How likely will my suicide influence another person I know to ctb?

[Close_to_freedom]

I'm curious.

 

[nigelhernandez]

Very likely. Studies have shown that suicide risk is increased when a family member kills themselves. But to be honest, I think that's good because this life is shite anyway.

 

[Close_to_freedom]

Very likely. Studies have shown that suicide risk is increased when a family member kills themselves. But to be honest, I think that's good because this life is shite anyway.

I'll never know which brave soul(s) follow my lead.

 

[SpottedPanda]

It seems unlikely, but it's probably wise to remember that each individual is responsible for their own actions.

But there really is no way of knowing for sure.

 

[Ipassbutter]

It seems unlikely, but it's probably wise to remember that each individual is responsible for their own actions.

But there really is no way of knowing for sure.

My belief is that only on the surface are individuals responsible for their own actions. But in fact in most situations there are many other players.
A bartender who keeps serving a drunk driver, the friends who encourage him to drink more, society's lax attitude towards driving - are all responsible for 'individual' choices.
Same with suicide. Might seem like one person's choice but there may be tons of others who are responsible.
That's at least how I see it.

 

[Walilamdzi]

I hope that this isn't a thing but at the minute I'm hanging on because I don't want to cause more grief to those I love.

 

[SpottedPanda]

My belief is that only on the surface are individuals responsible for their own actions. But in fact in most situations there are many other players.
A bartender who keeps serving a drunk driver, the friends who encourage him to drink more, society's lax attitude towards driving - are all responsible for 'individual' choices.
Same with suicide. Might seem like one person's choice but there may be tons of others who are responsible.
That's at least how I see it.

A better example might be a drunk driver inspiring a drunk driver, but as an adult I still wouldn't look at the copycat sympathetically, and blame the original person. Copycat behaviour is done by those who either don't have the capacity or don't seem to care about having self governance.

Either way, when doing anything at all, I don't think copycat behaviour should influence a decision to do something, good or bad.

By all means if it's a genuinely strong concern, provide a service using your life and stay alive. I don't personally know anyone that impressionable.

 

[lostangel]

Unfortunately, it most likely will plant the seed of suicide in someone's mind.

 

[glittergore]

I know it does for some. There's a certain suicide bereavement group that I sometimes read and there have been numerous posts about loved ones wanting to commit suicide after their loss. This could be because of the power of the grief or because it makes suicide seem more like a viable option. I know from that same group that some people swing the opposite way; they reported that they used to deal with suicidal ideation but after their loss no longer find it appealing. So, I think it could go either way.

 

[rhiino]

Unfortunately, it most likely will plant the seed of suicide in someone's mind.

Why unfortunately? It suddenly shows them a way out of their misery that they are already in, if they appreciate the idea of suicide.

 

[FriendofDeath]

We had a 7th grader suicide some years back, and many kids came forward with suicide ideation. No one ctb.

After my loss, I really didn't know if I could survive. Friends disappeared - guess I'm a reminder. Know it affected others.

 

[lostangel]

Why unfortunately? It suddenly shows them a way out of their misery that they are already in, if they appreciate the idea of suicide.

That is a good point. I suppose it's positive in that way but I wouldn't like to see other people harm themselves you know.

 

[Rue89]

It's very possible. It depends on how each person deals with grief. My mom has told me multiple times that if I kill myself she will too. It took me a while to get over my guilt and realize that her actions are not my responsibility.

 

[laserfocus111]

My grandmother jumped off a building in 2011.

Here I am contemplating when I should CTB.. life works in funny ways.

 

[SpottedPanda]

One of my school friend's mother killed herself by jumping, and not long after he slit his throat, so it is possible.

I don't know what brought on my initial suicidal inclinations, but I theorise that it was someone I got close to recalling how they went to the woods with paracetamol. I wonder if that was the turning point for me, if I thought, 'would I do something like that?' And it went from there.

I contradicted my earlier post a little, but after further thought I remembered those examples.

 

[Irrelevant biologist]

My dad shot himself and now I am on this site. So yes there is a definite effect. I do not hold him responsible for my actions. But that wasn't your question.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

I once had a real close friend that said she would have to kill herself if I did because it would be too much. Fixed the problem by cutting off all close friends.

 

[On Edge]

I'm curious.

Suicide is contagious. Given that theres no way we can tell based on the information you gave.

 

[Whatsthepointanyway]

There's a lot of scientific evidence to suggest suicide is contagious. The media have strong guidelines around reporting suicide as suicides tend to spike following high profile cases.

Reporting on suicide for journalists

Guidelines on reporting on suicide for journalists

www.ipso.co.uk

.

 

[KUA]

It's very possible. It depends on how each person deals with grief. My mom has told me multiple times that if I kill myself she will too. It took me a while to get over my guilt and realize that her actions are not my responsibility.

Do you have any siblings? If so how old are they?

 

[Rue89]

Do you have any siblings? If so how old are they?

I have a brother. He's 22.

 

[Close_to_freedom]

Suicide is contagious. Given that theres no way we can tell based on the information you gave.

So someone close to me or someone who knew me long ago may suddenly follow suit soon after? Why would they?

 

[On Edge]

So someone close to me or someone who knew me long ago may suddenly follow suit soon after? Why would they?

Depends, if they have risk factors already.

 

[Close_to_freedom]

Depends, if they have risk factors already.

But why would they soon follow?

 

[NorthernStar]

I think there may be a type of "likeness" thinking as in, "this person is very similar to me and they did it" so the option of it being a possibility gets put in their mind. Also when people's close social circles get disrupted critically and irrevocably, it puts that person into a state of grief and chaos with the world. For some people, it's like a death already.

 

[On Edge]

But why would they soon follow?

Like I said it depends. If they are already at risk you could put them over the top but if they are not at risk already they likey wont be affected.

 

[FriendofDeath]

Most people that know you will be affected in some way. If they don't see you much, it might not enter their mind everyday. Close friends will question why and wish they could have done something - anything! Parents will be devastated. Loss of a child is the worst thing that can happen to a parent. For many, their life becomes a nightmare and they get to play the what if game, be wracked with guilt or can't wait to be with their child once again. Siblings will have it tough, tougher if you live together, because so much will remind them of you. Grandparents will be strongly affected as well. Will anyone ctb soon after you? Definitely hard to say. In my own case, I often wish I had left this world with my son.

 

[Anonymoussn]

It might. But ultimately it's their own life, and they will still always have a choice. Bad things happen to people throughout the course of their lives, including losing loved ones. It's their own choice how they choose to deal with those losses and not your own.

 

[wonderworld]

maybe my dad... but im not sure if he would ever do it rather than just say it... killing oneself take fucking guts

 

[BabyBirch]

i'm only here because my mommy killed herself in june. i'm chronically ill, we lived together due to my illness. my dad doesn't want me and i moved 200 miles to be closer to my job. i just got laid off. she was all i had and she ruined my life.