I want to move somewhere far away alone in solitude

[Iwouldratherdie]

Im an adult so I can leave my parents home if I want. the only problem is whenever I don't answer my moms texts for longer than 2 hours she will come to my dads house and knock on the door. She's says she's worried I killed myself but when you see this behavior in action it becomes obvious. It's harassment. mom will threaten to call an ambulance to put me in a mental health facility it makes angry. I'm an adult with a right to leave toxic family if I want. I told her if I were to get a restraining order what would you do. She says she would go to court and say I'm mentally unstable so my parents would have to be my guardian. Which means they would be able to sign for me to the mental facility or not leave the house. Any advice on leaving cancerous family. I'm so tired Of being around my family. Now that I'm an adult I can get out of here. Unfortunately I've had an incident that can be used as evidence that I'm mentally unstable. I'm not mentally unstable though. Anything they say is mentally unstable behavior is my reaction to their abuse. The best thing for me to do right now is to go somewhere I can be safe alone and free. I have a few ideas I know they'll be crushed though. I would be reported missing, the police would find me and my solitude and freedom will vanish. Back to the toxic family. Is there any way around this?

 

[rebelsue]

I'm not sure what your parents describe is actually possible -- they can't make the judge determine you to be unstable and give them power of attorney over you. I think you should probably verify their bullshit with a lawyer. Maybe go to Reddit's legal advice subreddit or something. I got decent advice on there once.

 

[Negrathecat]

I'm in a similar situation and the first thing you should know if you are above the age of 18 then you have all the freedom in the world to leave your home without any obligation to return by police. The only thing they could do is find you to make sure your safe but legally they can't disclose your location to your family. I haven't left yet because I got nowhere to go but if you got a plan then honestly nothing can stop you.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

What country are you in?

 

[PaYo]

I had a similar situation. You have to take they for an intervention and tell them everything you told us. If they want to talk over you. Take a pillow, and make a rule - only the person with a pillow can talk. If someone want answear, raise theyre hand for pillow or gently ask for it.

My mother is still toxic, but now she knows her boundaries.

I will give you what you need, to run away.
ANS PS. Such a behaviour of a mother IS CAUSING A LOOT OF YOUR PROBLEMS. EVERYONE WITH A PROBLEMS (IM NOT SAYING MENTAL) SHOULD DEAL WITH THEM ALONE! THIS IS THE ONLY WAY, TO CREATE A STRONG CHARACTER. AND THE ONLY ONE WAY IT CAN BE DONE.
And one of your problem can be lack of independence. Tell her everything above.


BTW. Take some third person to talk with you mother, maybe father or brother or sister, tell them the situation if they do not know it. They will be your mediator. IT HELPS A LOOT.

 

[Done at Fifty]

If possible, contact a social worker and meet with them outside of the home. Explain your need to be away from your family for your mental health. They can assess you and help you get welfare and a place to stay. If your mother tries to say you need to be in her care, she'll have a hard time proving it if you took the initiative to be on your own. Perhaps, the longer that you live on your own the less likely she can say you require her help.