How the fuck do you make friends?

[Strawberry Moon]

Especially as an adult?

I'm a nervous wreck so I'm too afraid to go to community groups or events in my area. I find it hard to be consistent.

I love my own company but I miss having someone around so bad.

 

[Rack.-]

Especially as an adult?

I'm a nervous wreck so I'm too afraid to go to community groups or events in my area. I find it hard to be consistent.

I love my own company but I miss having someone around so bad.

I'm sorry cause I know how overwhelming it is. I can't say that I have "friends" but I do try to engage with others when I'm having class and always try to have a good relationship with everyone. But I don't know why I feel they wouldn't enjoy my company if we got to hang out.

In my case I always try to be kind and caring towards everyone but deep inside I feel I don't deserve it. In the end it's all about wanting to do it. No matter how good you look, or how smart you are. Everything is inside you and you only need to make an effort.

I love my own company but I miss having someone around so bad.

You can PM me if you need to talk with someone. I will always try to give you good company <3

Btw I love your pfp. Sending love your way ~

 

[greebo6]

It is very difficult when you are in this situation .I know what you mean/how you feel .There isn't an easy answer.
Maybe if you just try little steps , just one little step at a time to interact with others/strangers face to face. Choose when and where and how you want to do it. Don't pressure yourself and take it all slowly and always remember you are worthy of the friendship you want.
I am sure you can connect with others and make friends. It just might take a little longer but its certainly not impossible.
When it happens you and your friendship will be valued and enjoyed very much by your lucky new friends.

 

[higherthanthesun]

I find a couple shots before an event relieves minor anxiety or smoke weed, but thats just me :p

 

[Strawberry Moon]

I'm sorry cause I know how overwhelming it is. I can't say that I have "friends" but I do try to engage with others when I'm having class and always try to have a good relationship with everyone. But I don't know why I feel they wouldn't enjoy my company if we got to hang out.

In my case I always try to be kind and caring towards everyone but deep inside I feel I don't deserve it. In the end it's all about wanting to do it. No matter how good you look, or how smart you are. Everything is inside you and you only need to make an effort.




You can PM me if you need to talk with someone. I will always try to give you good company <3

Btw I love your pfp. Sending love your way ~

I can relate. Thank you for being so kind! I may have a slight tear in my eye

 

[nozomu]

I don't really know how either. I'm so lonely irl. Everyone I know either moved, stopped talking to me, etc. I only have my partner but they're often distant to me.

 

[Throwawaysoul]

I thought I had trouble making friends growing up, now at 40 something that shit isn't happening.

 

[Celerity]

Hm. It's really easy at a retail job with lots of coworkers. I honestly don't know how anybody in office jobs is able to make friends. It is so isolating. Online groups like those found on Facebook or through Meetup are an option.

 

[Strawberry Moon]

I thought I had trouble making friends growing up, now at 40 something that shit isn't happening.

I feel you

I don't really know how either. I'm so lonely irl. Everyone I know either moved, stopped talking to me, etc. I only have my partner but they're often distant to me.

Same here.

 

[WonderingSoul]

I wish I knew too. I've never felt so lonely before

 

[Fimbulvetr]

I'm not sure but if you find out lmk pls

 

[whateverr]

Especially as an adult?

I'm a nervous wreck so I'm too afraid to go to community groups or events in my area. I find it hard to be consistent.

I love my own company but I miss having someone around so bad.

I think you're just supposed to do the stuff you like doing and see if you connect with people along the way. I wouldn't know how to just meet people.

I think you're just supposed to do the stuff you like doing and see if you connect with people along the way. I wouldn't know how to just meet people.

I could also see how a place like this might be great for friends or terrible since we'd probably just end up being miserable together lol

 

[noSuffering]

I have no friends or acquaintances in real life. About 10 years of absolute loneliness.
If anyone knows how to make friends, please write to me how you do this magic.
Although the answer is obvious - either you are honest and alone, or you lie and communicate with people.
Pessimism, antinatalism, promortalism - exclude the possibility of friendship or communication with 99% of the population. We live in a world of irrational optimists.

 

[leavingthesoultrap]

Idk, sometimes I would befriend a colleague. And we would talk shit about the workplace together. But you have to be on similar position as them.

 

[steppenwolf]

You don't want to bother with friends. Friends are no good to you.

 

[Bunny Beanie]

Especially as an adult?

I'm a nervous wreck so I'm too afraid to go to community groups or events in my area. I find it hard to be consistent.

I love my own company but I miss having someone around so bad.

Making friends is the easy part.
Now… making GOOD friends… that's the part I have yet to discover.

 

[tiger b]

Well said.

Friendships take a lot of energy out of me, being an introvert. I've three very good ones these days so I count myself very lucky. That took a lot of time. I could have done with better friends earlier in life, but better later than never.

It involves a lot of luck, circumstance and knowing what you don't want in a friend. It depends on yourself as well, of course. But people often blame themselves when they're doing little or nothing wrong.

 

[noSuffering]

Making friends is the easy part.
Now… making GOOD friends… that's the part I have yet to discover.

In club 27 you will have very good frends

 

[Bunny Beanie]

In club 27 you will have very good frends

Yes I'll be singing with Amy Winehouse and Kurt Cobain!!

 

[TheLastGreySky]

Personally, I disassociate and put on a "fake face" of self confidence in the fashion that I used to do on dates, The things you like should be genuine, but the demeanor that you present yourself with should be your "best self". Personally, I hate doing this. But, I've yet to find someone who is genuine and not put off by my "existential crisis" and antisocial "shyness". I guess it's fake it 'til you make it. If anyone has a better way, by all means do share.
Personally, I just find a girl with my same interests and date her until she gets tired of me.

 

[noSuffering]

Yes I'll be singing with Amy Winehouse and Kurt Cobain!!

AAA!!! Why did you, out of the whole club27, write specifically about Amy Winehouse and Kurt Cobain?

Words cannot describe the importance of Amy and Kurt to me! And I listen to them very, very deep. And I don't just listen, I make an equal playlist of Amy Winehouse and Kurt Cobain and they play in random order during my lonely kung fu training. Repeating the same movements over and over again, you enter the flow and at the same time sweat flows in a stream and tears from their music.

I didn't fall in love with Ami right away, at first I listened to a couple of songs, but gradually the number of Amy in my life grew and grew, after a few months, I realized how deep Ami was and couldn't tear myself away. And I had Kurt's song "I Hate Myself And I Want To Die" as a ringtone on my phone for a long time.

 

[Strawberry Moon]

Making friends is the easy part.
Now… making GOOD friends… that's the part I have yet to discover.

Count me in with that one.