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antiqueantipodean

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Oct 14, 2025
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I really need some advice from people who have experienced a similar situation to me cause I'm in honesty more than two minds…

I've been dealing with my strong ADHD symptoms for such a long time, multiple drs and psychologists have suggested a psych assessment to help and after a long time finally been able to get an appointment which is in two days.

But I'm also so anxious about it all. I've dealt with severe depression and anxiety for years as well and my life has hit the lowest it's ever been. I've always been suicidal and honestly haven't had a day where I've not thought about it at least once but now is the worst it's ever been. It's got a little better since the date of my appointment reaches but the anxiety hasn't.

For a little context I've tried multiple antidepressants and the side effects on each have made me worse and I have to go off them.

I'd really like to talk to the psych about if a new one would do as I have my mind on one or two MAOI's which may help and don't have as many recordings of the side effects I've suffered on the others SN/SSRI's but the problem is they are not advised to be used with Stimulants. If he suggests a stimulant then he probably won't give an antidepressant as it's suggested you stop an MAOI for a fortnight before stimulant use. You can use both but it's rarely implemented.

So I'm so anxious about it all, I know a lot will be helped when I finally have the appointment but you know anxiety! and don't know how to approach it at first in the appointment which is why I'm mostly asking advice…

What's a good way to approach it… I don't think with my depression and suicidal thoughts I can handle not being on an antidepressant especially if I get on a stimulant and have to wait the month or so it will take to get the right medication and let it work properly and even then the stimulant alone may not help the depression and anxiety or suicidal thoughts either. But if I mention the suicidal thoughts in too much detail I'm terrified they may not want offer stimulants for a period of time until they are in check but I really believe they are what will help me get my life back on track and don't want to risk that delay.

Has anyone been through something like this?
 
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Conscious_presence1

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Sep 1, 2025
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Hi, please don´t take those pills, they are very dangerous and can serious effects on your brain. Try to cope with other techniques.
 
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antiqueantipodean

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Oct 14, 2025
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Hi, please don´t take those pills, they are very dangerous and can serious effects on your brain. Try to cope with other techniques.
Sorry you won't change my mind… I'm very pro medication…. No other techniques have worked and my life is destroyed enough if they don't work it's CTB and at least I'll be more ready.
 
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Lookingtoflyfree

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Jan 11, 2024
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Yeah, ignore people telling us ADHD aren't valid.

I would say keep your conversations to the doctors JUST on ADHD and not talk about the severity of SI. Anxiety is a symptom of ADHD and being on the right meds can help with it.
 
NormallyNeurotic

NormallyNeurotic

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Nov 21, 2024
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Some meds can worsen suicidal thoughts. If that's an issue/you're aiming for recovery, it might be beneficial to discuss it.

Something like "I've had issues with depressive symptoms and I'm worried any meds I take could progress it into suicidal thoughts, is that a worry with this prescription?"

Or "My family has a history of suicidal thoughts, should I be worried about that being a potential side affect that could arise for me?"

Something that's not EXACTLY the truth but also not completely a lie.
 
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chernobylmosqut

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Nov 12, 2025
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Personally I can't take any antidepressants because of my ADHD. Medication that targets serotonin specifically tends to dampen dopamine, which of course is already dysregulated by ADHD. It's important you be honest about your depression, but you don't have to disclose being suicidal. If he's a good psychiatrist he can work with you to find a combination that works. If you're worried about immediate suicidal thoughts I'd also ask for an emergency PRN just to save yourself during bad nights while you wait for the long term medication to do its thing.
 
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garcelle

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Sorry you won't change my mind… I'm very pro medication…. No other techniques have worked and my life is destroyed enough if they don't work it's CTB and at least I'll be more ready.
i thought that comment was a little odd, medication is awesome. My advice would be to say something along the lines of "i am susceptible to suicidal thoughts and want to take stimulants and something to manage my depression as well" or maybe a variation of this that isnt so brute force. They may just want you to start on stimulants, see if it allows u to cope with ur depression without antidepressants. If not definitely fight for the antidepressants. What type of side effects affected you? I had an issue finding the right antidepressant that didnt make me extremely nauseous and was prescribed mirtazapine which is not in the same group with the regular SSRIS/SNRIS so no stomach issues. Only side effect i had was 40lbs added but i was severely underweight so it was fine with me. Also it seems the weight gain side effect is only with the lower doses like 7.5mg 15mg(what im taking) when u go higher like 30mg which is what doctors prescribe for anti-depressive effects anyway, you dont see weight gain as an issue. I googled interactions with mirtazapine and some adhd meds and i didnt see any interactions, but im not a doctor tho lol. I got hope in you, YOU WILL BE OKAY!
 
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wheelsonthebus

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Apr 1, 2022
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There is a real risk they won't even bother treating your ADHD if you tell them about depression, SI. The idea of "underlying depression" causing ADHD symptoms is so prevalent in psychiatry that they overlook the fact that the ADHD symptoms were lifelong/started before any depression, or that the patient has insight that the issues they face due to the ADHD symptoms is what leads to or contributes to the depression/SI.
 
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Redleaf1992

Just leave us the f*ck alone!
Feb 3, 2024
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It a tricky scenario.

Ultimatley you could lie to get the ADHD meds asap if you think that will help you most. It's not the worst idea, I got fucked over by being too honest in my adhd review and the private psych refused to medicate cos of me being too complicated. Now I'm waiting on NHS who will probably also refuse (after a 100yr wait time).

That said if this psych review is there to help you in all areas (not just adhd) perhaps honesty is best. Let them know exactly what you put here. That you think the ADHD is the stem of your problems and causing your severe depression. If they are looking after your whole MH they will be able to help plan treatment for all your needs, if you lie your other problems may get ignored, even if it means the adhd meds get delayed a little. If they don't know the full picture they can't help you properly.
 

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