I HATE MY CO WORKERS

[WitheringAway]

The situation is worse now that I don't talk to anyone at all. And I hear some of them talk about me with new people like I'm a psycho and the odd one out. and even when I'm around they say mean things in general but look at each other and at me then laugh it's like inner jokes about me. It's not gonna be too long before I snap at them. I'm not a pushover and I will stand up for myself. Probably knock a bitch out or something.. I'm done taking shit from them just so that I can keep my job.

 

[freedompass]

That must be horrible. Co workers can definitely make your work life hell. If I had to work I'd want it to be a remote job I could do at home. Enforced socialisation with randoms is hard on those of us with fewer social skills or who can be targeted for bullying. I really hope you won't feel the need to resort to physical violence though I understand you need to stand up to these idiots. I guess try to remember this is just one job and hopefully you have the option to move to something better. Good luck and try to stay strong.

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm sorry you have to deal with people like that, some people can just be so awful and cruel. Other people are capable of making our lives much worse and that is why I cannot stand people. I wish you the best.

 

[Nolan96]

I'm sorry you're going through that. People can be so petty.

Don't resort to violence. It's not right and not worth it. And going from 1 to 100 will just confirm people's ideas of you.

If it's getting to you, tell them it's rude and inappropriate and report it to your employer. If it continues, maybe look into other employment options if possible.

I know restrained practical advice probably isn't reaffirming the emotional effect it has on you, but I do think it's the best thing to do.

 

[StarryStarry]

I understand exactly how you feel. I told my last employer that I had depression and anxiety issues and he used that against me. Total douche bag. I'm sorry you're going through this I know how terrible it is to listen to that crap.

 

[thinkkank]

i'm sorry to hear that. getting into fights would make things worse. if it's serious you can change jobs, but I would not give their words power over me. if you're making money that's all that matters. other people can talk shit, but you aren't there to make friends you are there to make money.
some people will never like you. even if you are good to them they just will hate you. if these co-workers are such people, don't think about them. don't let their bullshit rub off on you. definitely don't let their words affect you. brush it off and keep making money.
the thing is, with gossip, the people talking about you would love nothing more than to know that their words are hurting you. don't give their words power over you

 

[WitheringAway]

you aren't there to make friends you are there to make money.

that's exactly what I remind myself of everyday.. I'm here for one purpose and it's money.. the thing is I can't just change jobs I'm employed by the government so it's a kind of jobs that's really hard to get. I'm promoted by the time I worked so giving up on it is just like throwing away all the hard work and the misery I've been putting up with so far. I want to quit but I wouldn't want to let idiots like them win and ruin my opportunity.. I'm a fighter but it gets so hard sometimes I simply go to the toilet and cry to regain my composure and find the strength to finish the shift

 

[thinkkank]

that's exactly what I remind myself of everyday.. I'm here for one purpose and it's money.. the thing is I can't just change jobs I'm employed by the government so it's a kind of jobs that's really hard to get. I'm promoted by the time I worked so giving up on it is just like throwing away all the hard work and the misery I've been putting up with so far. I want to quit but I wouldn't want to let idiots like them win and ruin my opportunity.. I'm a fighter but it gets so hard sometimes I simply go to the toilet and cry to regain my composure and find the strength to finish the shift

how many hours do you need to get promoted and how many do you have left to go?

 

[MsSelfsabotage]

Omg I totally feel and hear you. I've had so many jobs and there has always been gossiping and bullying. No matter what you do, they will always find something. You can be the best co-worker, kind, friendly, minding your business and still these incels will pick at you, talk shit, etc, just to feel better about themselves. This has nothing to do with you. They're insecure and bored and need something to talk about. Is there a way for you to stay away from them? Like your own office or little space so you don't have to interact nor deal with them? Can you put in earplugs? Just focus on your job, making money and completely avoid them. Only way to get through it. I know it's hard but I stay to myself. Those are co workers, not friends, not anything. They're strangers working in the same spot with you.

 

[WadeingThru]

when I'm around they say mean things in general but look at each other and at me then laugh it's like inner jokes about me.

When you see this behavior, flip them off and stick out your tongue. If they are going to act like children then you can too.