how to gain courage to ''meet death'' when all we've known is life

[lnlybnny]

might be my SI kicking me but it's so strange to bring yourself to your own death when all you're familiar with is life, even with all its hurdles... some might even say anything would be better than suffering here but it's everything so unpredictable. in the end we'll only discover later on. and then there's the fact we'll never ''know'' if we succeeded, everything is so weird, i need to wrap up my mind around this in order to go ''in peace'' but don't know how. going in peace with death might be a privilege for only a minority. maybe we have to go into the unknown with all this in our minds. it's confusing

 

[FuneralCry]

I personally find comfort in the thought of ceasing to exist, only death can bring me peace from this dreadful, meaningless existence. I never wished to exist in the first place, having the ability to exist was always so undesirable to me.
Only non-existence is ideal to me as it's the permanent absence of all harm and suffering, it's horrific to me how there is no limit as to how much one can suffer in this existence all while they are just waiting to die anyway, it terrifies me how a human can exist for so long.

 

[lkjhgfdsa1]

I wish I knew

 

[CosmicPaperCut]

i struggle with this too. i so desperately want to die but its so hard to wrap my head around nothingness. when i die i wont even know i died. id have no memory of my existence. everything will cease. its scary

 

[locked*n*loaded]

For me I don't believe death is the opposite of life. I think nothingness preceded life. And I "know" what that "nothingness" felt like before coming into this existence - nothing. So, I don't feel that "death" is anything I have to "meet". I only feel I have to "meet" nothingness, again, and since I've already been there, and have no bad, or scary, "feelings" about it that are "known to me", there really isn't anything I should be concerned about.

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

i struggle with this too. i so desperately want to die but its so hard to wrap my head around nothingness. when i die i wont even know i died. id have no memory of my existence. everything will cease. its scary

It's going to happen anyway. Every human will die.
It'll be like before I was born

 

[Forveleth]

This

It's going to happen anyway. Every human will die.

Also that continuing to live is just plain worse than the alternative. I've thought about nothingness. I've thought about hell. I've thought about reincarnation. The truth is I don't care what happens when I'm dead because I know, 100% for sure, it can't be worse than facing another 40-50 years of suffering.

 

[lostinwoe]

how I gain the courage is really simple I just say fuck it and do the method of choice

it's probably because I know death is more comforting that being alive at this point.

the fuck it mentality is what I wish I had in regular social situations

 

[lnlybnny]

how I gain the courage is really simple I just say fuck it and do the method of choice

it's probably because I know death is more comforting that being alive at this point.

the fuck it mentality is what I wish I had in regular social situations

it's amazing how that ''fuck it'' attitude brings relaxation, i wish i had more of it with me

 

[LaughingGoat]

Many different cultures and philosophers have likened sleep to a sort of death and I think it is worth investigating that perspective. When you sleep, besides lucid dreaming, you are not aware of your consciousness anymore. Death is similar, there will be no more consciousness; it is in reality far more predictable than life. You will live out your entire life never knowing what can happen next, but you know at the end will be death and that nothing follows. I also think of life and death like flipping a light switch. If you've ever watched someone die immediately, you'll see it makes no difference if someone "goes in peace". One second they're alive, the next they're dead.

 

[UmbraDweller]

I don't have the courage either just yet. But quite simply, fear of living/amount of suffering has to be greater than fear of death, and mindset has to be stronger than survival instinct. How to get there is personal path.
Everyone will die one day, there's no reason to be scared of what comes with it and doing it by your own hand will probably be far more peaceful than dying by disease/old age/accident, in most cases.

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

Just feed off the fact that you're going to have to face it one day, one way or another. So why not now? Suffering for years only to eventually meet the same fate is worse, don't you think?

 

[Forever Sleep]

I suppose I look on it as other scary, inesacapable things in life. Operations, job interviews, anything new. Some things we just have to push ourselves to go through in the hopes they will make things better for us. We're going to have to face death at some point regardless. I guess there are more concerns if someone is religious and worried about the consequences of suicide.

Plus, billions and billions of people and creatures have already done it. All your ancestors have gone through it. All of us will probably bring death to something or other today. Whether that's eating an animal or mistakenly treading on an insect or whatever. It will be a new experience for us but it's not new on a universal level. It's not like we'll be doing something no being has ever done before.

Plus, with any luck, it will be like going under anaesthetic at the hospital. Here one second, unconscious and gone the next. I agree though, it's definitely weird. Weirder still though that we were ever conscious, self aware and aware that we were alive to begin with though- I think.

 

[TiredOfAllThis]

Everyone goes through it, death is inevitable.

 

[Ambivalent1]

It is an elusive thing and only a small percent of the world finds it each year. It's the mightiest of treasures and it's an ancient one at that. It's been through many hands and has many more to claim.

 

[AkaRed]

I'd like to think we're all more familiar with death than we're aware of. But we just.. don't quite remember it in this life, until we're facing it directly. I'd like to think that when we do finally face the moment where we are supposed to die- we remember. And we're pulled into a familiarity we'd been missing from the beginning.

<3

 

[Otaku]

I know what you mean/ are thinking.
It's kind of surrealistic.

 

[tpboy]

this will explain it for you

 

[lnlybnny]

I suppose I look on it as other scary, inesacapable things in life. Operations, job interviews, anything new. Some things we just have to push ourselves to go through in the hopes they will make things better for us. We're going to have to face death at some point regardless. I guess there are more concerns if someone is religious and worried about the consequences of suicide.

Plus, billions and billions of people and creatures have already done it. All your ancestors have gone through it. All of us will probably bring death to something or other today. Whether that's eating an animal or mistakenly treading on an insect or whatever. It will be a new experience for us but it's not new on a universal level. It's not like we'll be doing something no being has ever done before.

Plus, with any luck, it will be like going under anaesthetic at the hospital. Here one second, unconscious and gone the next. I agree though, it's definitely weird. Weirder still though that we were ever conscious, self aware and aware that we were alive to begin with though- I think.

Many different cultures and philosophers have likened sleep to a sort of death and I think it is worth investigating that perspective. When you sleep, besides lucid dreaming, you are not aware of your consciousness anymore. Death is similar, there will be no more consciousness; it is in reality far more predictable than life. You will live out your entire life never knowing what can happen next, but you know at the end will be death and that nothing follows. I also think of life and death like flipping a light switch. If you've ever watched someone die immediately, you'll see it makes no difference if someone "goes in peace". One second they're alive, the next they're dead.

thank you for your thoughtful, insightful responses <3

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I guess that, to have courage to meet death, you have to hate life as much as possible. The alternative way is to understand non existence but I know not many people are capable of understanding non existence. I personally understand permanent non existence and I find peace in it but I know it's hard to understand death for most people. However, like I said, a way to bypass this is to find life so utterly disgusting to where you don't want to live life. For most suicidal people, it's rarely about wanting death but rather avoiding the pains caused by life and the only way to do that is by reaching death

It doesn't matter how you feel about meeting death if you have a massive desire to not want to live life

 

[ThisGameIsOverrated]

I've been thinking about SI a lot recently and this perfectly describes one of the things related to it I've predicted I'll probably struggle with when it's time to go, it's easy to say you want death and to die but the thing is we don't actually know what dying is like and what death is

 

[5meo]

you've known where you came from, you just forgot

 

[sserafim]

you've known where you came from, you just forgot

Wdym

 

[Ambivalent1]

Wdym

So, happier than I had ever dared hoped to be, I dissolved again into that native infinity of crystal oblivion from which the daemon Life had called me for one brief and desolate hour.