If prostitution was legal in your area, would you skip the whole dating thing and just resort to a weekly fun time?

[Weebster]

I would.

 

[CannotAnymore]

Sex is one thing. Intimacy is another.

 

[Weebster]

Sex is one thing. Intimacy is another.

It's better to have one than neither

 

[CannotAnymore]

It's better to have one than neither

This is true but there is more to a relationship than sex. I have alot less sex now that I am with my life partner than I did single or 'dating' but there is a trade off...

 

[Nolan96]

I'm gay, and (at the risk of being accused of stereotyping or whatever) I've generally noticed that urban gay men have pretty consistent access to sex any time they want unless they're exceptionally unattractive due to the generally high sex drives of gay men and the availability of apps like grindr. The knowledge that I almost certainly could have copious sex without much hassle (even though I don't consider myself too attractive) has always made it seem all the much less appealing to me than if I were straight and it were some kind of challenging-to-obtain status symbol.

 

[Weebster]

I'm gay, and (at the risk of being accused of stereotyping or whatever) I've generally noticed that urban gay men have pretty consistent access to sex any time they want unless they're exceptionally unattractive due to the generally high sex drives of gay men and the availability of apps like grindr. The knowledge that I almost certainly could have copious sex without much hassle (even though I don't consider myself too attractive) has always made it seem all the much less appealing to me than if I were straight and it were some kind of challenging-to-obtain status symbol.

I don't care about status. I just like the idea of seeing a new woman every week.

 

[Ethereal Knight]

I don't care about status. I just like the idea of seeing a new woman every week.

do you watch pornography? if yes, then at what age did you start watching it? I think that starting to watch porn when you're young and your brain is still developing can unfortunately cause a lot of problems in life, hypersexuality being just one of them.

but now answering your initial question, yes, I would.
having sex is better than not having it, as sex is extremely healthy and can improve your overall quality of life.

although I would change the question from "if it was legal" to "if you had enough money to afford it", because it's money that keeps me from going out with prostitutes. and the fact that I feel weird paying for something like that, which is something that I feel like should be spontaneous...

 

[Grey-zoner]

I'm gay, and (at the risk of being accused of stereotyping or whatever) I've generally noticed that urban gay men have pretty consistent access to sex any time they want unless they're exceptionally unattractive due to the generally high sex drives of gay men and the availability of apps like grindr. The knowledge that I almost certainly could have copious sex without much hassle (even though I don't consider myself too attractive) has always made it seem all the much less appealing to me than if I were straight and it were some kind of challenging-to-obtain status symbol.

Yeah, I've always wondered about that. Unfortunately I don't have any interest in guys, I like women too much, which is why the droughts last so long, unless I go the path Weebster is asking about.

 

[Ethereal Knight]

Sex is one thing. Intimacy is another.

you probably mean emotional intimacy. because sex involves touching and kissing, it's very intimate.

Yeah, I've always wondered about that. Unfortunately I don't have any interest in guys, I like women too much, which is why the droughts last so long, unless I go the path Weebster is asking about.

I feel you, bro. 'cause it's the same for me, and I have thought about that too.
it's too bad. I've been years without sex. but complaining won't help. I just gotta be honest and say that this is one of the reasons I'll CTB. it's not the main reason, but it's one of them nevertheless.

 

[Someone123]

This would get old really fast. You would naturally want to start to share meals, movies, waking up together, talking, walks, etc with one special lady. You might think you would be happy having sex with a new lady each week but you wouldn't be happy with this for long- people need caring, people need someone who is there for them, someone to talk to, to share jokes with- it wouldn't be long before you would want a relationship with one special lady.

 

[LongtimeLoser]

Prostitution, I have no desire at all. Escorts, maybe I'd try it once if the timing were right.

If anything, I'd more likely be the one to become a male escort. There's a LOT of money to be made, like with onlyfans. You get to choose the handful of people you're intimate with, and if you're an 8, 9, or 10, like me, you'd probably have a good 20 years to build a nest egg.

I prefer to be the one earning the money and choosing who to fuck. Both of those are extremely important to me.

I would.

May I ask why you ask so many questions about sex? Are you simply looking for tips? Do you think you're ugly? Do you think you're too picky? Are you a sex addict? A sex addict wannabe, hahaha!? Etc.

It's better to have one than neither

Agreed, and I'd choose intimacy any day of the week. And I honestly don't believe that's because I'm cute, have no problem with getting a piece of ass, or any other similar insincere comment. It's simply who I am as a person.

 

[GentleJerk]

Ew. Personally, hell no. If have no healthy, loving relationship in my life- and I need an empty, shameful release, I can watch porn. Way less filthy option of getting some selfish gratification, without giving all my money to a pimp or possibly feeding someones drug habit and destructive way of life.

 

[Slimetae]

No Porn is free

 

[Weebster]

Prostitution, I have no desire at all. Escorts, maybe I'd try it once if the timing were right.

If anything, I'd more likely be the one to become a male escort. There's a LOT of money to be made, like with onlyfans. You get to choose the handful of people you're intimate with, and if you're an 8, 9, or 10, like me, you'd probably have a good 20 years to build a nest egg.

I prefer to be the one earning the money and choosing who to fuck. Both of those are extremely important to me.

May I ask why you ask so many questions about sex? Are you simply looking for tips? Do you think you're ugly? Do you think you're too picky? Are you a sex addict? A sex addict wannabe, hahaha!? Etc.

Agreed, and I'd choose intimacy any day of the week. And I honestly don't believe that's because I'm cute, have no problem with getting a piece of ass, or any other similar insincere comment. It's simply who I am as a person.

Escorts are prostitutes. Did you think I meant some street walker with a needle hanging out of her arm?

No Porn is free

Porn is enough for you? Weird

 

[Slimetae]

Escorts are prostitutes. Did you think I meant some street walker with a needle hanging out of her arm?

Porn is enough for you? Weird

I'm saying I would watch itbefore I pay for escorts nothing against you tho do you man

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Maybe once just to get it over with but ultimately I don't think it would work out or be worth it at all for me because I'm sure that I'm so awful they'd force me to pay quadruple the rates just to be near someone as ugly as me and even if they didn't, it would still be too much money that I don't have because I'd probably finish in like two seconds.

 

[TheBroken]

If I could go back in time I'd tell my younger self to rent not buy. But rent the best and use precautions because STDs can be .... very not good.

 

[Weebster]

If I could go back in time I'd tell my younger self to rent not buy. But rent the best and use precautions because STDs can be .... very not good.

Herpes and hpv would probably result after seeing an escort. But it's the price of admission.

 

[TheBroken]

Herpes and hpv would probably result after seeing an escort. But it's the price of admission.

HPV eventually yes and Herpes if partner is having an outbreak and/or not being safe. Interesting that the percentage of 12-18 year olds that already have HPV is high and will probably be approaching adult contagion perecentage levels in the next 5-10 years. It's a hyper-sexualized world these days. I'd still rent .....

 

[Dead Ghost]

I've never had sex and honestly, nowadays I'd rather have someone love me than offer me sex. And porn is appealing but it's boring.
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Jo no n'he tingut pas mai de sexe i sincerament, a dia d'avuí prefereixo mil vegades que algú m'estimi que no pas que m'ofereixin sexe.
I el porno atreu però és avorrit.

 

[TheBroken]

I've never had sex and honestly, nowadays I'd rather have someone love me than offer me sex. And porn is appealing but it's boring.
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Jo no n'he tingut pas mai de sexe i sincerament, a dia d'avuí prefereixo mil vegades que algú m'estimi que no pas que m'ofereixin sexe.
I el porno atreu però és avorrit.

A healthy and accurate perspective - unfortunately, it's often an uphill battle to find a/the person who would/might love genuinely.

 

[CannotAnymore]

you probably mean emotional intimacy. because sex involves touching and kissing, it's very intimate.

I feel you, bro. 'cause it's the same for me, and I have thought about that too.
it's too bad. I've been years without sex. but complaining won't help. I just gotta be honest and say that this is one of the reasons I'll CTB. it's not the main reason, but it's one of them nevertheless.

I've had sex that wasn't 'intimate'.

AS for the frequency of sex in a relationship... It happens (PS I'm the woman in this situation). The truth is that sometimes I am just in an awful emotional state or I feel bad about my body and then other times I am like a porn star... the joys of dating a 'crazy' woman

 

[whatevs]

The idea of having sex with prostitutes has always felt like something threatening, incredibly humiliating and repulsive to me. I mean, it's just a service, a transaction, but for me at least it would be the final nail in the coffin of romance, like admitting that I want women but I have to pay them to pretend to want me.

 

[Banshee]

Prostitution, I have no desire at all. Escorts, maybe I'd try it once if the timing were right.

If anything, I'd more likely be the one to become a male escort. There's a LOT of money to be made, like with onlyfans. You get to choose the handful of people you're intimate with, and if you're an 8, 9, or 10, like me, you'd probably have a good 20 years to build a nest egg.

I prefer to be the one earning the money and choosing who to fuck. Both of those are extremely important to me.

May I ask why you ask so many questions about sex? Are you simply looking for tips? Do you think you're ugly? Do you think you're too picky? Are you a sex addict? A sex addict wannabe, hahaha!? Etc.

Agreed, and I'd choose intimacy any day of the week. And I honestly don't believe that's because I'm cute, have no problem with getting a piece of ass, or any other similar insincere comment. It's simply who I am as a person.

Escorts and prostitutes are basically the same thing and are interchangeable. An "escort" originally was someone you'd pay to escort with you, attend dinner, events, gatherings etc... A "prostitute" is someone you'd pay to have sex with. Nowadays, most escorts will have sex as long as you're paying. Prostitutes are out for money as well, as long as you're paying they'll have sex, attend events, I bet they'd even wash your car if you'd like.

You'll hear people say "a high class escort", don't get confused and think it's anything different. In the end, a $20 prostitute/escort/hooker and a $2000 prostitute/escort/hooker are the exact same thing; just different looks and different prices.

 

[stygal]

I think prostitution is incredible de-humanizing and traumatizing for the ones being forced to do so due to economic circumstances (which is the case in most of the time).

So no, definitely not.

 

[Manaaja]

I would be too embarrassed and shyrus. I would have to wear a ski jump mask and a voice changer and paint my skin to a different color and get a wig. I couldn't go there with my own face.

...Wait, how am I gonna be able to do anything with all those things on?

Did I ever tell all of you about that one idea I had? It was like a psychologist, but instead of being like:

"You walk into a cold office room and sit in an uncomfortable chair. The psychologist asks how it's going. You speak some bullshit for an hour, the psychologist pretends to care while looking bored, you leave."

it would be like:

"You enter a nice, cozy hotel room. The psychologist is waiting there for you, you sit on the bed, she puts her arms around you, keeps you in a comforting hug, and tells you that she is here for you and you only, and you start telling all that is on your heart, and you cry and she comforts you and pets your head and brushes your hair and scratches behind the ear and kisses on the cheeck and tells you that everything is gonna be just okay." Maybe she could pour some tea for you and offer you some sweets too. And maybe you could also do something together like watch a movie or get a nice neck massage.

Like a fusion between a psychologist and a prostitute. Not sexual like a prostitute (more like a mother or sister or best friend or an asexual girlfriend) but at the same time much warmer and human than crying in a cold room while the psychologist sits five meters away you and looks brain dead and bored and bothered and just tells you to continue your story.

Sorry, what was this thread about? I'd like to have someone to cuddle with and make me feel loved and cared about. As an asexual, I wouldn't want the sex part. ...Having your butt massaged or groping someone's butt isn't sex, right? No genitals, just clothes-on touching. And hugging and kissing and petting being told I'm loved and lovely and amazing. <3

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

No way. I don't know how dudes even get it up when it's so forced and mercenary. I wouldn't be turned on if the person isn't into me. Just seems unpleasant all round.

 

[Darkover]

i need to have a connection with someone before having sex with them i just don't feel it without having a connection first

 

[Journeytoletgo]

Ewww no

 

[CTBgenuine]

I used to be a sex worker. It's not really illegal because I could work freely without ramifications (tho I didn't advertise what I did to everyone) and so could everyone else I knew who was a sex worker. I never "Walked the streets" however. I did mainly out-calls and built up a clientèle. I don't think there's anything wrong with sex work or paying for sex, it's very honest and straightforward. Dating/relationships are usually glorified prostitution anyway..