How to escape the comfort zone + NEET lifestyle

[c4bomba]

I feel so trapped. Like i can't do anything in life. I really like nature and people and wish to experience so many good things but it seems so far out of my reach. I can't escape the NEET life almost as if it's ingrained into my soul. I really wish i could go outside, get a job or go to school but everything is so far beyond my reach and no one helps me at all. I don't know what to do. I'm actually such a loser and disgustingly lazy i do absolutely nothing all day and can't even get myself to like read or watch anything even if it's something i like. I'm so action resistant it's baffling

 

[hoppybunny]

I feel so trapped. Like i can't do anything in life. I really like nature and people and wish to experience so many good things but it seems so far out of my reach. I can't escape the NEET life almost as if it's ingrained into my soul. I really wish i could go outside, get a job or go to school but everything is so far beyond my reach and no one helps me at all. I don't know what to do. I'm actually such a loser and disgustingly lazy i do absolutely nothing all day and can't even get myself to like read or watch anything even if it's something i like. I'm so action resistant it's baffling

I'm in a similar boat as you. Comfortable complacency is a bitch. Really the only way to stop it is to force yourself to do something or for an outside force to be so inconvenient or bad that it moves you. Just like how inertia works in physics, our brains have a mental inertia to resist change and remain comfortable. Even if that comfortable zone is killing us?

Can i ask how you are affording this lifestyle? For instance, i live with my parents right now. And the outside force that allows me to take action is my parents treating me like shit.
So i wanted to know what outside force could possibly move you? Hopefully it's not homelessness. Cause that's an almost impossible situation to return from without outside assistantance.


I think the best way to stop the neet lifestyle without external stimuli is to start so small that your body and brain don't notice.

Like for instance, you can get up early or anytime, and dress up like you're going out, then just sit in front of your bedroom door or house for as long as you can and stare at the sky. Or if that's too much take up cloud watching through your windownas a hobby. Eventually you'll be moved enough to want to go outside.

 

[fedup1982]

Im the fucking same. All I do all day is reddit. Sasu. Online poker. Sleep. Repeat. I'm lucky I can do fuck all for now because I cant muster getting off the sofa to do something I enjoyed before

 

[calebzz1]

I totally understand where you are coming from.

I've been an involuntary NEET since May 2024 having had to move in with my mom.

I want to so much but being a visually impaired young man is difficult.

I wish I could snap my fingers and make my vision a lot more stable as it would open a lot of doors.

My core team of providers are all saying that I can't work for a year or more and the treatment options have dwindled unfortunately.

The condition I face is complex.

Thankfully, it is curable.

My mental health is pristine but being barely able to see is a huge physical barrier that affects way too much.

I'm always on edge and never comfortable since I can't enjoy my old hobbies.

The only ones I do is listening to music, dancing and audiobooks since they don't need clear vision.

I'm working on getting disability benefits but it's a long process.

As a young man, I'm stuck between not being considered disabled in the system but unable to work, continue to learn how to drive and do my old hobbies with ease.

It's really difficult, try to focus on what you can do.

 

[peachplushes]

Same, it sucks. I'm looking for a job right now but I can't even drive so I'm in my 20s and I'd need my mom to drive me. It truly feels like the most NEET thing of all time

 

[etherealgoddess]

I feel so trapped. Like i can't do anything in life. I really like nature and people and wish to experience so many good things but it seems so far out of my reach. I can't escape the NEET life almost as if it's ingrained into my soul. I really wish i could go outside, get a job or go to school but everything is so far beyond my reach and no one helps me at all. I don't know what to do. I'm actually such a loser and disgustingly lazy i do absolutely nothing all day and can't even get myself to like read or watch anything even if it's something i like. I'm so action resistant it's baffling

For me, it was a ton of somatic healing that didn't get all the depression out, but it did a shit ton. Then I got on bipolar meds. And now I can function decently.

 

[c4bomba]

I'm in a similar boat as you. Comfortable complacency is a bitch. Really the only way to stop it is to force yourself to do something or for an outside force to be so inconvenient or bad that it moves you. Just like how inertia works in physics, our brains have a mental inertia to resist change and remain comfortable. Even if that comfortable zone is killing us?

Can i ask how you are affording this lifestyle? For instance, i live with my parents right now. And the outside force that allows me to take action is my parents treating me like shit.
So i wanted to know what outside force could possibly move you? Hopefully it's not homelessness. Cause that's an almost impossible situation to return from without outside assistantance.


I think the best way to stop the neet lifestyle without external stimuli is to start so small that your body and brain don't notice.

Like for instance, you can get up early or anytime, and dress up like you're going out, then just sit in front of your bedroom door or house for as long as you can and stare at the sky. Or if that's too much take up cloud watching through your windownas a hobby. Eventually you'll be moved enough to want to go outside.

My parents afford that lifestyle. Although where I live this is normal but I still feel guilty. I can't drive. I don't have a degree nor am i on the way for it. It's a really pathetic lifestyle and I don't know any outside source or external stimuli that can motivate me because I have zero friends. I'll try what you said in hopes that it'd work but i know I'll just end up forgetting it after a while , rendering everything useless. I'm so sorry

Same, it sucks. I'm looking for a job right now but I can't even drive so I'm in my 20s and I'd need my mom to drive me. It truly feels like the most NEET thing of all time

At least you're trying. That's still a big step

I totally understand where you are coming from.

I've been an involuntary NEET since May 2024 having had to move in with my mom.

I want to so much but being a visually impaired young man is difficult.

I wish I could snap my fingers and make my vision a lot more stable as it would open a lot of doors.

My core team of providers are all saying that I can't work for a year or more and the treatment options have dwindled unfortunately.

The condition I face is complex.

Thankfully, it is curable.

My mental health is pristine but being barely able to see is a huge physical barrier that affects way too much.

I'm always on edge and never comfortable since I can't enjoy my old hobbies.

The only ones I do is listening to music, dancing and audiobooks since they don't need clear vision.

I'm working on getting disability benefits but it's a long process.

As a young man, I'm stuck between not being considered disabled in the system but unable to work, continue to learn how to drive and do my old hobbies with ease.

It's really difficult, try to focus on what you can do.

I'm really sorry about your vision impairment. I can't imagine what's it like for you it must be really tough. I wish you best of luck in your endeavors in life

Im the fucking same. All I do all day is reddit. Sasu. Online poker. Sleep. Repeat. I'm lucky I can do fuck all for now because I cant muster getting off the sofa to do something I enjoyed before

Same. I can't do anything. Just scroll online and that's it. I'm trying to force myself to try new things or things i used to once love but it feels useless in the long run and it's not the same anymore

 

[hoppybunny]

My parents afford that lifestyle. Although where I live this is normal but I still feel guilty. I can't drive. I don't have a degree nor am i on the way for it. It's a really pathetic lifestyle and I don't know any outside source or external stimuli that can motivate me because I have zero friends. I'll try what you said in hopes that it'd work but i know I'll just end up forgetting it after a while , rendering everything useless. I'm so sorry

Don't apologize, you're being too hard on yourself. Humans do bot exist to work or be productive. Working and being productive is just a price we pay for the price of being part of a society. It is not a moral obligation.
I'm not telling u to fuck of and live in nsture ofc. Just not to beat yourself up and talk down on yourself for being a NEET.

If you're parents don't drive you crazy and are supportive I really do recommend slowly trying to break the cycle by going outside or cloud watching. And try speaking with a therapist. U can rotate through them till u find a good one and even if u don't it's still an outside force making u leave the house

If u or ur parents can't afford a therapist, there are some resources here for mental health. I haven't personally tried them so i can't attest for any of them but looking into new ways of thinking and talking to urself can help.

Depression is a difficult thing to break out of and it does everything in it's power to keep us in a dark place, so don't be hard on yourself if you don't progress as fast as u like.

As long as u make an effort you're doing a good job.