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- Aug 30, 2018
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If only society, people (peers, family, masses, etc.), and mhps (mental health professionals - psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, counselors, etc.) respected and accepted the person's grievances, woes, and not dismiss them. Then that alone, would have allowed more patients to seek help and be more willing to talk about their problems. However, that is oftenly not the case.
A good post by u/CrispyPie02 from reddit.
In my other threads, I have talked about (in detail) how society itself (including the mental health professionals) should treat the suicidal and patients' grievances as actual legitimate issues instead of dismissing them or further persecuting the suicidal and pushing them into a corner by exacerbating their circumstances. Since mhps and society persecute the suicidal and people who are looking for help, this results in the (genuinely) suicidal actively avoiding help and when they otherwise would have been receptive towards recovery, they are driven away by the barbaric practices that goes on in mental health hospitals, including getting a 72 hour hold.
So here are some examples of a scenario (common but not limited to me or any specific case) where someone is struggling and suffering (mentally, psychologically and emotionally). Suppose we'll consider patient, someone who has xyz issues and he/she sees his/her mental health professional (counselor, therapist, social worker, etc.).
Scenario A (Dismissing the patient's problems, guilt & shaming, and re-directing the issues or ignoring the root cause):
MHP: Hey patient, tell me about your issues and what you wish to accomplish in our sessions.
Patient: Yeah, so xyz issues (1, 2, 3) are bothering me, (patient talks for a bit and gives story, vents a bit, etc. then after a bit of time, the MHP talks.)
MHP: So how does that make you feel.
Patient: Upset, angry, depressed and what not. (While being really distraught about whatever the issue or problem may be)
MHP:Do you have any plans, do you feel like hurting someone (ignores the patient's grievances and reasons as well as story that lead up to the current problem)
Patient: (Assuming it's a smart patient who knows about confidentiality and he/she is already worried, defensive), No and no. I don't have any plans nor feel like hurting others.
MHP: Good to hear. Now, what would have done differently in those situations (while ignoring the patient's complaints and issues as well as wanting a solution).
Patient: (Even more cautious than before) I asked you a question.
MHP: Now, here are some other exercises (completely irrelevant to what was being discussed in the first) for stress relief, etc.
..etc.
As you can see, in Scenario A, the Mental Health Professional completely ignores what the patient has to say and even goes as far as to gaslight him/her and even re-directs the conversation, not really addressing the issues and root causes.
Scenario B (Listening to what the patient has to say):
MHP: Hey patient, tell me about your issues and what you wish to accomplish in our sessions.
Patient: Yeah, so xyz issues (1, 2, 3) are bothering me, (patient talks for a bit and gives story, vents a bit, etc. then after a bit of time, the MHP talks.)
MHP: Yeah, that sucks, I wished there were some other things that you could do to improve your situation.
Patient: Can you give me some suggestions and advice on what I can do or a solution in (blah situation)?
MHP: (Gives suggestion) So, usually in these situations I would do a-b-c strategy and just ignore blah person. Don't worry about (shitty person)
Patient: (Feeling validated and heard as well as addressed in his/her issue) Thanks, I'll keep that in mind.
In this scenario, B, things are better as the Mental Health Professional is more open, listening and acknowledging the patient's grievances, issues, and woes, then even going to help the patient out as the patient asks for some advice on improvement. The patient, as a result is happier and more hopeful than before. He/she doesn't feel persecuted or threatened, treated like a kid, criminal, or some animal, etc.
The same thing in the mental health professionals' examples also applies to day to day people, your everyday people. Another example scenario is described below, where person is the one with the issues or problems that he/she is going through and friend or other person is the other party.
Scenario A (A friend/other person trying to assess, diagnose, or look for trouble, instead of just respecting it):
Friend: Hey person, how are you doing?
Person: Not really good... (body language shows)
Friend: What's wrong? You can tell me, I'll listen.
Person: Yeah so blahblah thing happen and yadda yadda (talks a bit)
Friend: Also feigns some interest (though disinterested and just wants to leave the conversation or want it to end)
Person: (Talks more in detail about the problem and issues that bother said person).
Friend: Did you see a counselor, I recommend seeing professional help for this (ignoring the relevant issues or grievances presented by the person).
Friend: Are you suicidal? Do you own any weapons?
Person: (Defensively and with some distrust) No, I don't. Why do you ask?
Friend: Oh I'm just concerned about your behavior and demeanor (while ignoring what the person said about his/her situation and not listening at all).
See in the first scenario, A, the person is not being heard, understood nor acknowledged. In fact, the first if not the second thing the so called 'friend' is already looking for signs and not even considering the issues and problems that the person is presenting to the friend.
Scenario B (A friend/other person lends a ear, respects him/her, and offers advice (when asked)):
Friend: Hey person, how are you doing?
Person: Not really good... (body language shows)
Friend: What's wrong? You can tell me, I'll listen.
Person: Yeah so blahblah thing happen and yadda yadda (talks a bit)
Friend: I'm sorry to hear that. Let me know what I can do to help.
Person: Yeah so I need advice on how to deal with xyz shit.
Friend: (Offers advice after being requested) So you should do blank blah blah when dealing with xyz shit.
So in this scenario, B, the friend is a more supportive, compassionate, and caring person towards his other friend. Instead of gaslighting, dismissing, or patronizing and treating them like children, the friend acknowledges and takes at face value what the person said. Then the friend even goes as far as to offer advice to help the person overcome said issues.
In conclusion, if only society did those things, including the MHPs and everyday people, there would be a lot less stress, bad events and other harmful things going about. The would be helped would be more inclined to seek recovery and help, without the risk and fear of persecution, being locked up, and/or treated poorly by people in power and their peers. Sadly, the world society, the masses, and government are all too selfish to cling onto 'life' that anything that even vaguely hints at CTB or could lead to CTB would be heavily clamped down and persecuted. As a result, many people go underground and/or go into hiding because they aren't trust others around them. So in short, I'd say we need to treat people better and acknowledge their issues instead of being the moral high horse and dismissing them.
A good post by u/CrispyPie02 from reddit.
I hate it, I hate it, I hate it.
I already feel like a piece of shit and a waste of a human being, but being talked down to and treated like some crazy idiot who doesn't know what's good for him pisses me off and makes me feel worse. Whether it be staff in psych wards that use baby talk, adress me like a child, and withhold simple things like sporks or pencils, or therapists that try to fake things in order to get me to say the right phrases and use the right words to make the calls needed to take me away; yet do it in such an insultingly obvious way that I can see. Its all bullshit and makes me sick.
In my other threads, I have talked about (in detail) how society itself (including the mental health professionals) should treat the suicidal and patients' grievances as actual legitimate issues instead of dismissing them or further persecuting the suicidal and pushing them into a corner by exacerbating their circumstances. Since mhps and society persecute the suicidal and people who are looking for help, this results in the (genuinely) suicidal actively avoiding help and when they otherwise would have been receptive towards recovery, they are driven away by the barbaric practices that goes on in mental health hospitals, including getting a 72 hour hold.
So here are some examples of a scenario (common but not limited to me or any specific case) where someone is struggling and suffering (mentally, psychologically and emotionally). Suppose we'll consider patient, someone who has xyz issues and he/she sees his/her mental health professional (counselor, therapist, social worker, etc.).
Scenario A (Dismissing the patient's problems, guilt & shaming, and re-directing the issues or ignoring the root cause):
MHP: Hey patient, tell me about your issues and what you wish to accomplish in our sessions.
Patient: Yeah, so xyz issues (1, 2, 3) are bothering me, (patient talks for a bit and gives story, vents a bit, etc. then after a bit of time, the MHP talks.)
MHP: So how does that make you feel.
Patient: Upset, angry, depressed and what not. (While being really distraught about whatever the issue or problem may be)
MHP:Do you have any plans, do you feel like hurting someone (ignores the patient's grievances and reasons as well as story that lead up to the current problem)
Patient: (Assuming it's a smart patient who knows about confidentiality and he/she is already worried, defensive), No and no. I don't have any plans nor feel like hurting others.
MHP: Good to hear. Now, what would have done differently in those situations (while ignoring the patient's complaints and issues as well as wanting a solution).
Patient: (Even more cautious than before) I asked you a question.
MHP: Now, here are some other exercises (completely irrelevant to what was being discussed in the first) for stress relief, etc.
..etc.
As you can see, in Scenario A, the Mental Health Professional completely ignores what the patient has to say and even goes as far as to gaslight him/her and even re-directs the conversation, not really addressing the issues and root causes.
Scenario B (Listening to what the patient has to say):
MHP: Hey patient, tell me about your issues and what you wish to accomplish in our sessions.
Patient: Yeah, so xyz issues (1, 2, 3) are bothering me, (patient talks for a bit and gives story, vents a bit, etc. then after a bit of time, the MHP talks.)
MHP: Yeah, that sucks, I wished there were some other things that you could do to improve your situation.
Patient: Can you give me some suggestions and advice on what I can do or a solution in (blah situation)?
MHP: (Gives suggestion) So, usually in these situations I would do a-b-c strategy and just ignore blah person. Don't worry about (shitty person)
Patient: (Feeling validated and heard as well as addressed in his/her issue) Thanks, I'll keep that in mind.
In this scenario, B, things are better as the Mental Health Professional is more open, listening and acknowledging the patient's grievances, issues, and woes, then even going to help the patient out as the patient asks for some advice on improvement. The patient, as a result is happier and more hopeful than before. He/she doesn't feel persecuted or threatened, treated like a kid, criminal, or some animal, etc.
The same thing in the mental health professionals' examples also applies to day to day people, your everyday people. Another example scenario is described below, where person is the one with the issues or problems that he/she is going through and friend or other person is the other party.
Scenario A (A friend/other person trying to assess, diagnose, or look for trouble, instead of just respecting it):
Friend: Hey person, how are you doing?
Person: Not really good... (body language shows)
Friend: What's wrong? You can tell me, I'll listen.
Person: Yeah so blahblah thing happen and yadda yadda (talks a bit)
Friend: Also feigns some interest (though disinterested and just wants to leave the conversation or want it to end)
Person: (Talks more in detail about the problem and issues that bother said person).
Friend: Did you see a counselor, I recommend seeing professional help for this (ignoring the relevant issues or grievances presented by the person).
Friend: Are you suicidal? Do you own any weapons?
Person: (Defensively and with some distrust) No, I don't. Why do you ask?
Friend: Oh I'm just concerned about your behavior and demeanor (while ignoring what the person said about his/her situation and not listening at all).
See in the first scenario, A, the person is not being heard, understood nor acknowledged. In fact, the first if not the second thing the so called 'friend' is already looking for signs and not even considering the issues and problems that the person is presenting to the friend.
Scenario B (A friend/other person lends a ear, respects him/her, and offers advice (when asked)):
Friend: Hey person, how are you doing?
Person: Not really good... (body language shows)
Friend: What's wrong? You can tell me, I'll listen.
Person: Yeah so blahblah thing happen and yadda yadda (talks a bit)
Friend: I'm sorry to hear that. Let me know what I can do to help.
Person: Yeah so I need advice on how to deal with xyz shit.
Friend: (Offers advice after being requested) So you should do blank blah blah when dealing with xyz shit.
So in this scenario, B, the friend is a more supportive, compassionate, and caring person towards his other friend. Instead of gaslighting, dismissing, or patronizing and treating them like children, the friend acknowledges and takes at face value what the person said. Then the friend even goes as far as to offer advice to help the person overcome said issues.
In conclusion, if only society did those things, including the MHPs and everyday people, there would be a lot less stress, bad events and other harmful things going about. The would be helped would be more inclined to seek recovery and help, without the risk and fear of persecution, being locked up, and/or treated poorly by people in power and their peers. Sadly, the world society, the masses, and government are all too selfish to cling onto 'life' that anything that even vaguely hints at CTB or could lead to CTB would be heavily clamped down and persecuted. As a result, many people go underground and/or go into hiding because they aren't trust others around them. So in short, I'd say we need to treat people better and acknowledge their issues instead of being the moral high horse and dismissing them.
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