Gaga786
The Odds Are Never In My favour
- May 3, 2020
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Anyone else who says sorry for absolutely anything? I keep saying it during conversations with others. Is there a particular reason for this ? What can I do to alleviate it ?
I agree with that. It might be that. Thank you thoughYes- I have this too. Irony is- in my last therapy session at uni, they had picked up on it and were about to address it- but I quit!
I think she was going to say- make the effort to use the word less basically.
I don't actually know the reasoning behind it but I imagine it comes from insecurity. Almost like you feel bad for inconveniencing someone with your presence- maybe even feel bad for existing at all. That's my take.
I'm 'sorry' you have this too. I think it can be a form of politeness but I think it can also signal to people who are dominant (and exploitative) that they can probably walk all over you. I hope that hasn't happened to you.
I'm not sure you can change how you feel but I would suggest maybe to think about why you're saying it? Is this something you need to feel sorry for? If not, try to use the word less maybe and hope your feelings follow. Good luck!
I understand that. Thank you for sharing that.I never say sorry tbh... well maybe I do in a sarcastic tone but that does not really count, i never really feel sorry for what I do and in general I do not even get if what I did was good or bad... this is part of the reason it is so unbearable to live my life.
I like that framing, it is much more positiveSomeone told me once that I said sorry too much and that instead I should say thank you. Doesn't apply in all situations obviously, but I do think it's healthier to say "thank you for being patient with me" rather than "sorry I am such a terrible inconvenience". It's a subtle difference but I think he was right.