Discussion i feel so fucking angry with people trying to tell me that i have a whole life to live

[weonaestupida]

do you ever talk to people about how you feel about life and death and they just say "hey you have a lot to live" "don't give up" "you're good enough" "don't think like that" and it's just lies ,they won't tell you "yea you right you should kill yourself" bc it's more a relief to think or say that things have solutions than accept how shitty things are for some of us
also it's so easy to say those things when you have a ?reason? to live ,i fucking hate them all, stop saying that i have a whole life to live bc it's not like that ,they are just lying themselves and trying to lie to me bc it's more comfortable but i don't care about that anymore
(i'm sorry if my text doesn't have sense in some parts but my native lenguage it's not english and i'm also angry to try to fix the grammar issues)

 

[underthewave03]

i feel you

 

[ShadowOfTheDay]

do you ever talk to people about how you feel about life and death and they just say "hey you have a lot to live" "don't give up" "you're good enough" "don't think like that" and it's just lies ,they won't tell you "yea you right you should kill yourself" bc it's more a relief to think or say that things have solutions than accept how shitty things are for some of us
also it's so easy to say those things when you have a ?reason? to live ,i fucking hate them all, stop saying that i have a whole life to live bc it's not like that ,they are just lying themselves and trying to lie to me bc it's more comfortable but i don't care about that anymore
(i'm sorry if my text doesn't have sense in some parts but my native lenguage it's not english and i'm also angry to try to fix the grammar issues)

Yeah, I know how frustrating that can be. Trust me, I know! But these people just care about you. So, try to accept their love, and ignore their ignorance, if you can.

 

[Alchemist]

Yeah, they have it easy, so they don't care. I kinda wish they felt our suffering to see how much their cheerfulness lasts.

 

[weonaestupida]

Yeah, I know how frustrating that can be. Trust me, I know! But these people just care about you. So, try to accept their love, and ignore their ignorance, if you can.

i know :( sometimes i get angry with them but with a lot of thinking i release that i just feel angry about the whole situation

 

[JadedGray]

Yes, I can relate to this. I'm tired of the empty platitudes people use to convince me to live and of course none of them have ever changed my mind.

 

[Stagefour]

I have one leg. Nohip. No pelvis no sitting bone.....Stage IV sarcoma in my lungs. People say these things because they don't know suffering.

I'd say my worst pain is psychological and they can't understand that. They try to tell me the same stuff. I guess the difference between us is I believe them even though I'm ready to CTB.

It's all about what's important to you but a lot of people are just obsessed with idealation. To truly know what it means to wish for death daily is another story all together.

 

[WOODESITY]

Iv been told that I'm young and have my whole life ahead, that life is beautiful and to be positive and all those nonsense shit, reality is shit, shit I'm living in and you telling me that to be positive? I hate when others assume that my life is somehow worth living and telling me how to live it when I don't even want to live

 

[Alan James]

Saying this, they do not care about you - they are just afraid to realize that life as a phenomenon is disgusting and terrible, any life, that we all will die anyway (painfully often), they are scared, they create artificial constructions-illusions, this is self-deception, a defensive reaction. Pro lifers are too stupid, cowardly and weak to accept reality and chose to deny it.

 

[EmotionlessWanderer]

Well in that case life is a low budget poorly made kids film that your grandma found in the $5 dollar bin at Walmart for your birthday.

 

[bhav]

I think people just dont want to feel responsible for someone else's death, it's more about protecting them than you tbh

 

[been_there]

I have one leg. Nohip. No pelvis no sitting bone.....Stage IV sarcoma in my lungs. People say these things because they don't know suffering.

I'd say my worst pain is psychological and they can't understand that. They try to tell me the same stuff. I guess the difference between us is I believe them even though I'm ready to CTB.

It's all about what's important to you but a lot of people are just obsessed with idealation. To truly know what it means to wish for death daily is another story all together.

All respect to you and sympathy to your situation. I wish you strength in your mind however you proceed. People can't relate to such pain, it is outside their ability.

 

[TAW122]

Me too, I feel the same way at times. I don't think most people in the world know how much suffering that we go through and then it's easier for them to ignore our reasoning and then spew off mindless platitudes than it is to listen and accept our reasoning.

 

[GameIsSkewed]

It's horrendously sick. They don't even guess that there exist ridiculous levels of suffering. I would guess it takes less calories to just say the pre programmed pro-life things, than to try and imagine the horror that other person is going through. But, agian I can't fully blame them as they weren't supposed to be able to imagine such extreme suffering, as such extreme suffering that we experience should not even be possible naturally. It's only due to man made artificial things that induce these states.

 

[appalachian moon]

do you ever talk to people about how you feel about life and death and they just say "hey you have a lot to live" "don't give up" "you're good enough" "don't think like that" and it's just lies ,they won't tell you "yea you right you should kill yourself" bc it's more a relief to think or say that things have solutions than accept how shitty things are for some of us
also it's so easy to say those things when you have a ?reason? to live ,i fucking hate them all, stop saying that i have a whole life to live bc it's not like that ,they are just lying themselves and trying to lie to me bc it's more comfortable but i don't care about that anymore
(i'm sorry if my text doesn't have sense in some parts but my native lenguage it's not english and i'm also angry to try to fix the grammar issues)

Yeah I know what you mean. And I feel like telling them to shut up because they don't know shit. They have have no idea what I've gone through but then I'll just sound like some crazy person yelling their head off at them.
I think it's also because they can't wrap their heads around the concept of death - or you dying, in particular. I know that what they say is coming from good intentions (or out of politeness, in a way) but those cliche sayings like "it gets better," "you have a bright life ahead of you don't waste it," "it won't last forever," etc, have been so overused and tossed around that they've lost their meanings/sentiment(?) and seem like some previewed message you get in cards you give for your sickly relative in the hospital. "Hope you get better soon!"

 

[Empty Smile]

I always say I wish some of these "normal" people could be in my mind for just one week. They would be begging to come out after the first day.