western_heart
trying to save ourself
- May 23, 2021
- 630
I seriously thought the worst of my suicidality was in the past. My partner assured me that she would get a job & I don't have to work. I realized that my trauma doesn't have to consume me. I did a bunch of ketamine and no longer feel so easily triggered by things. A few days ago I started with a new trauma informed therapist. I feel hopeful about the treatment (still do) and got rid of my SN.
But, I hate day to day living and want to CTB. It's like I forgot some of the reasons that I wanted to die in this first place. I feel trapped in my apartment, it's so dirty and cluttered and cleaning seems insurmountable. I want to have less stuff but my partner keeps buying more things and getting more gifts and won't let me do things like throw away expired food. She's not apologizing for making purchases, she didn't comfort me last night when I got upset over the mess.
Now that I got rid of the SN and started to feel a little less depressed, she expects me to be able to help 100% around the house even though I'm not stable. I cannot handle stress well right now. I'm in a very fragile recovery and now I'm broken again.
She invited friends over for later today and is using that as motivation to clean, but it's making me panic. When I tried helping out with the apartment last night, I found so many little annoyances and I got overwhelmed. I couldn't sleep thinking about it. She recognized that hanging out with friends isn't worth the pain I'm in & almost canceled the plans last night before bed but convinced me everything would be ok. But now it's today and I'm not okay. I was up past 12 am and woke up around 6:30, unable to fall back asleep. That's not enough rest for me.
My partner thinks our apartment will be better if we get some shelves from Ikea so she has more places to put her things, but she can't afford to buy them (I told her we should wait until she gets her tax refund first, which she refuses to file even though my mom is willing to do it for her). I don't think shelves will solve much but considering my money will be no good to me if I'm dead, I guess I should just buy the damn shelves with my limited savings. And figure out how we'll get them here; I don't have a car and don't know when I'll get one, so I'll have to ask family for help.
When I was acutely suicidal & getting severe flashbacks every few days, I was too disassociated to care about the mess I live in. My partner was taking care of me the best she could, making sure I was at least fed. We haven't been keeping up with dishes and now we have started using plastic silverware in addition to paper plates and bowls. And yet we still bought food that requires more cooking, instead of prepared foods!
This life isn't one I want to live. My partner convinced me not to CTB, but I don't think we can ever live together without stress. So now I'm stuck here without a method, living with someone who is pushing me too hard, knowing that I will be miserable and I will never live in a comfortable home even if both of us were functioning at 100%.
Now I'm back to where I was a month ago, wondering if I should order SN. Instead of impulsively buying like I did 2 weeks ago, I'll follow my three day rule. If I still feel the same on Wednesday, I'll buy it again.
But, I hate day to day living and want to CTB. It's like I forgot some of the reasons that I wanted to die in this first place. I feel trapped in my apartment, it's so dirty and cluttered and cleaning seems insurmountable. I want to have less stuff but my partner keeps buying more things and getting more gifts and won't let me do things like throw away expired food. She's not apologizing for making purchases, she didn't comfort me last night when I got upset over the mess.
Now that I got rid of the SN and started to feel a little less depressed, she expects me to be able to help 100% around the house even though I'm not stable. I cannot handle stress well right now. I'm in a very fragile recovery and now I'm broken again.
She invited friends over for later today and is using that as motivation to clean, but it's making me panic. When I tried helping out with the apartment last night, I found so many little annoyances and I got overwhelmed. I couldn't sleep thinking about it. She recognized that hanging out with friends isn't worth the pain I'm in & almost canceled the plans last night before bed but convinced me everything would be ok. But now it's today and I'm not okay. I was up past 12 am and woke up around 6:30, unable to fall back asleep. That's not enough rest for me.
My partner thinks our apartment will be better if we get some shelves from Ikea so she has more places to put her things, but she can't afford to buy them (I told her we should wait until she gets her tax refund first, which she refuses to file even though my mom is willing to do it for her). I don't think shelves will solve much but considering my money will be no good to me if I'm dead, I guess I should just buy the damn shelves with my limited savings. And figure out how we'll get them here; I don't have a car and don't know when I'll get one, so I'll have to ask family for help.
When I was acutely suicidal & getting severe flashbacks every few days, I was too disassociated to care about the mess I live in. My partner was taking care of me the best she could, making sure I was at least fed. We haven't been keeping up with dishes and now we have started using plastic silverware in addition to paper plates and bowls. And yet we still bought food that requires more cooking, instead of prepared foods!
This life isn't one I want to live. My partner convinced me not to CTB, but I don't think we can ever live together without stress. So now I'm stuck here without a method, living with someone who is pushing me too hard, knowing that I will be miserable and I will never live in a comfortable home even if both of us were functioning at 100%.
Now I'm back to where I was a month ago, wondering if I should order SN. Instead of impulsively buying like I did 2 weeks ago, I'll follow my three day rule. If I still feel the same on Wednesday, I'll buy it again.