if someone had just said something all those years ago

[unbelievablydead]

i was a high achieving student all my life, and especially in high school. i was top of my class, won tons of awards, was kinda a teacher's pet (sorry), always turned in assignments on time, always made As, and when i didn't, i'd cry. however, when senior year hit, i did a complete 180, and this wasn't deliberate. i wasn't turning in assignments, i missed class, didn't do well on tests, etc;. this was the onset of my depression and possible adhd (i'm not diagnosed so i cant say for sure, but it matches up with the symptoms i started to present). i think all the pressure and stress i had put on myself for 10+ years got to me and that combined with mental health issues in my family predisposition me to all of this. and it still baffles me to this day that no one noticed. not a single one of my teachers asked me if i was ok, if there was something going on at home, if i needed help, if something was wrong. i guess they all thought i had "senioritis" or i had just become lazy, idk. the thing is if just one person had cared enough and said something, i think my life would be so so different, and that sucks. i wasn't lazy, i needed help. i was a kid, and i needed an empathetic and caring adult to step in, and no one did.

so, if you're a teacher or work with younger people and see something like this, please please please say something. the formative years are so vital and impact how the brain develops and functions for the rest of a person's life. say something NOW. it could save/change someone's life.

 

[Jadotine]

Almost same case here, although for me there was a teacher that noticed and did something about it. However after I had been separated from my family and that I had been placed into CPS, I thought that I could count on his support since I had basically lost my family and even some of my "friends".

I'll just say that he dropped me like a hot potato once he saw how high maintenance I would be. Avoided me like the plague. And damn that shit hurt. It still gets me fucked up to this day

So please if any of you are in this situation, please try to be careful especially since younger people will be very impressionable

 

[ipmanwc0]

yeah that was a similar story to mine. I did have one or two teachers who made themselves available for me to talk to. my brain has definitely been fucked up by the last decade of my life but i believe it can get better. what happened to you that you wish they could have saved you from? a single incident?

 

[unbelievablydead]

Almost same case here, although for me there was a teacher that noticed and did something about it. However after I had been separated from my family and that I had been placed into CPS, I thought that I could count on his support since I had basically lost my family and even some of my "friends".

I'll just say that he dropped me like a hot potato once he saw how high maintenance I would be. Avoided me like the plague. And damn that shit hurt. It still gets me fucked up to this day

So please if any of you are in this situation, please try to be careful especially since younger people will be very impressionable

i'm so sorry that happened to you, that is absolutely terrible and def scarring. that is def the other side of things- reaching out and providing support bc you actually care, not just when it's easy.

kinda feel that way about my therapist. they cared until they just didn't lmao. although i was much older, it still leaves a mark for sure.

 

[jazzcat621]

This describes my sophomore year perfectly. Everyone around me just wanted to punish me for not being able to keep up, rather than giving me the help I desperately needed. I'd have finished my engineering degree rather than ended up disabled.

 

[unbelievablydead]

yeah that was a similar story to mine. I did have one or two teachers who made themselves available for me to talk to. my brain has definitely been fucked up by the last decade of my life but i believe it can get better. what happened to you that you wish they could have saved you from? a single incident?

that's nice that you could at least talk to them, but having someone else be the initiator and take that extra step in helping is different. i'm glad you have that hope and feel that things can get better. i'm truly wishing you the best of luck in your recovery! for me personally, i don't think that's possible- i just think i'm too traumatized and i just want peace. sorta a single incident, but i feel that if someone would've stepped in that much earlier, i would just be in a completely different place and what happened would've probs been avoided.

This describes my sophomore year perfectly. Everyone around me just wanted to punish me for not being able to keep up, rather than giving me the help I desperately needed. I'd have finished my engineering degree rather than ended up disabled.

i am so sorry. i understand. although i can't relate on the disability part, i feel the trauma i endured could've been avoided and i would've gone so much farther in life, too. you were a kid, and you should've been given care and support rather than made to feel guilty for something you couldn't even control.

 

[vitbar]

Kind of similar for me, but I hid the magnitude of my issues too well.