i want to pay escort for sex, kissing and other foreplay, how do i ask?

[snowman626]

im confused at how do you ask the escort for sex since its illegal? ive asked this so many times yet no clear response. when the escort says "what do you want to do?" do i just say straight up "i want to have sex with you" or is there some code word? I dont understand how to ask for what i want since they advertise "we do not provide any sexual services" but of course thats for legal purposes we all know they do provide it, but can we bring it up and ask?

 

[ninthhokage]

You would ask for their rates.

 

[kkatt]

Are you using an established site like Adultwork.com?
I can only speak for the situation in the UK. You pay the escort for her time. Anything that occurs within that time is between 2 consenting adults and not illegal. So,yes,you just ask her. Be as precise as possible,then you won't be disappointed when you meet up. She may have certain activities that she doesn't offer and she can be prepared so you get the kind of experience you really want.

 

[snowman626]

Are you using an established site like Adultwork.com?
I can only speak for the situation in the UK. You pay the escort for her time. Anything that occurs within that time is between 2 consenting adults and not illegal. So,yes,you just ask her. Be as precise as possible,then you won't be disappointed when you meet up. She may have certain activities that she doesn't offer and she can be prepared so you get the kind of experience you really want.

i'll be going into an escort "body rub" type of place, i wont be able to ask the girl till im there.
so it will be acceptable if i just say "can we have sex?" or "can i suck on your breasts?" or "can i kiss your bum?" or "can i kiss you on the lips"

 

[kkatt]

The site lets you mail the escort personally whilst also keeping a traceable record of your contact (yes,escorts can call the oloice if endangered).
Just get chatting and obviously she will want to discuss what you require. Don't keep on about it though. Once you have your answer,don't mess her about with indecision. There are some guys that just mail to get free dirty talk or waste time.
Being honest,but not ridiculous,is expected. She is not likely to have hang-ups talking about sex. The only "creepy" thing is the situation i explained above.

 

[Wayfaerer]

If they ask that question, do not reply to it. If they are so direct, it's very likely a sting. You have to ask them for their "time." I suggest doing your homework on this one before diving in as it has its risks.

 

[Sweet emotion]

I just wouldn't do it. First off who the hell knows where they have been and what kind if diseases they're carrying?

 

[Soulless_Angel]

it's one heck of a risk as @Sweet emotion says, BUT who's not to say go pick up a girl from a club and you get some awful STI!

 

[LonelyLight]

Dont kiss an escort. Use a Johnny.

 

[Final Escape]

Look for escort sites and sign up where they advertise. No it doesn't mean we are all carrying diseases just bc we are in sex work. It depends on the demographics of the people u see that also increase risk. Like when u can choose the guy it's less risky and there's reviews. If you're a drugged out escort it might increase your risk of std bc u then have impaired judgement when selecting clients and screening. There's ways to reduce risk. I guess being a nurse or working in healthcare being around sick people regularly actually puts u at higher risk of contracting hiv and other blood borne illnesses than sex workers.

 

[Sweet emotion]

it's one heck of a risk as @Sweet emotion says, BUT who's not to say go pick up a girl from a club and you get some awful STI!

Yeah but these girls do this for a living.

 

[Soulless_Angel]

Yeah but these girls do this for a living.

respect to them for doing so, we are not in a position to judge any one

 

[Final Escape]

I just wouldn't do it. First off who the hell knows where they have been and what kind if diseases they're carrying?

Be greatful u are not in a position that landed u in a situation where u never have to do something like this. Yes it is a hard job. You never know what to expect could go good could be bad, but usually it goes ok once u learn how to avoid the bad ones u can reduce the problems u run into.

 

[Sweet emotion]

Be greatful u are not in a position that landed u in a situation where u never have to do something like this. Yes it is a hard job. You never know what to expect could go good could be bad, but usually it goes ok once u learn how to avoid the bad ones u can reduce the problems u run into.

What look for an escort? Be greatful you're able to have sex. With my nerve condition I'm not able to.

 

[NitriteAnatomy]

OP, if you're talking about a 'massage parlor', typically you'd be offered or ask for a 'happy ending'. Not from personal experience, just got way too much tmi from buddies when I was in the military, so take with a grain of salt as they may have just been spouting bullshit.

 

[Sweet emotion]

respect to them for doing so, we are not in a position to judge any one

I didn't say I didn't respect them. I'm just saying watch our for disease. When you blow and screw guys non stop and are sleeping with people who are sleeping with other people, you can't trust them when they tell you...oh don't worry I'm clean. Do you think they're going to care if they pass on something to someone?

 

[kkatt]

Many sex workers have regular screening and can even provide certificates.
Much safer than hooking up with some random from Grindr or saturday night on the town

 

[Final Escape]

What look for an escort? Be greatful you're able to have sex. With my nerve condition I'm not able to.

I was just saying be glad u don't feel that u have to sell your body to make a living and yes one benefit to sex work is u never go long without sex and sometimes u really hit it off with certain clients and it is really enjoyable when that happens, but usually it's guys that u aren't attracted to. I have one client that the chemistry is really great so when we have sex it never feels like an empty hollow sex act, it's more like making love even if it is just sex it never feels like it lol!

If I was not a sex worker and he wanted to date me I definitely would want to. If I had met him where it didn't start off with sex because it's hard to go back once u went too far with someone. Like for a relationship to develop u really need to court slowly and progress through the stages of building intimacy, trust, sexual tension building up over time as u get to know someone. If u have sex before like 3 months of knowing someone u are at higher risk of heartbreak because u don't know the other person well enough to be that intimate so quickly.