I miss my best friend

[Randomgirl009]

It's been a while since my last post. I don't expect a reply, I just want to shout my words and hope it'll make me feel better.

I miss my best friend. I feel I could talk to him about anything. I loved his sense of humour and who he was as a person, he always made me laugh and taught me new things. I don't think he even knew He was my best friend. I respected the changes he made for me, but unfortunately we had a falling out and I'll never be able to get back into contact with him.

He hates me so much it'll never happen. His aunt died a few months ago and I considered getting in contact.

I feel like he'd be able to make me feel better about things now. You know those friends you have that you can tell anything? He was that friend.

Maybe one day when he forgives me we can be friends again. Have you ever reached out to an old friend? Did they care or did they tell you to kick it. I'm worried he'll think I want something or I have bad intentions.

 

[GoBack]

Maybe it's worth a try. If I could I would , have lost good friends by not reaching out.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

I too miss my best friend from my childhood along with other friends from back then but especially my best friend we had so many fun experiences and adventures together we were best friends since daycare where we met but we grew apart around the time I was 11

I miss him so much and think about him and my childhood every day about all the fun and happiness I had back then.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

It sounds like he brought a lot of value to you and you miss it. It sucks to lose something like that. The worst breakup I ever experienced was that the guy took with him my favorite thing: him.

If you reached out, wouldn't it in fact be because you do want something, that is, the benefits you received from his friendship and, specifically, making you feel better?

If you were in your position, I would ask myself:

What benefits did I bring to him? Did he demonstrate that he valued them?

Was there a balance in the friendship such that we received equal value from one another, maybe not always at the same time, or the exact same benefits, but in general?

This is a tough one: Was he right to protect himself by ending the friendship? If yes, can I learn from my mistakes and move forward with knowledge that will help me to have better relationships in the future with other people?

This is potentially another tough one: Did I take more than I gave in return? Did he take more than he gave in return? If there was imbalance on either side, what can I learn from this to apply to other relationships, now and in the future, so that they are more balanced?

It takes great strength to be able to evaluate one's own self, and to grow from it rather than attack oneself or crumble. It may be helpful if you do such a self-analysis to get input from others whose opinions you respect, and who will be able to tell it to you straight with compassion rather than condemnation. We all make mistakes, we all have things we're not aware of until we're aware of them, and there's not a single perfect person who doesn't need opportunities and support to grow.

 

[K-O]

i miss my bestie my soul mate so much it hurts to breath.. hes gone.. i talk to him (to my self) all the time.
contact your bestie! worse case hell give u the boot like i do when friends show up at mine cause i just blocked everyone out.. cant handle loved ones anymore..
do it, don't pass out on love
x

 

[AcornUnderground]

Unless you had some sort of romantic or sexual relationship that may disrupt a current relationship he may have, what is the harm in contact? He makes the decision to reconnect or not, you are simply giving the invitation and letting him know how much he meant to you and how much you miss him.

I'm just not a fan of disrupting relationships if it is a case where they have "moved on" from something, and bringing a closed chapter back that would upset their current partner.

 

[Remember to forget]

Everything is worth a try but be prepaired for rejection, if you are not mentally up for that then I would wait until you are, don't look to your fiend to make you feel better because the outcome could make you feel a hell of a lot worse. If you feel you couldn't feel much worse then maybe,. it's hard to advice but do what you feel you can handle.
I have reached out to an old friend before but she wasn't interested, I was in a good place so shrugged it off but at least I know I tried.