How often do you get into online arguments?

[betternever2havbeen]

It happens a lot to me (not on here) but other sites I go on to ask for advice on something and end up arguing. I know I'm a bit oversensitive, but so many people seem to be condescending and patronising and rude. Just wondered what others views have been? Do you get into arguments a lot online? I'm never rude unless someone is rude to me first. This is the only place where I've not got into an argument with someone (yet lol) and it's just making me feel really vulnerable. I don't know if it's me being oversensitive, if it's just the internet or what. I'm not gonna go on any other forums now because they are making me feel like CTB more than anything, this place lifts me out of that. There is so much more empathy here and everywhere else people just have the "suck it up" attitude and like they are just ready to jump on anyone for an argument. I have no problem with discussions, I just hate the patronising attitude some people have on other sites. I don't think I'm going to be able to grow a thicker skin at this point in life.

 

[Undefined]

rarely, if any. i'm lethargic to begin with and i certainly have no energy left to partition for this kind of nonsense. in the case someone attempts to provoke it, i just don't bother responding.

 

[flesh object]

I usually avoid online argument if its not constructive, because if its driven by emotion then you're not going to change their mind anyway, so why bother, its just wasted energy, and I don't have a lot of energy. Everybody has a right to the way they think, so just agree to disagree.

 

[betternever2havbeen]

I usually avoid online argument if its not constructive, because if its driven by emotion then you're not going to change their mind anyway, so why bother, its just wasted energy, and I don't have a lot of energy. Everybody has a right to the way they think, so just agree to disagree.

Those kinda arguments I don't really mind, it's just when I'm asking for advice on something with my family it can get really personal. The only reason I do it is because I feel like there is zero support. I've mainly needed medical and MH advice for family and it's like non-existent from doctors and professionals. Although I guess no one is obligated to give advice to strangers, even a "sorry you're having a hard time" would help my MH and make me feel less vulnerable and alone. Not patronising replies that I seem to get. It's why I always try and say that sort of thing to posters who are struggling, I feel it goes a long way.

 

[flesh object]

If they don't have the time for you and to hear you out on your problems, then you don't need to respond to them, put your time and energy to things that matter and people that care, such as this site, there's lots of people that care.

 

[betternever2havbeen]

@chulut thank you! I'll definitely be spending a lot more time here now I'm done with everyone else. I feel closer than ever that I wanna CTB but I can't right now because of family issues, I can't cause anymore upset than is already happening. Feel so damn trapped.

 

[MitakaAsa]

I haven't really been in many arguments, except for spaces where there are minors who think they know everything - but now that I'm over 18 I just don't visit those spaces. I don't have any common interests with minors anyway so it wouldn't make sense to be in them lol.

This is the only place where I've not got into an argument with someone (yet lol) and it's just making me feel really vulnerable. I don't know if it's me being oversensitive, if it's just the internet or what. I'm not gonna go on any other forums now because they are making me feel like CTB more than anything, this place lifts me out of that. There is so much more empathy here and everywhere else people just have the "suck it up" attitude and like they are just ready to jump on anyone for an argument. I have no problem with discussions, I just hate the patronising attitude some people have on other sites. I don't think I'm going to be able to grow a thicker skin at this point in life.

I personally don't think that you sound sensitive. Asking for advice and being met with patronization or rudeness would make me feel agitated, too. I hope your experience here will be better! I'm pretty new and it's been really nice for me so far, so I hope it's nice for you too :)

 

[betternever2havbeen]

I personally don't think that you sound sensitive. Asking for advice and being met with patronization or rudeness would make me feel agitated, too. I hope your experience here will be better! I'm pretty new and it's been really nice for me so far, so I hope it's nice for you too :)

Thank you! I'm trying to work on it and not blow my top when I feel like someone is being a bit rude. I don't have to worry on here at all, I don't come back to abuse when I post a simple question. Welcome btw and glad you are having a good experience here-this place is a god send for me. I actually came back more regularly after a bit of a break when someone did a video making the site out to be toxic and completely misrepresented it. I was arguing with all the pro-lifers on other sites as well, I forgot about that lol. It's just frustrating when people can't see your POV and get things completely wrong. I was doing a lot better for a few months and now I feel shit again. It just really makes you question yourself. It's good you can stay away from arguments, makes your mental health worse for sure.

 

[novem]

O

It happens a lot to me (not on here) but other sites I go on to ask for advice on something and end up arguing. I know I'm a bit oversensitive, but so many people seem to be condescending and patronising and rude. Just wondered what others views have been? Do you get into arguments a lot online? I'm never rude unless someone is rude to me first. This is the only place where I've not got into an argument with someone (yet lol) and it's just making me feel really vulnerable. I don't know if it's me being oversensitive, if it's just the internet or what. I'm not gonna go on any other forums now because they are making me feel like CTB more than anything, this place lifts me out of that. There is so much more empathy here and everywhere else people just have the "suck it up" attitude and like they are just ready to jump on anyone for an argument. I have no problem with discussions, I just hate the patronising attitude some people have on other sites. I don't think I'm going to be able to grow a thicker skin at this point in life.

Online there is a high chance that there will show up smb. who disagrees and has bad manners. I used to not understand it myself.

It's the same as going to the middle of a city square and trying to prove something all alone. If anyone ever does that they collect dozens of people who shout yes to anything they say. There is a saying: one in the field is not a warrior.

 

[betternever2havbeen]

@novem it's like some people can't wait to get triggered and offended. I've never said anything bad about anything and I'm willing to be educated on MH issues, jut not shot down and treated like an idiot. If people can be overwhelmingly respectful on here when most of us are dealing with MH issues, why can't others? I guess some sites are much worse than others, and it's usually the ones masquerading as paragons of virtue!

I think I'll go to therapy after all-maybe they can even offer advice on my family issues and get me in touch with people who can help them. I already found a good therapist a while ago but I procrastinated on whether to go or not and then I started feeling a bit better so I didn't bother. I'm just having a really bad week.

 

[AerialBoundaries]

Rarely.

I'll never start an argument. I'm laid back by default, but if somebody comes at me, I'll respond in kind.

 

[outrider567]

It happens a lot to me (not on here) but other sites I go on to ask for advice on something and end up arguing. I know I'm a bit oversensitive, but so many people seem to be condescending and patronising and rude. Just wondered what others views have been? Do you get into arguments a lot online? I'm never rude unless someone is rude to me first. This is the only place where I've not got into an argument with someone (yet lol) and it's just making me feel really vulnerable. I don't know if it's me being oversensitive, if it's just the internet or what. I'm not gonna go on any other forums now because they are making me feel like CTB more than anything, this place lifts me out of that. There is so much more empathy here and everywhere else people just have the "suck it up" attitude and like they are just ready to jump on anyone for an argument. I have no problem with discussions, I just hate the patronising attitude some people have on other sites. I don't think I'm going to be able to grow a thicker skin at this point in life.

My account at Reddit shows 76,000 unread messages by me to my posts past 7 years, no point in reading replies

 

[cassxtho]

I have anorexia, so I am active on Pro-Ana twitter. Imagine all the bitchiest girls you've ever talked to and the saddest girls you've ever met forced into one room, so you can imagine how horrible the fighting is. I used to engage a lot but now I've realized that there's no point in getting upset if something doesn't effect me, and this has carried over to my irl life as well. If somebody says something rude I just kind of ignore it now, because starting a fight doesn't do me any good. And when you show people that you don't care, you stop attracting people like that anyways.

 

[valkyrie]

not often.
i try not to since i just get overly bothered and upset, it's not worth it to engage
i get a bit anxious to look at reply notifications usually and don't usually bother, not on this site though, everybody on this site is honestly usually so nice though so i check out the reactions and stuff :)

 

[stilhavinightmares]

Never. For me, there's no point. I am afraid of confrontation and I think arguing online is a waste of time.

 

[absolomonisgone]

People tired of living don't argue because they don't care anything. Person can say or think what they want people who tired of living just agree. But try argue with AI chat and enjoy for hours

 

[lionetta12]

It happens a lot to me (not on here) but other sites I go on to ask for advice on something and end up arguing. I know I'm a bit oversensitive, but so many people seem to be condescending and patronising and rude. Just wondered what others views have been? Do you get into arguments a lot online? I'm never rude unless someone is rude to me first. This is the only place where I've not got into an argument with someone (yet lol) and it's just making me feel really vulnerable. I don't know if it's me being oversensitive, if it's just the internet or what. I'm not gonna go on any other forums now because they are making me feel like CTB more than anything, this place lifts me out of that. There is so much more empathy here and everywhere else people just have the "suck it up" attitude and like they are just ready to jump on anyone for an argument. I have no problem with discussions, I just hate the patronising attitude some people have on other sites. I don't think I'm going to be able to grow a thicker skin at this point in life.

I don't see a point in arguing with people that I don't know online. I don't really have any reasons to do so in the first place either. I remember how my most recent ex got some social media accounts just to argue with strangers for hours every day over meaningless topics and how he'd call everyone who disagreed with him a «b*tch boy» and then got upset when he got formal warnings regarding his behaviour by the social media platforms. It always confused me why someone would spend so many hours per day and so much energy on something that I view as counter productive and meaningless. I think all he was arguing with people over were cars and he was mad that others would treat him poorly when he went out of his way to be mean to them in the first place and kind of lost his mind when he got warnings. Never understood it. I wish he would have focused on his many ambitions or on something that would improve his life, but I wasn't able to help him and so he continues to argue with people online still.

 

[Krieger]

A lot haha, I enjoy provoking people (not you guys tho)

 

[Unsure and Useless]

I don't really post frequently on other sites since I'm too anxious, so I don't get into many arguments online.

 

[EndlessDream]

I get so mad from them so now I just leave them at one point

 

[CTB Dream]

Me try avoid this many reason
first injury damage
second this nat lang no sense make fight no resolve
Many other

 

[iceyogurt]

Hopefully never

I already have a bit of social anxiety with posting on online forums as well haha. But if my comment ever would cause some division in opinion, I'd probably just try to de-escalate

 

[Majestatea Masiva]

Apparently all the time, and never intentionally. People are scum because of anonymity

 

[LunaXCBN]

Used to be often, now I'm more laid back since I don't really respond to people being dickheads.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I only really post on here and the most I've gotten into I would say is a heated discussion- if that. It's all been civil.

 

[LossOfMe]

Not at all, for 2 reasons:
1- Any potential conflict automatically drains my energy away. I'm already too tired to live and be around, must we REALLY engage into something that will burden me even moreー
2- I've never been good at putting my thoughts into proper words, and a even worse time at organizing said thoughts inside my head. I can't seem to be able to always recall information and sometimes it's just so hard to comprehend what people are saying.... TLDR; my head feels too messy for me to be a proper opponent(?) in a discussion.

 

[Kattt]

Rarely, if ever. The last thing I need in my life is the added stress incurred by arguing with a flamer who's sole intent is to provoke a reaction. It's a complete waste of time and energy interacting with a person like this, because they are incapable of conceiving that they might be anything less than 100% right.
The only way make an impact is to totally ignore them, block them from contacting you (if possible), turn off notifications and ideally, use the "power off" button.
This is the easiest way to ensure some time living "rent free" in their head.