ThisMortalCoil
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- Aug 16, 2020
- 1
I know this might sound petty, but life has been crap for a while. I was married 20 years and had a daughter, and I worked my a** off all those years to be a good provider for my family. My wife meanwhile didn't work, yet anything she wanted she bought with my money. I went through a tough 18 months at work, traveling 50% of the time and working 16 hour days - then three years ago she left me, finding someone else to support her, and she left me with our daughter and her dog. In time, we shared custody, though with me the parent of primary resident. So in addition to a demanding job, I now had to cook, clean, food shop, do the wash, drive my teenager to & from her activities 4-5 days a week, and walk the dog three times a day. I have had a girlfriend, but it's non-stop drama. I put everyone before myself - my daughter, my girlfriend, my dog - and spoil them all rotten; for example, I spent $20K+ on gifts for my girlfriend in the past year, just paid $8K for my daughter to go to Europe this summer, and plan to buy her a car, probably spending $40K+.
Now, last week I broke my ankle and though I've already become near entirely self-sufficient at home , I can't drive my daughter to her activities, and I can't walk my dog. I'm getting surgery next week, and won't be able to walk or drive for the next three months - and TBH, I don't give a crap about my own health, having to do everything around the house with limited mobility, but I feel awful not being able to fulfill my responsibility to my daughter and dog. I've been doing my best to figure out alternatives, but it hasn't been easy.
And what sucks the most is the people in my life don't want to help: my girlfriend, my mother, my daughter, my ex. I'd do anything for them, but the three months that I need help, they give me more drama than help. So here I am, putting everyone else first, only worrying about not being able to take care of my responsibilities towards others, and yet no one wants to take responsibility for helping me.
A few weeks ago I was suicidal and was planning to hang myself, and this broken ankle only makes it worse.
And to those who think money would make everything better, guess again.
Now, last week I broke my ankle and though I've already become near entirely self-sufficient at home , I can't drive my daughter to her activities, and I can't walk my dog. I'm getting surgery next week, and won't be able to walk or drive for the next three months - and TBH, I don't give a crap about my own health, having to do everything around the house with limited mobility, but I feel awful not being able to fulfill my responsibility to my daughter and dog. I've been doing my best to figure out alternatives, but it hasn't been easy.
And what sucks the most is the people in my life don't want to help: my girlfriend, my mother, my daughter, my ex. I'd do anything for them, but the three months that I need help, they give me more drama than help. So here I am, putting everyone else first, only worrying about not being able to take care of my responsibilities towards others, and yet no one wants to take responsibility for helping me.
A few weeks ago I was suicidal and was planning to hang myself, and this broken ankle only makes it worse.
And to those who think money would make everything better, guess again.