I have just been told by my neighbour that I have only my self to blame for my dark phase and that I have no excuse

[Now_And_Then]

I have just been told my neighbour that I only have my self to blame for the dark phase I am going through after she saw my place wasn't up to scratch . I honestly have trouble even watching a movie or reading a book , let alone tidying up to perfection

This is a woman who claims she is so ill that she NEEDS to have a dog in a flat people aren't usually allowed pets , she even went to court for it

This is also a woman who claims she is so ill that she needs to put a huge garden right by the elevators / lifts area that is a public access area . She near turned it in to a jungle and even went to court for that , whinging that she'll catch the bus if they don't let her have her way

She tells me she is on anti depressants and under stands depression


All for a dog and some plants and she can actually do these things with out hassle and is able to enjoy them

But then she tells me that I don't have an excuse and that I only have my self to blame when I can hardly go a few seconds with out an aw ful mental O C D that prevents me from enjoying any thing , let alone tidy up to perfection

I try to play a song , read a book , watch a movie or play a game and my mind won't let me do it with out any splashes of traumatising thoughts

She is the nosy neighbour type by the way , but the things she has said to me have annoyed me when I know they are not true

 

[Thorn]

Maybe ask her if this is a threat? Even if that does not make any sense. Broken people have usually very weak or no defense, but if she attacks you, maybe there is something you can do about it.

 

[not_a_robot]

relax. She is Disability Gatekeeping. She's afraid having anybody else around who has problems will expose her as a fraud, also thinks she is "protecting the pool of resources" of disability money. Every disabled person you speak to in real life thinks this way, even the social workers.
Ignore Ignore Ignore.
Push the button in your mind, make that bitch disappear.

 

[Faraway1990]

She sounds like a straight up bi** imo with no empathy towards your struggles. I hit a super rough period back in 2016 I couldn't do anything my flat got into a huge mess my family said the same thing calling me lazy etc although they knew I was a broken defeated mess. So I have empathy for how this must make you feel.

relax. She is Disability Gatekeeping. She's afraid having anybody else around who has problems will expose her as a fraud, also thinks she is "protecting the pool of resources" of disability money. Every disabled person you speak to in real life thinks this way, even the social workers.
Ignore Ignore Ignore.
Push the button in your mind, make that bitch disappear.

I like that advice visualise your problems going away lol

 

[Thorn]

I like that advice visualise your problems going away lol ❤

I have tried that, they went for a moment, and came back with a hammer. Depends on psyche, I guess.

 

[Now_And_Then]

Thanks for all your replies

She is truly horrendous when it comes to gossiping and I came home yester day to find my door wide open ( it doesn't shut properly , as I need to get it fixed ) and I am positive she opened it to show some one my mess . My door has never been open wide like that before


One time when it was the red poppy day for the World War 1 veterans and victims , she asked me if I had bought a red poppy . When I told her I forgot all about it as I was in a bad way and was deep in thought most of the time , she scolded me and told me I was selfish and that I had no excuse

Yes she has a mouth like ( )

 

[Thorn]

Get a camera, some "GoPro" type, and get some footage that counts. Then show her the talent, whatever you may stumble upon. Also it will be your insurance, when the shit hits.

 

[not_a_robot]

Earbuds are great, you can just make a face like "can't hear you, so sorry."
Even better if they're connected to your cellphone, you can gesture helplessly at the phone and mime "very important call, shh, sorry."
Turn the buds up when you see her coming, refuse to even read her lips.

If you choose to continue to engage, you are choosing to continue to engage. She's not your friend. Stop talking to her like she is.

 

[Now_And_Then]

relax. She is Disability Gatekeeping. She's afraid having anybody else around who has problems will expose her as a fraud, also thinks she is "protecting the pool of resources" of disability money. Every disabled person you speak to in real life thinks this way, even the social workers.
Ignore Ignore Ignore.
Push the button in your mind, make that bitch disappear.

It wouldn't surprise me if she is gate keeping

I have been thinking she is putting it all on a bit for a little while now

The council that owns the flats I live in forbid any one to have pets . I do not know the reason for this , but my neighbour has been allowed to keep her dog as she went to court to win a case for it . She used her depression and mental health as a defence . She told me in person that she cried and told them that she would catch the bus if they didn't let her have her Rosy ( the dogs name )

Then on to her plants and flowers ( garden )

People are allowed a certain number of plants or flowers out side their windows or front door , but are not allowed to place any thing in the public lift / elevator area due to fire safety reasons

She went to court over that too and threatened to catch the bus if they didn't let her have her garden

So she got her way twice

She turned the lift / elevator area in to a jungle for years until in 2017 the new estate officer had them removed . She is currently going to court again . THAT AREA IS NOT HER PROPERTY AND IS A PUBLIC ACCESS AREA , HOW CAN SHE WIN THE CASE ?

I think she may be ill , but not as ill as she makes out . When ever I see her watering her plants or walking her dog , she always does it with out hassle

 

[not_a_robot]

Sounds like she is a great source of preoccupation for you.

 

[-Link-]

You don't owe her any explanation, and you don't need validation from her.

She sounds like an idiot. Don't concern yourself with the opinions of an idiot.

 

[Now_And_Then]

Sounds like she is a great source of preoccupation for you.

Ha ha

She is just annoying . It doesn't help that she lives opposite me

I try to avoid her at all costs at every opportunity , but some times she knocks on my door or stops me in the middle of the lift area

She is very judge mental which is surprising for a lady who is supposed to have had experience with mental health

 

[not_a_robot]

Ha ha

She is just annoying . It doesn't help that she lives opposite me

I try to avoid her at all costs at every opportunity , but some times she knocks on my door or stops me in the middle of the lift area

She is very judge mental which is surprising for a lady who is supposed to have had experience with mental health

lol yes mental health workers are usually such enlightened people...

(what planet did i wake up on today?)

 

[Now_And_Then]

lol yes mental health workers are usually such enlightened people...

(what planet did i wake up on today?)

No I meant she has had mental health issues , she has not worked in that field . This is why I am surprised , usually those with the experience with depression under stand

Which is more fuel to the fire of me doubting her legitimacy

 

[Thorn]

She is just annoying . It doesn't help that she lives opposite me

With the best intentions, how about a military grade strobe light, to bring some sparkle in her life, during the long lonely nights.

Nah, I'm tired and mean, ignore this.

 

[Morphinekiss]

I'd tell her I hope she trips over her dog and lands ass up in the garden, but I'm "sassy" like that.

I find a lot of mentally ill people want to one up each other and seem worse than the other party. Sounds like she's doing a bit of that. I know it's annoying and rude, but dismiss her poppycock.

 

[Going Home]

Sorry you have to experience that. Sound like a couple of my former neighbors who were complete horrors of human beings. My direct next door neighbor was in my home without my permission stating her son was just closing the porch door because the wind blew it open. Sounds like she'll have no one to blame is she winds up on her ass . Probably better to steer clear. Put in headphones when she's around. Ignore the ignorance.

 

[Conflicted Cat]

What an absolute bitch... Seems like she doesn't have any actual mental problems, just using it as a means to get what she wants.

 

[WinterIsComing]

Apply the gray rock strategy if you can't ignore her. Make short answers and be a interesting as a rock (boooring).
Ex
How are you?
Fine, thanks.
What are you doing now?
I'm busy.
What do you think of.....?
Good.

Earbuds are good too

 

[Laststop]

You know, even if it is true it doesn't mean people have to throw it in our face. I don't know about the rest of you, but I know that it's me, and how I interact with the world, that has brought me to where I am. If I had just somehow been one of those people who went through hell, but still was determined to succeed, I would have been much better off. I can't account for how I am. There's the hell that was my childhood. But I know I could have done more...better. But, you know, all these people that take issue with us usually have their own crap they don't seem to recall as they judge others. Part of the appeal to CTB is doing the only thing I can think of to take control of myself, for myself, away from other people.

 

[Snowx88]

Tell them to eat a dick

 

[Letmego. Please]

Tell them to eat a dick

I suspect a lack of that kind of action is what makes her such a sad sour puss.

I am sorry you have been blighted by one of life's idiots, a quack may have once fobbed her off saying your depressed, but by the sound of she wouldn't know depression if it slapped her in the face, just one of life's jump on any old bandwagon to get what she wants & scream some more if it doesn't happen. That is classed as a personality disorder, not what you are suffering from ((Hugs))

 

[Deleted member 1768]

I have just been told my neighbour that I only have my self to blame for the dark phase I am going through after she saw my place wasn't up to scratch . I honestly have trouble even watching a movie or reading a book , let alone tidying up to perfection

This is a woman who claims she is so ill that she NEEDS to have a dog in a flat people aren't usually allowed pets , she even went to court for it

This is also a woman who claims she is so ill that she needs to put a huge garden right by the elevators / lifts area that is a public access area . She near turned it in to a jungle and even went to court for that , whinging that she'll catch the bus if they don't let her have her way

She tells me she is on anti depressants and under stands depression


All for a dog and some plants and she can actually do these things with out hassle and is able to enjoy them

But then she tells me that I don't have an excuse and that I only have my self to blame when I can hardly go a few seconds with out an aw ful mental O C D that prevents me from enjoying any thing , let alone tidy up to perfection

I try to play a song , read a book , watch a movie or play a game and my mind won't let me do it with out any splashes of traumatising thoughts

She is the nosy neighbour type by the way , but the things she has said to me have annoyed me when I know they are not true

If you can take someone to court...you are not that sick. Manipulative, possibly narcissistic , but really sick? No. Best to roll your eyes, close the door and walk away.

 

[ProlongedSentence]

I have just been told my neighbour that I only have my self to blame for the dark phase I am going through after she saw my place wasn't up to scratch . I honestly have trouble even watching a movie or reading a book , let alone tidying up to perfection

This is a woman who claims she is so ill that she NEEDS to have a dog in a flat people aren't usually allowed pets , she even went to court for it

This is also a woman who claims she is so ill that she needs to put a huge garden right by the elevators / lifts area that is a public access area . She near turned it in to a jungle and even went to court for that , whinging that she'll catch the bus if they don't let her have her way

She tells me she is on anti depressants and under stands depression


All for a dog and some plants and she can actually do these things with out hassle and is able to enjoy them

But then she tells me that I don't have an excuse and that I only have my self to blame when I can hardly go a few seconds with out an aw ful mental O C D that prevents me from enjoying any thing , let alone tidy up to perfection

I try to play a song , read a book , watch a movie or play a game and my mind won't let me do it with out any splashes of traumatising thoughts

She is the nosy neighbour type by the way , but the things she has said to me have annoyed me when I know they are not true

People are imperfect. Old ladies have a strange way of expressing themselves. Perhaps she cares but does not know how to express it. Perhaps she wants to help you. But yeah. Sometimes people say things thinking they are helping or whatever and it just slams us down worse. I have experienced this. Just recently actually. Sucks. Can I comment though on the ladies emotional support dog? I think dogs are a form of great support. Perhaps this lady is very lonely. And the elevator "jungle?" Sounds kinda cool actually. But then I have a wild imagination. Why don't you add to the jungle? Heck yeah man! My imagination is really running with this. ... People needing to cut their way through the jungle to get to the elevators to get to the REAL damned Concrete jungle on their way to their daily grind. Might be the best thing that happened to their day... cutting through that Old Lady's jungle where you just contributed lol yet ANOTHER monsterous plant!

 

[justanotherday]

I have just been told my neighbour that I only have my self to blame for the dark phase I am going through after she saw my place wasn't up to scratch . I honestly have trouble even watching a movie or reading a book , let alone tidying up to perfection

This is a woman who claims she is so ill that she NEEDS to have a dog in a flat people aren't usually allowed pets , she even went to court for it

This is also a woman who claims she is so ill that she needs to put a huge garden right by the elevators / lifts area that is a public access area . She near turned it in to a jungle and even went to court for that , whinging that she'll catch the bus if they don't let her have her way

She tells me she is on anti depressants and under stands depression


All for a dog and some plants and she can actually do these things with out hassle and is able to enjoy them

But then she tells me that I don't have an excuse and that I only have my self to blame when I can hardly go a few seconds with out an aw ful mental O C D that prevents me from enjoying any thing , let alone tidy up to perfection

I try to play a song , read a book , watch a movie or play a game and my mind won't let me do it with out any splashes of traumatising thoughts

She is the nosy neighbour type by the way , but the things she has said to me have annoyed me when I know they are not true

She is an idiot!

 

[Etherealdignity333]

I have just been told my neighbour that I only have my self to blame for the dark phase I am going through after she saw my place wasn't up to scratch . I honestly have trouble even watching a movie or reading a book , let alone tidying up to perfection

This is a woman who claims she is so ill that she NEEDS to have a dog in a flat people aren't usually allowed pets , she even went to court for it

This is also a woman who claims she is so ill that she needs to put a huge garden right by the elevators / lifts area that is a public access area . She near turned it in to a jungle and even went to court for that , whinging that she'll catch the bus if they don't let her have her way

She tells me she is on anti depressants and under stands depression


All for a dog and some plants and she can actually do these things with out hassle and is able to enjoy them

But then she tells me that I don't have an excuse and that I only have my self to blame when I can hardly go a few seconds with out an aw ful mental O C D that prevents me from enjoying any thing , let alone tidy up to perfection

I try to play a song , read a book , watch a movie or play a game and my mind won't let me do it with out any splashes of traumatising thoughts

She is the nosy neighbour type by the way , but the things she has said to me have annoyed me when I know they are not true

I avoided media for a loooooong time because of intrusive thoughts, so I want to let you know I feel you on this. Everything reminded me of something I didn't want to think of. When those times come, I listen to music without lyrics. I am especially fond of classical, jazz, binaural beats, ambient music classified by Hz, and nature sounds. Would something like this work for you? Sending love. Your neighbor sounds like a twatwaffle. Fuck that. Don't let the opinions of the rude get you down. They are only trying to make themselves feel better at the expense of someone else.

 

[tothemoon]

Had my asshole family tell me the same. 'captains of our fate' garbage. So I told them ok...since you guys all have self control you can go for a 2 mile run when you have bad diahhrea and just exercise self control right? Shut them up real quick. One of my finer moments.

 

[Etherealdignity333]

lol yes mental health workers are usually such enlightened people...

(what planet did i wake up on today?)

Hey now, I'm alright!