a pretty dry area.

 

[SpottedPanda]

I'm leaving mine by my bed, in a notebook, with 'Read Me' across the front. It'll be one of the only things on the bedside cabinet so unmissable. Inside I've left a cover note for whoever is dealing with the body plus two notes, one for each family member that will be the most affected.

 

[ssaaahmo]

I'm leaving mine next to my chickens' laying box in their coop

 

[JustAnotherSuicider]

I will leave my note on the desk in my room, along with 2 letters that I wish to be send by my parents, those will be already addressed, they will only have to throw them into mailbox.

 

[NotGonnaLast]

I'm either gonna leave it with my things at home or post it to my brother

 

[sadghost]

I'm not sure if I'm leaving a note but if I do I think I'm going the digital route (I hate my handwriting.)

I'd likely wipe my phone, remove the passcode, and leave it on the notes app or send a delayed email/text

 

[autumnal]

I'm leaving mine next to my chickens' laying box in their coop

That's an interesting one. Is there some symbolism or rationale behind it? I assume that's not the same place you are suiciding?

 

[Brick In The Wall]

I've heard that in some circumstances a physical note may be kept as evidence by the investigators. Meaning they get locked in an evidence locker never to see the light of day again. So for me I'm sticking purely to emails.

 

[Giraffey]

I've heard that in some circumstances a physical note may be kept as evidence by the investigators. Meaning they get locked in an evidence locker never to see the light of day again. So for me I'm sticking purely to emails.

It may be different outside of an institution but when I hung myself in prison (see reply to another thread) the note and my will were confiscated as evidence and never saw the light of day. In fact, despite being resuscitated my next of kin (parents) were never informed. So I do agree, it can't be guaranteed.

Presumably, the note would be confiscated along with any suicide equipment (if you use it) for use at the coroner's hearing. I would much rather leave a specific note by my body for the benefit of the coroner (there is no public funding for such hearings in the UK so I'd want it to be quick and simple for my parents), and more personal notes in a strategic place away from my body for the benefit of my parents and anyone else who mattered.

I haven't decided on the means or location for those yet though...

 

[Brick In The Wall]

It may be different outside of an institution but when I hung myself in prison (see reply to another thread) the note and my will were confiscated as evidence and never saw the light of day. In fact, despite being resuscitated my next of kin (parents) were never informed. So I do agree, it can't be guaranteed.

Presumably, the note would be confiscated along with any suicide equipment (if you use it) for use at the coroner's hearing. I would much rather leave a specific note by my body for the benefit of the coroner (there is no public funding for such hearings in the UK so I'd want it to be quick and simple for my parents), and more personal notes in a strategic place away from my body for the benefit of my parents and anyone else who mattered.

I haven't decided on the means or location for those yet though...

I think it may vary somewhat on where you do it or where you live. But I think it's best to assume that your note will never reach its destination. Unless it's a note for the coroner as you've mentioned.

 

[Hydration]

Personally I was planning on leaving mine under my bed and hoping someone finds it.

 

[Giraffey]

I think it may vary somewhat on where you do it or where you live. But I think it's best to assume that your note will never reach its destination. Unless it's a note for the coroner as you've mentioned.

Indeed. This is why I've considered sending a digital note, but someone close to me commented that they thought that was impersonal and "what a horrible way to find out". So I've been thinking lately about in addition to stashing hand-written notes somewhere, perhaps with a select couple of people giving them one last phone call. I don't necessarily have to tell them what I'm about to do, but just to say that I love and care about them and try to give them some closure. I have some experience working in telephony so I can ensure this is done anonymously to prevent any reporting and 'signal triangulation' etc.

But from an emotional point of view that again seems fraught with difficulty - perhaps that is then 'too personal', will they be haunted by that one last phone call? Will they be left wondering if they could have talked me out of it?

A suicide note is such a simple premise isn't it and yet one can easily over-complicate it with very little thought!

 

[Brick In The Wall]

Indeed. This is why I've considered sending a digital note, but someone close to me commented that they thought that was impersonal and "what a horrible way to find out". So I've been thinking lately about in addition to stashing hand-written notes somewhere, perhaps with a select couple of people giving them one last phone call. I don't necessarily have to tell them what I'm about to do, but just to say that I love and care about them and try to give them some closure. I have some experience working in telephony so I can ensure this is done anonymously to prevent any reporting and 'signal triangulation' etc.

But from an emotional point of view that again seems fraught with difficulty - perhaps that is then 'too personal', will they be haunted by that one last phone call? Will they be left wondering if they could have talked me out of it?

A suicide note is such a simple premise isn't it and yet one can easily over-complicate it with very little thought!

I suppose you could also send a handwritten one through the mail service. You'd have to be certain and you'd have to time it right. A phone call doesn't seem too bad either if it's done in the way you mention.

Such a simple concept like you said. But it's better sometimes to think of all the possibilities. Especially with something as serious as this.

 

[bokete]

Probably gonna schedule a SMS with a link to my note on G**gle D*cs.

 

[Giraffey]

Would it be too much to just wrap up a Ouija board and leave a note saying "I'm dead - AMA"?

 

[ssaaahmo]

That's an interesting one. Is there some symbolism or rationale behind it? I assume that's not the same place you are suiciding?

I love my chickens dearly and would want to see them one last time before I go. It would be the first place people would look, at least I think. And no, I'd never let my little babies watch me die.

 

[autumnal]

I love my chickens dearly and would want to see them one last time before I go. It would be the first place people would look, at least I think. And no, I'd never let my little babies watch me die.

It's great that you love them and would want to farewell them. I can't quite figure out how people, even those who know your bond with them, would consider the chicken coop as the first place to look for a suicide note, or even as a place on that list at all. Surely somewhere visible in the same room as your body is in, or perhaps whereever you leave your keys or phone and stuff when going to bed? Or even stuck to the front of the fridge? But you know your situation better than I do.

 

[Aap]

Animals can be such a source of comfort and can love you in a selfless and unconditional manner that many (most?) humans cannot. Keep in mind grief can be irrational, or cause people not to behave or think in a usual manner. There might be a place that a loved one might be more likely to discover a note (maybe under the pillow of a spouse or on the fridge). Only you know best.

 

[mediocre]

If I were to leave a note it would be one to the police/authorities explaining how I ctb through either drinking SN or using the debreather device. I'd pin it outside my bedroom door. There is no point leaving one to family they know how I feel and how I have been suffering and don't care..

 

[4eyebiped]

Be different, turn your note into a tshirt and wear it. You can even print up some for the whole family! Just don't use red fonts if your method will create lots of blood.

 

[ssaaahmo]

It's great that you love them and would want to farewell them. I can't quite figure out how people, even those who know your bond with them, would consider the chicken coop as the first place to look for a suicide note, or even as a place on that list at all. Surely somewhere visible in the same room as your body is in, or perhaps whereever you leave your keys or phone and stuff when going to bed? Or even stuck to the front of the fridge? But you know your situation better than I do.

Maybe it wouldn't be the literal first place they'd look, but they should at least know to check there. Everyone who knows me knows I spend lots of time in the backyard.

Animals can be such a source of comfort and can love you in a selfless and unconditional manner that many (most?) humans cannot. Keep in mind grief can be irrational, or cause people not to behave or think in a usual manner. There might be a place that a loved one might be more likely to discover a note (maybe under the pillow of a spouse or on the fridge). Only you know best.

I get that my response may sound odd, but it's comforting to me to know if I would die anytime soon, I'd like my last trace of me to be with the ones I feel closest to.