I don't think i will ever have a girlfriend or wife, i made peace with it

[dune7263]

I don't believe in there being a someone for everyone, it's just unfortunately not realistic, I don't think I will date myself either if I were in a woman and i have accepted it

there are bunch of reasons why I think this, I am a perpetual underclass and I hope to leave as soon as I get rid of my survival instinct

 

[Richard Langford]

Being in a "romantic relationship" is extremely overrated as an idea - as the 2/3rds of the adult population of my country who were married and are now divorced will tell you.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I found there was a peace in accepting it, to the point where I started to really value the good parts of being single and independent. I can't say I look at many couples and feel envious.

I still wonder if there is someone for everyone. It's a huge world after all but then, I think it's also so easy to end up in a mismatch with someone and become even more miserable! I'd rather not go through that!

 

[tiredash]

i havent made pace with it... to me its something i need a lot... to have something to love but in my case it has to be something i could trust deeply, which is not something usual for romantic couples...

i know the chances are very small... and i will kill myself because of the loneliness... but when i give up its the moment ill decide to die...

 

[lawr]

I think that there is someone for everyone, with the billions and billions of people that walk this earth there surely must be, the impossible part is expecting that you will find them among those billions. It's like finding a needle in a haystack with extra steps. Have to put effort into it... Gotta put yourself out there, gotta be equipped to face rejection, gotta be ready to invest a lot of time and effort into relationships that will fail... I wonder how you made peace with the belief that you will never have someone. For me, having a soulmate has been my main objective and source of suffering ever since I was old enough to understand what girlfriends and boyfriends were.

 

[Tombs_in_your_eyes]

I used to think of a romantic relationship as like icing on the cake - it's something I would like but I don't have a huge yearning for it. But I'm very aware that once my dad dies, I will have no family relationships (my parents were wonderful but my extended family on both sides are disappointing), and the only way for me to not be completely alone will be to have a relationship and / or children…

If I don't find a relationship before my dad dies I will do my best to CTB when he dies.

 

[Ashes of a Dreamer]

Wait, how old are you? Don't need to answer, but I'll be honest - rationally, you can find someone to be in love at any time, moreover nowadays, when people get divorced frequently; empirically, however, if you haven't done it until your 30s, chances are low, once people are settled or lost interest in the process of aging.

Of course there's more factors than age - money, appearance, health, social connections - but it's a start to think about it.

 

[dune7263]

Wait, how old are you? Don't need to answer, but I'll be honest - rationally, you can find someone to be in love at any time, moreover nowadays, when people get divorced frequently; empirically, however, if you haven't done it until your 30s, chances are low, once people are settled or lost interest in the process of aging.

Of course there's more factors than age - money, appearance, health, social connections - but it's a start to think about it.

20

 

[Ashes of a Dreamer]

20

Well, you're pretty young. If the situation doesn't change through the next decade, and it still causes you suffering, then it's time to maybe give up completelly. Anyway, it's your decision, Idk how much it hurts you today.

However you're right: there isn't a person for everyone, as the romantic field works like others: few people gather most of the opportunities, and there's a group who live with nothing. Sad, but true.

 

[divinemistress36]

You have lots of time to find a woman. Men dont reach peak attractiveness till their 30s anyways. Just be prepared to go through some heartaches as thats part of life and few people stay together until death

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

You're really not missing out an anything much. Believe me. Especially in this day and age when just about every woman is constantly in search of someoene better and will jump at any opportunity that presents itself.

 

[OnlyOutcastsMourn]

There are plenty of men like yourself, me included, there is a male loneliness epidemic as much as the idea is mocked by some.

 

[roommate]

A relationship is too stressfull with my autism, it's also not suited for me :/

 

[SolitudeMan]

I relate to this thread more than i'd like
maybe we would have died already in a war 100 years ago

 

[futurecorpse]

The dating scene is an absolute cesspool nowadays. It seems like all people want to do is hookup. If they want to do that, that's fine but it's not for me. Knowing me, I'm not surprised that I don't have a partner at my current age. I'm so fucked up, damaged and traumatized. And on top of it, I have bpd so no way in hell can I act sane with a partner. I've tried and I only end up pushing them away. Nobody likes a crazy bitch. So I've accepted the idea that I may never find my special person. For all I know, he can be in another state or country. Quite frankly I sleep well at night knowing no one is cheating on me. But when I'm reminded that I'm single and don't have a family of my own, it still hurts

 

[Reflection]

I think there is something fundementally wrong with the world we live in today. I think only very few people go on to have good lasting relationships. Being out of the game is much better than pouring your heart and soul for someone only to be discarded like a used boot.

 

[dontwakemeup]

I dated a lot in my younger days and it was wonderful! Those dates, times, and memories helped me get through my difficult life. It actually saved me from attempting during those times.

You can't expect anyone to love you and respect you if you don't believe it yourself. It seems like your young, get out and try. You can't fail if you don't try. I would suggest trying some dating apps. They are great distractions and you never know who you can meet.

 

[blacksand]

Well, you're pretty young. If the situation doesn't change through the next decade, and it still causes you suffering, then it's time to maybe give up completelly. Anyway, it's your decision, Idk how much it hurts you today.

However you're right: there isn't a person for everyone, as the romantic field works like others: few people gather most of the opportunities, and there's a group who live with nothing. Sad, but true.

Even if there was, that "someone" may well live an ocean away or already be in a LTR.