Venting I hate being lonely

[mpti]

I've always wanted someone in my life who genuinely loved me, and who I loved back. I know I have my parents and family, who I'm beyond grateful for, but I've always wanted something more. I really just want to be in a relationship with a girl who I love and who cares about me, and have good friends I can depend on. But I've always sucked at doing that, and I don't think that will ever change.

I can just imagine being 20 or 30 years older than I am now and still being as alone and unwanted as I am today. I just want someone to hug me, to cuddle me, to tell me that it's gonna be alright. But I know I'm just going to live and die alone.

 

[Chlo]

How old are you? Sounds like you've never been in a serious relationship before, and when you don't bare the scars from previous failed relationships you have an advantage imo. I'm sure you'll find someone if it's what you really want and you put yourself out there.

 

[mpti]

How old are you? Sounds like you've never been in a serious relationship before, and when you don't bare the scars from previous failed relationships you have an advantage imo. I'm sure you'll find someone if it's what you really want and you put yourself out there.

I'm still a teen, really, so I still have time. But I still feel like I'm years behind most of the people around me. I know I should put myself out there more, but it can just be hard since I'm just not that good at this kind of stuff. I know getting in a relationship can't solve all my problems or anything, but it still hurts being alone.

 

[Kyrok]

When I was a teen, no teens I knew were in a "relationship." I had one 3yr relationship in my 20s. Married in my late 30s.

In many circles, relationships are rare until well into one's 20s. Many if not most people who have graduate and professional degrees don't get into anything serious until they leave school.

 

[NumbItAll]

I've always wanted someone in my life who genuinely loved me, and who I loved back. I know I have my parents and family, who I'm beyond grateful for, but I've always wanted something more. I really just want to be in a relationship with a girl who I love and who cares about me, and have good friends I can depend on. But I've always sucked at doing that, and I don't think that will ever change.

I can just imagine being 20 or 30 years older than I am now and still being as alone and unwanted as I am today. I just want someone to hug me, to cuddle me, to tell me that it's gonna be alright. But I know I'm just going to live and die alone.

currently losing sleep thinking about the same stuff. :) the bus can't come soon enough!

 

[Xaphous]

Same but I never even had a girlfriend and only went on one date my whole life, even though I had a fair few chances, all hot ones too but all of which anxiety stopped me pursuing any of them, late 20's so I guess please don't be like me.

 

[Socrates Augustus]

I have this feeling. I am coming 25 I have only had a few teenage flings in my life. I am a man I have mental health problems. I still live with my mother. I am going to try the dating scene soon. Take things easy for the moment you are not alone in this respect.

 

[Socrates Augustus]

Same but I never even had a girlfriend and only went on one date my whole life, even though I had a fair few chances, all hot ones too but all of which anxiety stopped me pursuing any of them, late 20's so I guess please don't be like me.

Yea Anxiety is an ass.

 

[Broken]

I've thrown away my relationship with somone that genuinely loved me. i always wanted a relationship and connection with somone like what I've just lost so I'm hoping it's all happened for a reason and that was the first but not last because it's going to be a lonely life otherwise.

 

[Broken]

How old are you? Sounds like you've never been in a serious relationship before, and when you don't bare the scars from previous failed relationships you have an advantage imo. I'm sure you'll find someone if it's what you really want and you put yourself out there.

i never carried any scars from previous relationships until this last one. Left me with lots of regret. I know I've thrown away a connection with somone that really loved me and it's not easy to know that I destroyed that.
I do also believe though that when you are in a good place good things happen so that's where I'm trying to get back to.

 

[21Neberg]

Loneliness is my worst enemy, because it's destroying me. I'm such a weak person that I only need to see another group of friends or a girl to remind me of my ex and make me cut myself. I wish I could be happy on my own but the truth is I can't.

 

[JustAboutDone]

When I was a teen, no teens I knew were in a "relationship." I had one 3yr relationship in my 20s. Married in my late 30s.

In many circles, relationships are rare until well into one's 20s. Many if not most people who have graduate and professional degrees don't get into anything serious until they leave school.

This here.

Now lots of people want to be in relationships for love and affection and to feel worth something and feel valued and validated.

The thing is unless you are totally happy with yourself as a single person, you won't be happy in a relationship. You need to love yourself and be independent first - then you bring that to a relationship as a whole person and, hopefully, the other person does too. That's what makes a healthy happy relationship that isn't needy or insecure but built on the premise of two people being together because they want to be.

 

[mpti]

Loneliness is my worst enemy, because it's destroying me. I'm such a weak person that I only need to see another group of friends or a girl to remind me of my ex and make me cut myself. I wish I could be happy on my own but the truth is I can't.

I'm so sorry to hear that man. I hope you can find some sort of peace with yourself soon. You don't need her.

 

[brighter]

This here.

Now lots of people want to be in relationships for love and affection and to feel worth something and feel valued and validated.

The thing is unless you are totally happy with yourself as a single person, you won't be happy in a relationship. You need to love yourself and be independent first - then you bring that to a relationship as a whole person and, hopefully, the other person does too. That's what makes a healthy happy relationship that isn't needy or insecure but built on the premise of two people being together because they want to be.

mwah. es perfecto :)

 

[Wallflower]

I've always wanted someone in my life who genuinely loved me, and who I loved back. I know I have my parents and family, who I'm beyond grateful for, but I've always wanted something more. I really just want to be in a relationship with a girl who I love and who cares about me, and have good friends I can depend on. But I've always sucked at doing that, and I don't think that will ever change.

I can just imagine being 20 or 30 years older than I am now and still being as alone and unwanted as I am today. I just want someone to hug me, to cuddle me, to tell me that it's gonna be alright. But I know I'm just going to live and die alone.

omg, i feel the same. i'm a teen too and have a lot of friends that don't ever talk to me about things that matter. i'm pretty much a ghost when i'm at home. and i wear masks everywhere else. i want someone to talk to genuinely and not have to worry about being judged.

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

I've been alone my whole life. My mom worked nearly every night when I was growing up. No dad. I was six staying in our house alone. At night. I had night terrors. No joke. Then my mom died. I went to college. Couldn't make friends. I'm too weird. Later, I got on the rat-wheel (money-bills-money...). I got used to the very, very rare person coming into my life leaving before they even took a seat to chat. Used to be bitter. Then I realized if I had been one of the cool kids I'd probably have done the same to me. Now I count this as a blessing as I can leave without any messy connections.

 

[waived]

I miss the exhilaration of transmitting and receiving socialization. Learning of places and experiences through how someone is, their behavior and mannerisms, as well as from stories themselves. I miss the enchantment of the social environment. Walking in the snow under all the silly holiday lights and the prospects of eye contact with strangers.

 

[mpti]

omg, i feel the same. i'm a teen too and have a lot of friends that don't ever talk to me about things that matter. i'm pretty much a ghost when i'm at home. and i wear masks everywhere else. i want someone to talk to genuinely and not have to worry about being judged.

I really felt this. I have basically no one I can talk to about this stuff irl. I'd like to be able to tell someone about suicidal thoughts and stuff with someone who understands/won't call the cops on me, but there's no way I could ever do that.

So sorry you're feeling like that right now. I hope you find friends who accept you for who you really are

 

[CuriousAboutThis]

I sometimes have this feeling too but if I truly get my act together for myself and for the people who care about me everything will be a dream come true.

 

[TheCrow]

Learning...their behavior and mannerisms

yes! & I always end up talking like my friends/using their little phrases