How To Accept Being Permanently Single

[lemonandcapers]

I know I am never going to be a relationship, so watching everyone around me fall in love and be in relationships makes me want to CTB more than anything. How do I accept that I will never find love or be in a relationship, or at least how do I make it so that it does not make me want to CTB?

 

[darksouls]

I have given up hope to have a loving partner a long time ago, my ex-boyfriends treated me like trash, so I will stay alone until I die

 

[BradGuy123]

I know I am never going to be a relationship, so watching everyone around me fall in love and be in relationships makes me want to CTB more than anything. How do I accept that I will never find love or be in a relationship, or at least how do I make it so that it does not make me want to CTB?

For many years I said the same thing. I said "I'm never going to find anybody." I said "I'm terminally single." I said that for years. It made me so sad to see friends and even strangers in couples thinking it would never happen to me. I met my partner in a place where I never thought I would. I literally had the conscious thought "There's no way I'm going to meet anyone there." Well I did and the rest is history. You may find someone in a place where you least expect.

You might try to find someone in a club or organization for people with common interests like sports clubs, hiking clubs, gaming events, foodie meetups, religious/spiritual gatherings, politics, volunteering, etc.

As far as your last question goes I had pretty much given up and had become happy in my life trying to form friendships and doing things in groups.

 

[Hime]

Realising the great hurt I cause myself and therefore can and have caused others has made it easier to accept being single. I really need to work on myself before I can have a BF again.

But it's so hard when you're lying in bed wishing someone was being beside you... Being able to be little spoon...

It's like they say though, find your inner peace first and then with time you will find the person you've always been looking for. Trust the process...

 

[KlixxFoxe]

I understand you because I have had similar thoughts and experiences. I think accepting this particular thing is part of accepting that the world has invisible rules in general. For example, you can't blame chess or football if you can't play them.

Or there is another way. Face terrible circumstances in life, in which finding a girlfriend will be the least of your problems

 

[Alpacachino]

I really need to work on myself before I can have a BF again

More people need to accept this before they try to find someone else. You can never be happy with someone else when you're unhappy with yourself. It's just the truth.

 

[bunnƴ]

Nothing you can do tbh you'll be stuck thinking about it

 

[Lookingtoflyfree]

More people need to accept this before they try to find someone else. You can never be happy with someone else when you're unhappy with yourself. It's just the truth.

Exactly. I wish all the boyfriends who felt physical and emotional abuse was appropriate had stopped to learn to love themselves before using me as a punching bag.

 

[Dejected 55]

I wish I knew the secret. But I don't. And it hurts every single day.

 

[threeeyedfawn]

It helped me to stop seeing another person or a relationship as a solution to the things I thought were missing from myself. Sure the company and intimacy can be nice but there's nothing stopping me from taking myself on a date or putting energy into myself rather than a concept or another person.

 

[Shiitake]

I know I am never going to be a relationship, so watching everyone around me fall in love and be in relationships makes me want to CTB more than anything. How do I accept that I will never find love or be in a relationship, or at least how do I make it so that it does not make me want to CTB?

Feels strange, for me i kinda just accepted it and kinda became asexual, i mean you could just buy a cat or some shit.
You could fulfill most aspects of love through the internet lol, sounds miserable and cope

It helped me to stop seeing another person or a relationship as a solution to the things I thought were missing from myself. Sure the company and intimacy can be nice but there's nothing stopping me from taking myself on a date or putting energy into myself rather than a concept or another person.

this was a correct ánswer, you can take yourself on dates and such.

 

[vxv.joy]

I know I am never going to be a relationship, so watching everyone around me fall in love and be in relationships makes me want to CTB more than anything. How do I accept that I will never find love or be in a relationship, or at least how do I make it so that it does not make me want to CTB?

honestly i am more of a fakecel than anything. many times i outright manipulated or was toxic to so many of my partners in the past, and honestly, it pains me to say that relationships are horrible only if you are with a bad partner. love is something that must be reciprocated, and without the altruistic lover, it crumbles apart. its something that people try to accept, but loneliness and lack of love eventually creeps up to people because we are simply human.
personally, i have just been working to become a better man. i have only been going to the gym, studying, and doing what i love to do. if a relationship falls because of your partner, it can't be fixed. the only thing that can change is yourself. reflect and move on, become more prepared next time, and repeat.
really is the duality of not only love but society.

 

[tonicer]

I'm a 42 year old virgin guy and all i want is some romance but i was just to weird back in my school days and i probably scream weirdo when i am out and about. I still have an inkling of hope that i will find a lady for me that loves me how i am but with each year my face looks worse and worse so my chances are lowering constantly. I know true love would see beyond outward appearance but i don't know what to do to find it.