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noname223

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Aug 18, 2020
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I read Infinite Jest from David Foster Wallace and there is a depressed, suicidal person. This person categorizes suicidal people into groups. There are some attention seekers and some who really mean it deadly serious. I think how I described it is very simplified. But it is a good introduction,

But I think it can be decisive to take suicidal people serious. It can determine over life and death. I only talk about suicide with people who take me serious. But at the same time there are people who go nuts when you want to tell them that you are low-key suicidal. (I am not a native speaker is this the right way to use low-key?).

Many therapists have taken me very seriously. There was one staff member in a clinic though that joked I should not drink the whole bottle of antidepressants.

I am obsessed what other people think of me and I am scared people put me in the category of an attention seeker this even increased my suicidality. Which is stupid. But this is the point not to take people's suicidality serious can make them more suicidal. Instead there are narratives like the boy who screamed wolve.

Two therapists gave me up and they think I am a hopeless case that kills himself. At the same time I am not sure whether I have what it takes to kill oneself. I never attempted. I was in extreme pain but I never had any somewhat good method. I am very glad I never attempted I would have ended up with damage and fucking things up even more. But this has changed since I have SN stored under my bed.

And noone in my family ever committed suicide. However, my pain level is extremely high. If I crash the pain will be insane. I got acute suicidal some months ago and this is actually the good time period of my bipolar disorder. I think I won't survive another crash. I just have reached my limit.

In the last clinic I downplayed me trying to do partial and standing at the 7th floor of a building. I think one rational behind downplaying that is that I wanted to be taken serious. However, at the same time I did not want that they become nuts of my suicidality and panic.

What about you?
 
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Gangrel

Gangrel

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Jul 25, 2024
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Not very important because it was never taken seriously and when it is i'm afraid i will get hospitalized against my will. My partner got mad at me when i said i tried to ctb so here it goes that chance of talking about that.
 
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CantDoIt

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Jul 18, 2024
345
It's not too important to me since I am serious. I think some people who want to be taken seriously would like to be helped in a way that I am simply not capable of being helped.

So I don't want to be seen as an attention seeker but I also am deadly serious at the same time. If someone doesn't take me seriously the end is the same for me.
 
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ashtoreth

empty
Mar 29, 2024
198
The problem already starts with the derogatively called "attention seekers" not being taken seriously. First, I suspect that it will be a wrong prejudice in many cases. Second, how can you not take this seriously? If you have to resort to using self-harm to seek attention, most probably something is already very, very fucking wrong. Third, even if it's not deadly intent now, if you don't address the problem seriously, it may very well become so later. I'm with you, not taking a suffering person seriously can contribute to them becoming suicidal.
It also reminds me of the stories of people who go to the ER with self harm injuries and are treated rudely and condescendingly, denied anaesthetics, given clamps instead of stitches, etc. Sometime ago someone here swallowed, I think paracetamol?, with lethal intent, and were told by a nurse that they are taking away resources from people who really need them. I don't even ..... I can understand why she said it, I can think of at least 3 reasons. That doesn't make it the right reaction though. This is wrong and should not be happening. Others constantly judge your feelings and that's not okay, because they're subjective, and so what is valid is what you say they are, and nothing else.

Personally, words about intent only escaped me once, in a moment of high distress and confusion, and lol, all it did was evoke the platitude "it's not an option" and led to the person distancing themselves for good. Such a slip up is not gonna happen again anytime soon. I never touch the subject because I don't know anyone who would be able to follow such a discussion. Before that slip up, I had withdrawn to prevent precisely that from happening, after repeated threats of them leaving me, should I ever attempt again.
I got the feeling that noone has a clue how I am really feeling. One, for example, I will bet you she would be convinced I spent the last months relaxing and feeling better and ask me if I took bubbly baths or something. To another I mentioned missing an event due to a sick leave and she automatically assumed a specific harmless thing and immediately proceeded to talk about her experiences with it. Ex-partner stated he was sure I, too, am feeling better now after the breakup. And so on. They see what they want to see, and it makes no sense to correct them.

There's still this stupid myth of "those who talk about suicide don't do it". Stupid when you see in the statistics how many have talked about it before killing themselves. Stupid because them talking about it can sometimes mean they are still open for discussing alternatives. That doesn't mean their intent is any less serious.

If you ask me, we lack respect and empathy in general. There is so much judging. We need to judge stuff, constantly, it facilitates evaluating your situation, faster thinking and reacting. But it also leads to so much mis-/non-understanding. It's human and natural and I'm sick of it.
 
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nekrofawn1

nekrofawn1

schizo ballerina
Aug 28, 2024
6
it's not terribly important for me personally, i've been called an attention seeker or manipulative a lot throughout my life for simply speaking up. i'm very serious now that im older, as a teenager i held onto small beams of hope, wondering if life would get easier as time went on. life got exceptionally harder for me, so it doesn't make a difference if anyone takes me seriously or not.

even if they did, it's still inevitable and the outcome will be the same
 
Lookingtoflyfree

Lookingtoflyfree

Experienced
Jan 11, 2024
256
i tell no one anything. I have a therapist and tell her nothing and never will.

I do want to write a note to the few friends and schedule them to get the email so they know how they failed me. I've been unemployed over a year and the three people I thought would reach out haven't. I'll let them know once I'm overseas that I offed myself and if they had shown up for me even ONCE in a year I would have stayed.

it's worse than the SI - to realize you're already fucking dead
 
ijustwishtodie

ijustwishtodie

death will be my ultimate bliss
Oct 29, 2023
3,897
It isn't important to me at all as I don't need normies, or anybody in general, to validate my thoughts. I already know that my thoughts and reasons for being suicidal is valid and that's more than enough for me. Of course if people actually understand me and accept that I deserve death since it's better than being a wage slave, it's a nice bonus. However, I still don't need others to validate my thoughts as I know that I'm valid
 
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username12345

Member
Aug 18, 2024
53
I read Infinite Jest from David Foster Wallace and there is a depressed, suicidal person. This person categorizes suicidal people into groups. There are some attention seekers and some who really mean it deadly serious. I think how I described it is very simplified. But it is a good introduction,

But I think it can be decisive to take suicidal people serious. It can determine over life and death. I only talk about suicide with people who take me serious. But at the same time there are people who go nuts when you want to tell them that you are low-key suicidal. (I am not a native speaker is this the right way to use low-key?).

Many therapists have taken me very seriously. There was one staff member in a clinic though that joked I should not drink the whole bottle of antidepressants.

I am obsessed what other people think of me and I am scared people put me in the category of an attention seeker this even increased my suicidality. Which is stupid. But this is the point not to take people's suicidality serious can make them more suicidal. Instead there are narratives like the boy who screamed wolve.

Two therapists gave me up and they think I am a hopeless case that kills himself. At the same time I am not sure whether I have what it takes to kill oneself. I never attempted. I was in extreme pain but I never had any somewhat good method. I am very glad I never attempted I would have ended up with damage and fucking things up even more. But this has changed since I have SN stored under my bed.

And noone in my family ever committed suicide. However, my pain level is extremely high. If I crash the pain will be insane. I got acute suicidal some months ago and this is actually the good time period of my bipolar disorder. I think I won't survive another crash. I just have reached my limit.

In the last clinic I downplayed me trying to do partial and standing at the 7th floor of a building. I think one rational behind downplaying that is that I wanted to be taken serious. However, at the same time I did not want that they become nuts of my suicidality and panic.

What about you?
Of course, it is really important. There are ways that people can use expressing suicidal thoughts to be manipulative or abusive, but if you're genuinely just trying to escape a difficult life, bullying, and abuse, it makes sense to be suicidal. Not saying you should kill yourself but it makes sense how people can push you to feel like that is your only option. It is also somewhat abusive to disregard people needing help and listing them as attention seekers.

Whether someone is passively suicidal or actively suicidal or anything like that it doesn't decide whether you should have adequate support or not. The idea that people only need social support when they are on the verge of death is the reason why we lose people.

Also if you mean someone being *very* suicidal then it would probably make more sense saying high key. low key and high key are AAVE terms though so unless you are Black you shouldn't use them.
 
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noname223

Angelic
Aug 18, 2020
4,852
Of course, it is really important. There are ways that people can use expressing suicidal thoughts to be manipulative or abusive, but if you're genuinely just trying to escape a difficult life, bullying, and abuse, it makes sense to be suicidal. Not saying you should kill yourself but it makes sense how people can push you to feel like that is your only option. It is also somewhat abusive to disregard people needing help and listing them as attention seekers.

Whether someone is passively suicidal or actively suicidal or anything like that it doesn't decide whether you should have adequate support or not. The idea that people only need social support when they are on the verge of death is the reason why we lose people.

Also if you mean someone being *very* suicidal then it would probably make more sense saying high key. low key and high key are AAVE terms though so unless you are Black you shouldn't use them.
With low key I wanted to say in this context the following: I wanrted to tell him that I am low key suicidal. I did not want that he makes a big fuss about it.
 
lamargue

lamargue

concupiscent soul
Jun 5, 2024
334
sometimes i let it slip to friends that i possess high amounts of suicidal ideation. to be honest, i don't blame them for being dismissive. it's probably off-putting to enter into that kind of discussion.
but i mainly keep those feelings bottled up out of fear that i will be seen as manipulative in some way. that's why i usually joke about it, rather than expecting anything serious to come of it
 
PinballWizard39

PinballWizard39

Experienced
May 3, 2024
218
I mean, it is and it isn't. I guess for me, I just have this need to be believed and taken seriously anyway (stems from childhood shit). If I'm telling someone how low I am and they indicate they don't believe me or care, it makes it worse. However, I was kinda forced into admitting my suicidality in the last few days and as much as I think they do take me seriously, they've just said it's up to me to keep myself safe. Its true, but it just makes me feel like my life isn't worth bothering over as 10/15 years ago, I would have been sectioned for much less. I guess it just goes in my favor, and if anything, it's making me want to act sooner rather than later. It's just another reminder than I, and my life, don't matter, but it's cool.
 
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username12345

Member
Aug 18, 2024
53
With low key I wanted to say in this context the following: I wanrted to tell him that I am low key suicidal. I did not want that he makes a big fuss about it.
Oh okay well yeah only Black people are supposed to use the phrase
 
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anon554

Member
Aug 27, 2024
19
I told my sister and never again will I mention it seriously to someone. All in all I think I'm at least very seriously in danger of committing. I don't cut or anything because I don't want to be caught.
 
Emeralds

Emeralds

Member
Aug 29, 2024
8
It's not important to me if people would believe me or not. It wouldn't change anything. The important thing is that I know how serious my intentions are. No one else can know that.I don't talk about being suicidal irl. Nothing good would come of it. If I told someone and they took me seriously, they would try to stop me.
 
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wCvML2

Member
Nov 15, 2021
356
Whenever my suicidal ideation is taken seriously, the first thing on the agenda is restricting methods even if my plans are far into the future and are not immediate or even if I'm still indecisive, so I'd rather it not be taken seriously. But regarding the other problems that are causing the ideation directly or indirectly, it's more important for me that they are taken seriously than the result of them which is the suicidal ideation. I don't think my suicidal ideation is a problem in it of itself, but only a symptom.