My suicide note will be the last my family will ever hear from me. It is very hard for me to think of something that would help the suicide be less painful for them. I can't think of anything because whatever I write doesn't feel right. "I love you" "I'm sorry"....it feels fake....I don't understand how this could make anything better because after all I'm dead. It's one of the main things stopping me and I'm just thinking of going away with it altogether.
You don't have to say much, it doesn't have to be a manifesto, and it doesn't have to exist to take away their pain. Tell them you love them, tell them how much they meant to you...those two things right there are worth more than you will ever know. If you have some explanation..that may help too.
But I can tell you, having lost the most important person in the world to me to suicide, having his note saying how much he loved me...I treasure more than any of my physical possessions.
Nothing about your passing will be easy for your family and friends, the people who love you, but give them comfort in whatever small way you can.
I promise you, your note, no matter how small, will mean a lot to them.
I keep my boyfriends note on my dresser, I read it often, even though I have thousands of messages and memories from him telling me how much he loved me...having that note say the same thing...I can't say why but it really means something to me.
Nothing you can say will take away their pain, you have to know that, but giving them something, even a few words, will mean a lot.
But I can tell you, having lost the most important person in the world to me to suicide, having his note saying how much he loved me...I treasure more than any of my physical possessions.
Nothing about your passing will be easy for your family and friends, the people who love you, but give them comfort in whatever small way you can.
I promise you, your note, no matter how small, will mean a lot to them.
I keep my boyfriends note on my dresser, I read it often, even though I have thousands of messages and memories from him telling me how much he loved me...having that note say the same thing...I can't say why but it really means something to me.
Nothing you can say will take away their pain, you have to know that, but giving them something, even a few words, will mean a lot.
LegaliseIt!
Elementalist
- Nov 29, 2019
- 808
If writing about ending your life doesn't feel right, then you need to seriously consider why you are at this point.
Please do not act impulsively, and please know that a caring community exists here no matter what path you choose.
Recovery Resources are available on this site:
https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/recovery-treatments.20652/
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quifg
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- Oct 28, 2019
- 32
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Broken
- Jul 7, 2019
- 1,496
instead of simply telling them that you love them, you should consider telling them WHY you loved them. tell them exactly what you are feeling right now, how hard it is to put your love into words and how painful it is for you to put them through this. think of things that will make you feel better if a loved one left you a suicide letter, what would ease your pain if someone you loved so much took their own live, to be honest there is very little that you can do to make them suffer less, but a very honest letter with your reasons, your feelings and your peace with this decision is better than nothing, and may lessen their burden.
what i will do is to write it in a very beautiful way, making it very clear that the only reason why i manage to live this long was because of them, that they are the only thing that i'll miss about this life, and also telling them that they are absolutely not to blame in any way shape or form.
writing my letter will be the hardest part about my suicide, but it will also be something beautiful since it will be my last goodbye and my final thoughts on this world, i'll write it over and over until i'm comfortable with what i'll leave behind and hope that it will make my passing less hurtful in a way and keep them company for years to come.
you can also write one of those very short one liner notes, it's your choice and some times this is better, but i have a feeling that you want something more than that, so don't be afraid of writing it many times until you find something that you like.
what i will do is to write it in a very beautiful way, making it very clear that the only reason why i manage to live this long was because of them, that they are the only thing that i'll miss about this life, and also telling them that they are absolutely not to blame in any way shape or form.
writing my letter will be the hardest part about my suicide, but it will also be something beautiful since it will be my last goodbye and my final thoughts on this world, i'll write it over and over until i'm comfortable with what i'll leave behind and hope that it will make my passing less hurtful in a way and keep them company for years to come.
you can also write one of those very short one liner notes, it's your choice and some times this is better, but i have a feeling that you want something more than that, so don't be afraid of writing it many times until you find something that you like.
Meant2Die
Specialist
- Nov 8, 2019
- 307
I also have this prob, along with having written notes over and over again, not feeling they are right, just to throw them away. Then bouncing back and forth between should I even leave one.. The reason they don't feel right is b/c you are smart enough to understand words will never be enough to ease their pain if they love you. It really doesn't matter what you say, losing you will obv trump that and cause them emotional pain. But.. it could lend some understanding if you tell them why.
Anyway.. once I read that someone included the following in their note and i really liked it " Do not blame yourselves. Everyone did everything they could. It was my choice and my decision to do this. Nothing could have changed the outcome. There was nothing anyone could have done" - I really like this b/c I feel like it takes some of the blame off people thinking " I should have done this or that", and it kind of solidifies how confident you are with the choice you made.
That goes along the same line people say here all the time "if you're afraid it means you're not ready".. I call BS. There is a lot of reasons why a person would be scared to CTB, such as religious beliefs, worries about the afterlife, worries about failure and so many others. Just because you have a sound mind to reason all these things which naturally bring on the feelings of fear does not mean you aren't ready to die.
Anyway.. once I read that someone included the following in their note and i really liked it " Do not blame yourselves. Everyone did everything they could. It was my choice and my decision to do this. Nothing could have changed the outcome. There was nothing anyone could have done" - I really like this b/c I feel like it takes some of the blame off people thinking " I should have done this or that", and it kind of solidifies how confident you are with the choice you made.
Sorry , don't mean to be a jerk here, but who would ever "feel right" about writing their suicide note? That is a really silly statement in my humble opinion. Maybe this would only apply to a psychopath who is numb or has no feelings. Obv for any sane person this will be a hard, uncomfortable and an unpleasant task bc we are taking other peoples' feelings into consideration. This does not mean you are not ready , it just means you care about easing people's pain, in this situation. The writing process might come easier to some with finding what they want to say, but that doesn't mean it ever "feels right" or natural to do so.
That goes along the same line people say here all the time "if you're afraid it means you're not ready".. I call BS. There is a lot of reasons why a person would be scared to CTB, such as religious beliefs, worries about the afterlife, worries about failure and so many others. Just because you have a sound mind to reason all these things which naturally bring on the feelings of fear does not mean you aren't ready to die.
