Discussion How will those in your life react to your passing?

[Scooter]

This question is quite morbid, but one I've been thinking about for a while. Once you CTB how do you think people will react. I know for me I hope people aren't hurt emotionally and don't blame themselves, as I will be the one taking my own life. I do hope it's a quick service (prefer not to have one) and people move on. What are all of your thoughts?

 

[k75]

I'd like to think nobody cares, but the reality is it's going to devastate everyone in my life. One reason I'm hanging on.

 

[Nemeshisu]

I feel like no one else than my parents and SS members will care. Some people might be suprised why I died but that's it.

 

[Broken Chimera]

You guys probably will give more of a damn then people irl. They're gonna have a party after I'm dead.

 

[Scooter]

You guys probably will give more of a damn then people irl. They're gonna have a party after I'm dead.

I don't mean to laugh but i LOVED your comment. I hope this is the situation in my life as well!

 

[MsMaudlin]

My kids will be devastated, they'll feel guilty for not believing how much pain I'm in.
I have brought a nice notebook to write things down for them, for when I have gone.
My sister will feel guilty for not keeping in contact as often.
I doubt many more people will give a fuck.

 

[Scooter]

I feel like no one else than my parents and SS members will care. Some people might be suprised why I died but that's it.

I don't post too much here so I don't know how many SS members would care, but the goodbye threads always seem to have a positive response.

I'd like to think nobody cares, but the reality is it's going to devastate everyone in my life. One reason I'm hanging on.

ugh I'm also worried about hurting people in my life :( I'm sure there is always a surprise factor in anyone's passing, it's just passing from CTB is probably felt a little bit different.

My kids will be devastated, they'll feel guilty for not believing how much pain I'm in.
I have brought a nice notebook to write things down for them, for when I have gone.
My sister will feel guilty for not keeping in contact as often.
I doubt many more people will give a fuck.

Being aware of you families reaction is something I've been thinking of too. If you don't mind me asking what's in your journal? I've been doing entries but I usually do them during panic attacks or after I've self harmed and I don't think they explain much of my feelings.

I am truly sorry for the situation you're in, especially with kids. I can't imagine how you've been feeling with self defeating thoughts. I want to believe people care, but with my condition, and maybe yours, I can't imagine people genuinely caring that I die.

 

[JohnUK]

Nothing really, fell out years ago and when I die they won't mourn or anything.

 

[Moon Flower]

My ex will take it the worst. My friend group might take it hard for a couple days. My family is pretty used to suicides but I'm sure my sister won't be happy about being the only one left. I have one friend who already knows, but doesn't intend to stop me and says he'll be fine

 

[BabyYoda]

I actually asked the person I love how he'll react if one of his friends died, and he said that he doesn't know. If I asked the same question to anyone else they'll say "oh, I'll be very very sad". Weirdly enough, this is what keeps me from CTBing. It's not easy to explain. If he'll be devastated then that means he DID care about me, but for now the answers are still so vague. Focusing on his coldness will make me more likely to CTB instead of going insane over the possible reactions of everyone else.

 

[WhyIsLife56]

I won't be there to know how they'll react.

 

[mathieu]

I think people will be quite upset. I'm a worthless piece of shit, but just the fact of someone young dying in the family plus the fact that it's suicide will mean they'll be quite upset. I have no friends, but family will be quite affected I think.

 

[BPD Barbie]

I know people will be sad and feel hurt, have questions etc, it's normal. The one thing I hope though is that they don't blame themselves and that they are satisfied with the reasoning I leave them in the notes I will write.

 

[Flume]

"oh he died" I'm going to fake care for a few hours and then be fine and not actually be that devastated.

 

[Soulless_Angel]

I have no idea, my husband is a not who I thought he was and has been emotionally abusing me for years, I often think he won't care and won't miss me, but I don't know.
My brother broke the speed limit on his bike last time I attempted, got to where I was in 10 mins, it would normally take 20/25, I believe he is the only one who would care if I went, I only have my sister who is only out for herself, I have no friends

Because I do it on impulse I doubt I would tell on here,but I doubt it would be long before a couple notice me missing and looked into it!

 

[Cutepoison]

Probably sad for a while, that's normal. But like any pain, time will heal it.

PS - is anyone else getting to a point of not caring about what others will think?

 

[AlreadyGone]

They will be sad for a while, then they will move on. They will feel just like I feel whenever a relative passes.

 

[jgm63]

This question is quite morbid, but one I've been thinking about for a while. Once you CTB how do you think people will react. I know for me I hope people aren't hurt emotionally and don't blame themselves, as I will be the one taking my own life. I do hope it's a quick service (prefer not to have one) and people move on. What are all of your thoughts?

Simple fact is, there's no easy answers on this, but then you knew that already....
However, if it's too painful for you to remain here, then perhaps you might have to go.
So I suppose one saving grace is that it might be beyond your control in truth, and therefore not really your fault at this stage....

 

[porfin1234]

Probably a lot of anger and pain. And confusion since my situation is "not that bad"
people will also talk about how weird I was and how I took things too seriously. Wasted opportunities. Which they are right.And then move on. If my ex found out he would probably say I'm the scum of the earth and how he's not surprised and no one could've saved me

 

[TAW122]

It will depend on the people. As far as family, they will be very heartbroken and sad, perhaps even angry and resentful too. Outside of family, maybe a few people who are closer to me will be sad for some time, but for the most part, they would distract themselves as much as possible and then people who don't know me or barely know would hardly give a shit. They might "act" like they care (which I know it's all just virtue signaling BS), but in reality, they couldn't give two shits over my death. Hell, even most people don't ever initiate contact with me, and I'm invisible for the most part so no one really gives a shit outside of my immediate family.

 

[Jean4]

The only people who will know I am gone is this forum. No friends or family.

 

[Carina]

Honestly they'd all probably following the stages of grief... even if some stages were brief or combined in a sense. At least those close to me.

Others? Probably "Oh ok", or "good", or "pop the cork on the champagne!"

 

[HereToday]

My narcissistic parents will use it for attention. They'll act sad, but it will be just that- an act. My sister won't give a crap, she was the favourite and I was the scapegoat so we have no relationship.
Barely know the rest of my family, and have no friends.
How sad to die knowing no one gives a fuck. Especially because I tried so hard to be a kind, generous and selfless person my whole life

 

[RedPanda]

Honestly i don't give a single fvck. Whether they mourn or don't care doesn't bother me, as long as i'm gone i'm happy.

 

[Defenestrator]

I'd like to think nobody cares, but the reality is it's going to devastate everyone in my life. One reason I'm hanging on.

This is probably the only reason I'm still around - my death would devastate my mum, there are times (and it's getting more frequent) when I can't even see that anymore and where I'm so close to the edge.

 

[Throwmyselfaway]

I have a couple of friends who will be sad. My wife and family probably won't care. My dad won't even speak to me. My dogs will care but I have a plan for them. They will go to people I trust before I go then I will have to move fast.

 

[ScorpiusDragon]

My boyfriend will probably be extremely devastated and angry that I made all his sacrifices go to waste.
I'm sure my SS friends will be sad.
My former best friend would be sad if he knew, but I don't think he will ever find out.
I don't think anyone else will really care, though perhaps a few IRL friends I distanced myself from will make a Facebook post about how close we were for virtue-signaling reasons.

 

[Mustkeyknow]

Honesty i don't give a fuck about anyone else other than my mom, and she'll be devastated. She's the only reason why I'm holding on, but I can't keep going. It's too much. I hope she moves on, I hope she can find peace.