Venting I just found p0rn of my sister on my husband's computer

[Reimustein]

I am so betrayed. Tomorrow makes it two weeks since we been married. I gave him my virginity, he was my one and only.
I am so ready to CTB right now. I feel so crushed, I feel like I have been cheated on. I sent him and her both nasty messages and I deleted everything.

My self-esteem was low already, now there is nothing, and will be nothing.
Right now I hate my sister, I hate my husband, but most of all. I hate myself. I will never be good enough, and there is nothing he will say or do that will be meaningful to me.

 

[Justnotme]

I am so betrayed. Tomorrow makes it two weeks since we been married. I gave him my virginity, he was my one and only.
I am so ready to CTB right now. I feel so crushed, I feel like I have been cheated on. I sent him and her both nasty messages and I deleted everything.

My self-esteem was low already, now there is nothing, and will be nothing.
Right now I hate my sister, I hate my husband, but most of all. I hate myself. I will never be good enough, and there is nothing he will say or do that will be meaningful to me.

Damn.... This is a huge pain in your heart, I'm sorry...
I'm not a supporter of life, but I want to say..
It's very painful for you now, but there is a possibility that over time it will become much easier for you if you throw these people out of your life and stop contacting them
Then the pain will subside and you will have a chance to meet a person who will not betray you

 

[NumbItAll]

That is a terrible betrayal, I'm sorry. I have no idea how people could succumb to that behavior. I hope they feel horrible about what they've done to you.

 

[Smelly_ballz]

To me that is cheating. I can't believe someone could do that. I am so sorry for what they did. They are cruel for doing that.
Was the images/videos/whatever on his computer consensual? Like, did your sister send him those things or did he find them himself? Either way he is fucking evil.

 

[littlelungs]

Just the title of this thread elicited an audible "oh, NO" from me. I can only imagine how heartbroken and betrayed you must feel. Either way that's an awful thing to discover, but to find that after only being married for 2 weeks, too... I would be devastated. I'm so incredibly sorry you're dealing with this. I feel for you so hard.

 

[Worndown]

Well, that is a terrible thing to find.
It will be difficult to find a good explanation.
You need a little time to process this. I suggest talking to someone. If not a professional, vent here. There are many here that experienced betrayal and more.
We can be your "group" if needed.
Stay alive for now.

 

[Reimustein]

To me that is cheating. I can't believe someone could do that. I am so sorry for what they did. They are cruel for doing that.
Was the images/videos/whatever on his computer consensual? Like, did your sister send him those things or did he find them himself? Either way he is fucking evil.

She has an OF and he bought it. A lot of it. I ended up deleting the messages I sent my sister before she got to read them. I though she sent them but then I saw the watermark. But I am still mad at her

 

[Smelly_ballz]

She has an OF and he bought it. A lot of it. I ended up deleting the messages I sent my sister before she got to read them. I though she sent them but then I saw the watermark. But I am still mad at her

I'm so sorry that your husband, if you even want to call him that anymore, is so cruel.

 

[Ε. Η. R.]

Accept my condolences.

 

[hellispink]

That must be horrible. I have been cheated too. By my ex who was my only boy ever. HOWEVER listen to me, this shall pass . Dont take drastic decisions with an angry hurt head. Reflect in calm. Walk away if he disrespected you in the first few weeks if you were to stay he will make your life a living hell. As for your sister you said she has only fans, which is her job. She is not a fault your ex now husband is a traitor and a disgusting human being. You must understand that he chose to buy the content and see it and masturbate with it, he is grown adult and he decided it because he wanted to, no one forced him. After you understand that proceed to decide your future

 

[Lys_C15H25N3O_d3]

If you haven't thrown matches on gasoline, sweared sent everyone to hell etc, id encourage suggest you to think about being cold blooded and let such pictures/evidence of betrayal/conspiracy "unexpectedly/surprisingly" show up in front of everyone , lets say, a "a family thing or gathering" when no one would be expecting. then you wouldn't be the one "asking for explanations" - sure it sounds dramatic but.. wtf do you think cheaters deserve? to be shunned and humiliated.


It wouldn't be wise for me, to share my personal account of a very similar disgrace that took place. cause it involved an attempt of someone-who-isn't-cide (if ya get) so, it's surreal, but act cold. things won't be the same again, neither will you. be strong,.



It helped me have the wits to, some years later, ask a "married woman on facebook, if she would go out with me since her husband was apparently working long-shifts " with "someone i wasted 4 years with" (and sent a whole lot of screenshots lol) sure now i laugh . better than having ended up in jail

Strenght to you. honestly wish

 

[evrchanging]

i can't say i'm going through your exact situation but i found some really sickening stuff in my bf's (or ex idk anymore lol) emails/history. you're definitely going through much worse but i will say that having someone close to talk to about it helps more than anything. just someone you can dump all your issues to any time of day and write your thoughts to like a diary. this has kept me somewhat sane.

there are true snakes in this world that hide under a shed, they will likely never reveal themselves unless you do it yourself. i'm not trying to assume your situation, but you married this guy without knowing his true intentions right? if you gave this person true, genuine love and he betrayed that, then that shows what type of person he really has been from the start. people who do these things are low life losers and if you think he won't hurt someone else like this, you're wrong. would you want the next person he hurts to hurt themselves over HIS shitty actions? i'd bet not. can you ever imagine yourself doing what he did, to someone else? no? then it's not a problem with you, it's a problem within that shitty person.

and i'm so sorry your sister betrayed you. the same things apply to her, too. they saw someone who they could take advantage of, why? shitty people never have reasons as to why. they just do things. you're above both of them, and when you start carrying yourself that way, the people who do you wrong will start to feel shitty about themselves.

i'm not entirely sure what i'd do in your situation, especially after marriage, but i know that i'd probably feel the same way that you do. i just hope these words help open your eyes a bit because i know that this is something i'd need to hear, i can relate to this situation in a way even if it's not exactly mine. if you ever want to talk, i'm here any time of day. much love and stay strong

(edit: i just realized you said it was your sister's OF, you are still justified in your feelings though and it makes me wonder how he knew she had one)

 

[Some place nice]

Fuck, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine that pain. You deserve someone better than him.

 

[Orbitc]

What pieces of shit they are. Horror. You're probably in a lot of pain right now, but they don't deserve you to suffer - maybe just eliminate these pieces of shit from your life forever? I also have a story on this topic - when I was 13 years old, my sister's husband got drunk andsexualy harassed me in front of her. It turns out she was jealous and lied to my mother that I stole money from them so that she could explain why she didn't want to invite me over for the holidays! I was shocked when I later found out about this. She's disgusting - he probably cheated on her, but she chose him and lied about me being a thief. She punished herself - to live for so many years with a freak who demonstratively sexualy harassed a child in front of her eyes. I just haven't talked to this shit for 11 years. Relatives can be terrible shit and you shouldn't get upset about it - just imagine that you flushed this shit down the toilet and never communicate with her

 

[gbi2]

Sorry to hear this. He is disgusting and needs to face whatever consequences you have for him. I'm not one for advice in these situations and I don't know what he is like but don't ever believe anything he might say that would gaslight and manipulate you into thinking you caused it somehow or you didn't see what you think you saw.

 

[LivideLamb]

Fuck, fucking hell, I feel so sorry that that had to happen to you. I wish no one that sort of suffering... That's fucking rough

 

[ropearoundatree]

I'm sorry for everything. I was going to react with a tear, or humph but I couldn't figure out how (only the like, which I didn't want to be confused)…. This is unbelievable and you should be commended for not having done anything reactionary or too extreme. I know I would have had a hard time exercising such caution—while blowing a gasket! So you are better than me. Clearly, this is more a commentary on them: & not a criticism of you. Even if it is hard not to feel that way, that doesn't make it true. Still trying to figure out what OF means - will refer to the guide in the welcome/instructions. If I had to guess, outfit?

 

[exitplease]

She has an OF and he bought it. A lot of it. I ended up deleting the messages I sent my sister before she got to read them. I though she sent them but then I saw the watermark. But I am still mad at her

Is your sister aware he did this? Perhaps she doesn't know? Would you feel comfortable talking to her about it?

 

[suicidal flapper]

holy shit fuck him

 

[just_a_guy]

Accept my condolences.

Whenever you post something I feel like it's the cat in your pfp saying it. It makes everything sound better.

@Reimustein I'm really sorry about what you're going through. I can't even imagine the betrayal you must feel but please remember that their shitty actions aren't linked to your value

 

[Ε. Η. R.]

I gave him my virginity, he was my one and only.

they are traitors who do not deserve forgiveness. Especially considering this fact.