DepressedAngel

DepressedAngel

Life is exhausting
Dec 4, 2019
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I think I might be bi. All of my friends say I'm the straightest person I know and maybe I am straight, I used to think of myself that way but lately something has been...off? I guess I'm just wondering how you knew you weren't straight for those of you on this site who aren't. I'm trying to figure it out for myself right now, all I know is I've been noticing girls a lot more than normal, although I haven't had a crush on one yet. Probably this is normal, I'm just not sure. Any advice or help or support or whatever would be greatly appreciated!!
 
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charlottewilts

charlottewilts

read Dostoyevsky
Jun 15, 2019
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i've considered myself a lesbian for a very long time but i do rarely find some men attractive. i think that's pretty normal; sexuality is a weird and fluid thing. does the possibility of not being straight cause you distress in any way? do you think you'd be accepted by others in your community if you had a same-sex partner?
 
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TheDevilsAngel

TheDevilsAngel

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Apr 22, 2019
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I consider myself bi I've never been with a woman but I know I would like too.... I find certain woman attractive but I'm also extremely attracted to men... Maybe some day I'll be free and experience a woman.... If you think sexual about a woman like I do and want to experiment with one I would assume you are bi.... Sending you hugs and love
 
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DepressedAngel

DepressedAngel

Life is exhausting
Dec 4, 2019
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i've considered myself a lesbian for a very long time but i do rarely find some men attractive. i think that's pretty normal; sexuality is a weird and fluid thing. does the possibility of not being straight cause you distress in any way? do you think you'd be accepted by others in your community if you had a same-sex partner?
I think I would be accepted, if doesn't bother me to not be straight, I'd just like to figure it out.
I consider myself bi I've never been with a woman but I know I would like too.... I find certain woman attractive but I'm also extremely attracted to men... Maybe some day I'll be free and experience a woman.... If you think sexual about a woman like I do and want to experiment with one I would assume you are bi.... Sending you hugs and love
thank you! Sending you hugs and love back:heart:
 
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Jean4

Jean4

Remember. I am ALWAYS right.... until I’m not
Apr 28, 2019
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Gay, straight, bisexual. Then we have pan sexual, Ace, and a million more classifications I am too old to remember.

Bottom like. Any love (between consenting adults) is good.

I don't like classifications. How about you love who you love because of who the person is instead of their gender?

By the way. Woody Allan (who is bisexual) was quoted as saying that being bisexual gives you more chances of getting a date.

Always remember. Unless you are dating a person or if they are paying your bills, nobody has the right to tell you what you should do with your life or who you should love.:heart:
 
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DepressedAngel

DepressedAngel

Life is exhausting
Dec 4, 2019
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Gay, straight, bisexual. Then we have pan sexual, Ace, and a million more classifications I am too old to remember.

Bottom like. Any love (between consenting adults) is good.

I don't like classifications. How about you love who you love because of who the person is instead of their gender?

By the way. Woody Allan (who is bisexual) was quoted as saying that being bisexual gives you more chances of getting a date.

Always remember. Unless you are dating a person or if they are paying your bills, nobody has the right to tell you what you should do with your life or who you should love.:heart:
I agree with this! I don't mean to sound like I want to put labels on everyone and love itself, I just know for me it makes me feel better if I can label myself sometimes. Thank you for responding to this post, sending love❤️
 
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Jean4

Jean4

Remember. I am ALWAYS right.... until I’m not
Apr 28, 2019
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I agree with this! I don't mean to sound like I want to put labels on everyone and love itself, I just know for me it makes me feel better if I can label myself sometimes. Thank you for responding to this post, sending love❤
And it's your right. Just like a person can choose to be out and proud or in the closet.

I personally don't like it when the LGBT community puts someone. They are doing exactly what they complain about when it happens to themselves. They decided that a stranger should tell the entire world they are gay. Telling them what to do with their life.
 
DepressedAngel

DepressedAngel

Life is exhausting
Dec 4, 2019
146
And it's your right. Just like a person can choose to be out and proud or in the closet.

I personally don't like it when the LGBT community puts someone. They are doing exactly what they complain about when it happens to themselves. They decided that a stranger should tell the entire world they are gay. Telling them what to do with their life.
I agree, it is very hypocritical.
 
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enjoy

enjoy

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Dec 20, 2019
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hi! i'm queer (though technically bisexual). being unsure of your sexuality is tough. it took me many years to figure out who i was, and even now, i'm still not entirely sure. most people's sexual orientations are fluid. there are many scientists out there who have researched sexuality, and handfuls have claimed in times past that almost no one is completely straight. sure, some people know for a fact that they're going to marry a man, woman or whatever else, but the majority of humanity can acknowledge when someone of the same sex is attractive. after all, we've all got eyes!

if you want to go by a temporary label to make you feel a little bit better, bicurious certainly does fit your situation. i'm not sure how old you are, but if you're on the younger side and go to college, you'll probably meet plenty of girls who are also "experimenting" to see what and who they like. if you're past your college years, go to a gay bar and hook up with someone. and no matter what age you are... there's always tinder, bumble or whatever other dating app strikes your fancy. you're not the only one on this planet who thinks they could be bisexual, so don't worry about feeling alone!

you will figure this out eventually. as for how i knew i wasn't straight... well, i had a crush on my first grade teacher many, many years ago. of course i didn't know that girls could kiss girls and what terminology could be used to describe how i was feeling, so i didn't think about again for a long while. once i hit puberty in middle school, though, i started getting little crushes on some girls (and a few guys, too!) and after some research, i found out that being queer/bisexuality existed. i dated a few girls shortly after that and then, in high school, i had my first long-term girlfriend. i also had some boyfriends before that, but they were pretty mediocre in comparison. i haven't dated a guy since i was 15 though, so... maybe it was just immaturity. :wink:

i would give the advice of "if you know, you know" but i feel like it doesn't always work like that. some people feel like they might be gay or bisexual only to find out that they're actually straight after experimenting a bit. for me, "if you know, you know" was how i figured out my sexuality, but that's only because i remembered how young i was when i first questioned it. i literally feel like i came out of the womb predestined to be queer. other people are different, though. some people don't know that they're part of the lgbt+ community until they're middle-aged or even older than that.

imho, experimenting is the best way for you personally to go about this. obviously don't be reckless, but do have fun! even if you find out you're straight in the end, at least you'll be a lot less confused than you are now. but, if you do find out that you're bi, welcome to the community!
 
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zherhk

zherhk

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Nov 25, 2019
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I've read about it and from some studies a woman could be attracted to other women without being exclusively 'lesbian'.
There was a particular study which measured arousal in genitals to both male and female while watching porn scenes.
It came up that every woman got aroused by watching just other women.
I think women are more likely to be really bisexual as it is a natural thing resulting from a more spontaneous sexuality.
 
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Carina

Carina

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Dec 22, 2019
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See, I kind of view it as they're just labels. Granted (and this is the first time I've ever said openingly here), I'm bi / pan. When I was younger bi meant 'two male/female' so I started using pan, then people started saying pan was a bad term because it meant all like other genders weren't valid ....

And I was just like, look I like people, can love people, sleep with people, based on who they are. I can be attracted to someone I never met, it has nothing to do with anything other than their personality. Yeah, other things help a bit, but that is literally the big thing for me. So, when I was a woman, attracted to women, I just went with it. When I had a man pass me one day and my first thought was.... well things I can't post here. I was like 'ok, I'm bi' wasn't until many years later until I would've been considered 'officially' so to some, but I still was.

Some of my friends for years knew (they were bi though, I lied, didn't want to out myself), all the others thought I was straight as could be. Which was ironic considering I practically didn't even give hints at it.

Something I learned though, very few people are like 100% straight/gay, most are somewhere in the middle, just enjoy, experiment if you want, be yourself. People really don't really care as a whole anymore these days.
 
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Finis Autem Spero

Finis Autem Spero

Dec 30, 2019
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If you think you might be attracted to other women, find a cute woman who would be up for it and have some fun. If you enjoy it, congratulations you like women. If not, congratulations you don't.

Like others have said, the only real way to know is to try.

Personally, I stopped caring about what it made me and just figured I'd be with whoever I connected with enough. It's been like 95% women since as far as I have seen in person, most men are bullshit. That said, sometimes they're just really fucking pretty and I just want to feel them. In particular, Henry Cavill in the new Witcher series. I don't know how anyone could not want to take a bite out of him :pfff:

@zherhk This is something I've wondered about a lot recently. My two main theories are that it's easier for women to be emotionally intimate with each other or it's down to the general fetishisation of women's bodies in media (Someone tells you to be attracted to something so many times over a lifetime, it's gonna have an effect, similar to how advertising works. Maybe a bit of both.
 
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zherhk

zherhk

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Nov 25, 2019
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@Finis Autem Spero
I vote for your first theory, if we just think about how since childhood young girls are connected and share things together. Going to the restroom together or 'trying' the first kiss etc, it is something that with males never happened, and if it does, categorically goes into not straight area.
I believe this innate intimacy belongs to the ages which female connection, collaboration and their social circle was critical to be safer and survive.
 
Lucifer'sRight

Lucifer'sRight

Experienced
Feb 4, 2020
256
I think I might be bi. All of my friends say I'm the straightest person I know and maybe I am straight, I used to think of myself that way but lately something has been...off? I guess I'm just wondering how you knew you weren't straight for those of you on this site who aren't. I'm trying to figure it out for myself right now, all I know is I've been noticing girls a lot more than normal, although I haven't had a crush on one yet. Probably this is normal, I'm just not sure. Any advice or help or support or whatever would be greatly appreciated!!
Watch some lesbian movies like "kyss mig" "blue is the warmest colour" see how that makes you feel
 
Zer0

Zer0

Nem sempre se pode ser Deus
Sep 14, 2018
127
I'm going through someting similar ( but i'm a guy ). In the last 1 or 2 years i feel some level of atraction to other guys, in real life is not that commom but it happens sometimes. I think it is a bit weird because i'm romanticaly atracted to girls, that is absolute, but i'm only sexually atracted to guys. I've never had a gay experience but maybe if the opportunity appears i'm will be willing to try.
 
BeeLoyal

BeeLoyal

Is Existence Just A Test?
Apr 27, 2020
105
I think I might be bi. All of my friends say I'm the straightest person I know and maybe I am straight, I used to think of myself that way but lately something has been...off? I guess I'm just wondering how you knew you weren't straight for those of you on this site who aren't. I'm trying to figure it out for myself right now, all I know is I've been noticing girls a lot more than normal, although I haven't had a crush on one yet. Probably this is normal, I'm just not sure. Any advice or help or support or whatever would be greatly appreciated!!
Hey thats is totally fine, accept your feelings, if you don't you will carry around a burden. You do you girl :)
 
mathieu

mathieu

Enlightened
Jun 5, 2019
1,090
I'm a gay male but I still have noticed girls from time to time. Even had crushes but I wouldn't go through with it, I don't think. Point I'm making is I think everyone experiences an occasional flicker of attraction to the same sex and opposite sex. No one is perfect so I doubt most people are 100% perfectly straight or gay. Sexuality is more fluid than people like to accept, IMO.

As for how I knew I wasn't straight, when I was 13 I started to notice other boys and have sexual fantasies about them. I was attracted to girls and had sexual thoughts of them too but the gay part of me took over.
 
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madbananas

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Apr 29, 2020
620
I'm bi! :hug:
considered myself straight until I was in my mid teens and had a random crush on a female. Was very confusing at the time but now I'm cool with it.
 
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Cloudy

Member
Jun 12, 2019
59
Gosh, I hate it when people comment on how straight you are when you're in the middle of a possible revelation about your sexuality being not that straight after all *hugs*
I identify as queer, I am non binary AFAB (assigned female at birth) and I had mostly boyfriends until I was 28, when I started dating women and non binary people (I'm 33 now). I've always known I wasn't straight, but it took me a long time to accept it. I had crushes on girlfriends when I was a teenager and I even hooked up with a few of them while drunk/high without questioning my sexuality. When I fully accepted it and initially decided to start dating only women for some time, I was terrified because I felt really inexperienced and I worried women would not want to date me because of that. I was also very concerned about being rubbish at sex with people with vulvas because I had never experienced it sober. I remember reading books about it to calm myself down ahahah (the absolute best one is Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon).
My advice would be to download OkCupid if you are in the UK or US or Wapa if you are in Italy, Spain and other "latin" countries and chat with women you find attractive. Be open about the fact that you might be bicurious, not everyone wants to be someone else's sexual playground, but there are plenty of kind and lovely people who will be happy to get to know you. Feel free to pm me or reply here if you have any doubts/questions that I might be able to answer
 
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DepressedAngel

DepressedAngel

Life is exhausting
Dec 4, 2019
146
Hey guys I just thought I would update you! I openly identify as bi now and am currently dating one of my best friends (who is a girl). I feel so much better now that I've realized I'm allowed to be bi, and yeah. Just thought I'd let you know in case anyone is wondering :)
 
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