I feel like going to an all boys school ruined my life.

[genie]

This is personal to me, so I don't know if anyone can relate. I went to an all boys school and I think it stunted me emotion and socially as I never interacted with the opposite sex from 12-16. I feel like I missed out on a lot of teen experiences like going to class with girls, prom etc..I never hung out with friends after school. I did manage to have a couple of relationships with women when I was 19-20, but they weren't long lasting relationships as I obviously didn't have much experience with the opposite sex when I was younger. Now I'm 33 and don't think I'll ever have another relationship with a woman ever again.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I feel like a lot of what you are describing can't be purely blamed on you going to an all-boys school. I went to an all-girls school and we had a brother school. A lot of the girls from my school and the boys from our brother school had no issues with interacting with the opposite sex and many of them went had relationships and went to prom and all sorts of other shit.

 

[CapitánBeto]

I think there are lots of people that can relate with you and your experience...

I went to an all boys school and after graduating I chose a degree predominated by men.
So my interaction w/ girls was limited up until my 20s.
I felt awkward around them and didn't understand the rules of engagement (I might be a bit autistic lol).

So, anyways, that's probably why I turned gay during high school.

Nowadays is different, I've learned to relate to other people regardless of their gender, etc...

I hate to fall into the common pitfall of suggesting therapy, but really, that's the only thing that comes to mind at this point.
Trying new hobbies or activities where you can meet others.
Maybe it could help to befriend married people or couples.

Try pottery.

 

[genie]

I feel like a lot of what you are describing can't be purely blamed on you going to an all-boys school. I went to an all-girls school and we had a brother school. A lot of the girls from my school and the boys from our brother school had no issues with interacting with the opposite sex and many of them went had relationships and went to prom and all sorts of other shit.

Respectfully, I disagree. I also have autism which didn't help, but I had the choice of secondary schools and should've gone to the co-ed which would have forced me to interact with girls. I have regretted that decision all my life. I thought I was gay when I wasn't because there were no girls in my class.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Respectfully, I disagree. I also have autism which didn't help, but I had the choice of secondary schools and should've gone to the co-ed which would have forced me to interact with girls. I have regretted that decision all my life. I thought I was gay when I wasn't because there were no girls in my class.

The thing is, you could have gone into extracurricular activities in order to make sure that you were interacting with others of the opposite sex. Along with that, a lot of what you described doesn't even have anything to do with going to a non-co-ed school and many who do go to co-ed schools still have the same issues (e.g., not going to prom, not walking to their classes with girls, etc). Most guys who have issues with interacting with the opposite sex also went to co-ed schools. You can't really blame this on just going to an all-boys school, especially when most of those who go to all-boys schools don't describe having any of these issues, including those who are neurodivergent, at least in my experience.