Maybe a weird question. I am very exhausted and need to save energy. I think I watched an interview with Slavoj Zizek where he said. As a young child he believed in order to make more children a man and a woman had to work very hard together. Like a really tiring and exhausting project. This is what I can remember.
I cannot really say what I thiought. I think I did not question the things to that time. My parents were horrible at raising kids. They told me the story with the stork is bullshit. Children come from pregnant women. And when I asked how women actually become pregnant my mom only giggled and said we discuss that another time. My dad was also pretty useless. I think it is pretty stupid to be embarrassed in front of your kids about sexuality. It is simply our nature. I think I could have profited of some open talks about that topic. I lacked a lot of knowledge in this instance. And school was not very helpful either. However my parents made way worse mistakes than to hide that truth.
I have a friend whose parents were very open about sexuality with him at an early age. Interestingly this had some negative impact on him. He started to watch hardcore porn pretty early I am not sure when exactly but maybe 12-13? He told me this desensitized him for less explicit content. I was way older when I watched the first hardcore porn similar to my other friends. And based on our different experiences one could drew the conclusion teenagers should not consume such content at a young age. However this is exactly what happens in the current generation.
To the core question of that title. I am not sure how old I was I think it was primary school I heard different stories on the schoolyard. Sorry for being so explicit but either anal or vaginal sex would lead to new children. I was confused by that. Later when we talked in our school lessons I learned the truth. However also at school the teachers were very restrictive with the information. It was the opposite of what one can read in some shocking news outlets articles. I am not sure how much that changed this policy. But I think in the US this topic is way more polarized (sadly) than in my country.
One thing to add: I watched with my mom sitcoms like Two and a Half men or Scrubs etc. and did not understand some jokes. And she as always felt too embarrassed to explain them to me. I think such a behavior is pretty childish and based on a wrong understanding of sexuality. However as I said she made way way worse decisions than that.
I cannot really say what I thiought. I think I did not question the things to that time. My parents were horrible at raising kids. They told me the story with the stork is bullshit. Children come from pregnant women. And when I asked how women actually become pregnant my mom only giggled and said we discuss that another time. My dad was also pretty useless. I think it is pretty stupid to be embarrassed in front of your kids about sexuality. It is simply our nature. I think I could have profited of some open talks about that topic. I lacked a lot of knowledge in this instance. And school was not very helpful either. However my parents made way worse mistakes than to hide that truth.
I have a friend whose parents were very open about sexuality with him at an early age. Interestingly this had some negative impact on him. He started to watch hardcore porn pretty early I am not sure when exactly but maybe 12-13? He told me this desensitized him for less explicit content. I was way older when I watched the first hardcore porn similar to my other friends. And based on our different experiences one could drew the conclusion teenagers should not consume such content at a young age. However this is exactly what happens in the current generation.
To the core question of that title. I am not sure how old I was I think it was primary school I heard different stories on the schoolyard. Sorry for being so explicit but either anal or vaginal sex would lead to new children. I was confused by that. Later when we talked in our school lessons I learned the truth. However also at school the teachers were very restrictive with the information. It was the opposite of what one can read in some shocking news outlets articles. I am not sure how much that changed this policy. But I think in the US this topic is way more polarized (sadly) than in my country.
One thing to add: I watched with my mom sitcoms like Two and a Half men or Scrubs etc. and did not understand some jokes. And she as always felt too embarrassed to explain them to me. I think such a behavior is pretty childish and based on a wrong understanding of sexuality. However as I said she made way way worse decisions than that.
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