I wish so badly I could be ALONE

[cemeteryismyhome]

A few years ago, I was traveling for work and was in a hotel room. I noticed a rare sense of peace. It was so unusual it got my attention and I wondered what was going on. I realized... I was alone! No cats, no dogs, no spouses, no kids, nobody! Everyone hundreds of miles away. God that was bliss. There is constantly someone around. At work, of course. And I feel like I never truly get to "go home", because there is always someone at home interrupting my thoughts, making a mess for me to clean up, meowing, throwing up on the floor, barking, needing to go out so I can pick up dog poop, nagging me or berating me for everything, starting fights, twisting my words, hating me. One major reason I want OUT. Dammit.

 

[Forever Sleep]

It's kind of ironic I suppose- so many lonely people here thinking they would love a family of their own. I tend to suspect the reality of it would be more as you described. I'm fairly lucky I suppose in that I truly appreciate what I have- being single and alone.

It's hard to know what to suggest... If you do even want suggestions. Can you afford more help at home? Nannies or cleaners? To try and take some of the strain.

My Dad whinges that he was too 'helpful'. That he should have just copied what other men do and just not do certain tasks. I think we sonetimes build a rod for our own backs.

My Grandfather built a shed at the bottom of the garden, he would disappear to. Although, some wives won't have that. Perhaps reasonably- seeing as choosing to bring and raise children here ought to be a shared task.

Could you take up a solitary hobby maybe? Could you agree with your wife that you both get a certain amount of time 'off' in the week- to pursue your own interests?

 

[LastNite]

My dream is to live alone in a one-bedroom house or apartment, away from people I know. I love loneliness and hate it at the same time, but I will not lie, it is very peaceful most of the time.

 

[stardewwindceres]

I live with my mother and my dog and that's it, I spend most of my time just with my dog, my mother is a nightmare so I avoid her as much as I possibly can which is hard to do sometimes. I am almost always almost alone. I consider myself alone even when my dog is with me when she does not need to eat or go outside, because those are also times when I am likely to have to interact with my mother, which is hardly ever a good thing. If it was just me and my dog, then I that would be ok. But I find myself thinking that I wish I was a different kind of person, a person who doesn't like being alone and wants to be around people and be able to have and maintain friendships and relationships and not have these aversions to other people. But I don't think I will ever be that person, even if I really tried I will never be that person.

Anyway, I like the suggestion that Forever Sleep made, having a solitary hobby. Even if it's something that you don't really like that much, you always have that excuse that you have to be alone for whatever it is. Or if they barge their way in, pick something that requires absolute silence.