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Amandye13
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- Sep 22, 2020
- 33
I wish I found a guy or an older man or even a woman that would want to be and live with me and would understand my issues and would give me proper support. That is literally all I want. Bpd is a developmental trauma and I know I lack the experience of having a 100% safe figure in my life who would help me get through my triggers and help me regulate my emotions. I feel like that is impossible though and everyone says so as well (especially therapists) and everyone wants to help me be more independent, when I want nothing more than a person who I could be clingy with and who I would depend on. I believe that is the missing experience for people with bpd in general and is actually "the cure" for it. Every child finds their autonomy in the safety of depending on a parent and I believe bpd people are stuck in that phase because we never got the proper consistent secure support, mirroring and validation. But I start doubting myself when I am met with so much opposition from people and especially "professionals". And I doubt people who could and would want to care for a bpd person like that even exist. And especially not for me because I also believe I am unattractive and ugly (bdd is actually my dominant issue right now). So whatever. I guess I'm just a toxic person trying to justify my dysfunctional and destructive lifestyle. Or maybe I'm right. But it doesn't matter if no one agrees with me. I'm so sick and tired of all the torture and confusion that I'm experiencing in this life. Death is the only thing that gives me the security that I so desperately need.