maru.
Experienced
- Apr 6, 2020
- 226
I don't know about you guys, but even though i'm here, even though i'm sure i'll ctb, i feel like my mindset is still kind of stuck in a "normal person" mindset, you know?
Like, when i decide to ctb, i would love to be treated the way i see most people here being.
Having their decision respected, and mostly just messages of love and care, that's what i would want, it seems like it's gonna to give me one last good feeling before leaving.
Goodbye threads are some of the most beautiful and heart warming things i've ever read, just so much love and care, i've never seen anything like it.
Still, when it comes to other people here, i can't bring myself to treat anyone like that, i'm always kind of a "pro-lifer" i guess, i feel like if i don't try to convince the person to change their mind, if i say the things i'd like to hear if i were in their place (you know, things like "hope you feel peace", "have a safe trip", etc), i'd feel like an "accomplice" almost, like, like i have blood in my hands, because i didn't try to stop it, because i had the "audacity" to respect their decision.
I can't bring myself to post anything in goodbye threads, not even messages to try and comfort the person doing it, nothing, i feel guilty, like i'm doing something wrong.
I'm such a fucking hypocrite, i want to be left alone and respected when i ctb, but when i see other people, i wish there was another way, that everyone here could stay alive and be happy, but i know that's not really a possibility unfortunately.
I'm pro-choice when it comes to my decision, but i'm 100% pro-life when it comes to others, it's a stupid double standard, but i can't help it, and i feel horrible, like i can't respect a fellow member's decision even though i wish they'd respect mine if the roles were switched, i must be annoying to talk to in pms i guess, always pushing ideas that i don't apply for myself or my own life, i don't know.
Anyone else ever struggled with this?
Like, when i decide to ctb, i would love to be treated the way i see most people here being.
Having their decision respected, and mostly just messages of love and care, that's what i would want, it seems like it's gonna to give me one last good feeling before leaving.
Goodbye threads are some of the most beautiful and heart warming things i've ever read, just so much love and care, i've never seen anything like it.
Still, when it comes to other people here, i can't bring myself to treat anyone like that, i'm always kind of a "pro-lifer" i guess, i feel like if i don't try to convince the person to change their mind, if i say the things i'd like to hear if i were in their place (you know, things like "hope you feel peace", "have a safe trip", etc), i'd feel like an "accomplice" almost, like, like i have blood in my hands, because i didn't try to stop it, because i had the "audacity" to respect their decision.
I can't bring myself to post anything in goodbye threads, not even messages to try and comfort the person doing it, nothing, i feel guilty, like i'm doing something wrong.
I'm such a fucking hypocrite, i want to be left alone and respected when i ctb, but when i see other people, i wish there was another way, that everyone here could stay alive and be happy, but i know that's not really a possibility unfortunately.
I'm pro-choice when it comes to my decision, but i'm 100% pro-life when it comes to others, it's a stupid double standard, but i can't help it, and i feel horrible, like i can't respect a fellow member's decision even though i wish they'd respect mine if the roles were switched, i must be annoying to talk to in pms i guess, always pushing ideas that i don't apply for myself or my own life, i don't know.
Anyone else ever struggled with this?