Venting How do you say a friend about your ctb thoughts?

[JonathanBrisby]

Hey there, I'm new here. I've been reading this site for a while, really like the accepting atmosphere here. It's so nice to be able to read honest opinions about all these things. You guys are great! If it's ok to say so hah

So, I was wondering if you had a good experience of telling your (best) friend about you wanting to ctb? How was it? Do you think it's a thing that should be done or better not to?
Actually, I think I just need a little more courage to tell them, that's why I write all this. However, I'm truly interested in your stories if there are some.

(vent below)
I have a great friend, we are really close and basically, the only thing they don't know about me is that I'm feeling on edge all this year. I wasn't sure if I make it till December but here we are huh.
Why do I want them to know? Because I'm tired of feeling so bad and not being able to throw this feeling off somewhere. I mean, I just want someone to recognize I'm struggling (however, hotline or smth doesn't really help). I don't want to scare them off too much and I know they will support me (emotionally) 100%, I'm just not sure how to put it in words. Like, "hey you know, I want to ctb so bad but you please don't worry, I've survived all these years so I will stay here for some time more" ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Sorry if it's not so clear, my head is a mess rn.

 

[edu0z]

Hey there, I'm new here. I've been reading this site for a while, really like the accepting atmosphere here. It's so nice to be able to read honest opinions about all these things. You guys are great! If it's ok to say so hah

So, I was wondering if you had a good experience of telling your (best) friend about you wanting to ctb? How was it? Do you think it's a thing that should be done or better not to?
Actually, I think I just need a little more courage to tell them, that's why I write all this. However, I'm truly interested in your stories if there are some.

(vent below)
I have a great friend, we are really close and basically, the only thing they don't know about me is that I'm feeling on edge all this year. I wasn't sure if I make it till December but here we are huh.
Why do I want them to know? Because I'm tired of feeling so bad and not being able to throw this feeling off somewhere. I mean, I just want someone to recognize I'm struggling (however, hotline or smth doesn't really help). I don't want to scare them off too much and I know they will support me (emotionally) 100%, I'm just not sure how to put it in words. Like, "hey you know, I want to ctb so bad but you please don't worry, I've survived all these years so I will stay here for some time more" ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Sorry if it's not so clear, my head is a mess rn.

When I told my best friend, he already knew that I had been depressed for some time (maybe you should start there). Then one day I woke up very scared because I was no longer able to contain the desire to do CTB... so I called him on the phone and told him, and everything went well. Since then that has given me confidence to go telling one by one to my other friends, partner, family, etc... all my social relationships have changed, but for the better. I feel that now the bonds are closer and truer, because before with everyone I only limited myself to making myself happy and extrovertive and the one who is always well.

 

[cambrai33]

When I told my best friend, he already knew that I had been depressed for some time (maybe you should start there). Then one day I woke up very scared because I was no longer able to contain the desire to do CTB... so I called him on the phone and told him, and everything went well. Since then that has given me confidence to go telling one by one to my other friends, partner, family, etc... all my social relationships have changed, but for the better. I feel that now the bonds are closer and truer, because before with everyone I only limited myself to making myself happy and extrovertive and the one who is always well.

I tell people that I don't feel myself anymore and that I'm trying to get help which is true. I guess telling someone I want to ctb can be too much for them to process, it's like transferring a burden to them that they didn't ask for, yes people are different and some can deal with it but many can't

So for me to keep the friend I leave the finality of my outlook hidden away

 

[edu0z]

I tell people that I don't feel myself anymore and that I'm trying to get help which is true. I guess telling someone I want to ctb can be too much for them to process, it's like transferring a burden to them that they didn't ask for, yes people are different and some can deal with it but many can't

So for me to keep the friend I leave the finality of my outlook hidden away

you have a lot of reason too... that's why I didn't tell anyone, I didn't want to make them feel responsible. That's why I think unless you've decided you want to recover, you shouldn't tell them.

 

[LADY007]

Hey there, I'm new here. I've been reading this site for a while, really like the accepting atmosphere here. It's so nice to be able to read honest opinions about all these things. You guys are great! If it's ok to say so hah

So, I was wondering if you had a good experience of telling your (best) friend about you wanting to ctb? How was it? Do you think it's a thing that should be done or better not to?
Actually, I think I just need a little more courage to tell them, that's why I write all this. However, I'm truly interested in your stories if there are some.

(vent below)
I have a great friend, we are really close and basically, the only thing they don't know about me is that I'm feeling on edge all this year. I wasn't sure if I make it till December but here we are huh.
Why do I want them to know? Because I'm tired of feeling so bad and not being able to throw this feeling off somewhere. I mean, I just want someone to recognize I'm struggling (however, hotline or smth doesn't really help). I don't want to scare them off too much and I know they will support me (emotionally) 100%, I'm just not sure how to put it in words. Like, "hey you know, I want to ctb so bad but you please don't worry, I've survived all these years so I will stay here for some time more" ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Sorry if it's not so clear, my head is a mess rn.

Glad you are here.. This site is great. About your question... I only know what I would do and I would explain my mental/emotional/physical problems but I would never disclose wanting to cbt. No matter how close the person may be, it's too much pressure to know about it but stay quiet and not try to talk you out of it. Just my rule.

 

[cambrai33]

Hey there, I'm new here. I've been reading this site for a while, really like the accepting atmosphere here. It's so nice to be able to read honest opinions about all these things. You guys are great! If it's ok to say so hah

So, I was wondering if you had a good experience of telling your (best) friend about you wanting to ctb? How was it? Do you think it's a thing that should be done or better not to?
Actually, I think I just need a little more courage to tell them, that's why I write all this. However, I'm truly interested in your stories if there are some.

(vent below)
I have a great friend, we are really close and basically, the only thing they don't know about me is that I'm feeling on edge all this year. I wasn't sure if I make it till December but here we are huh.
Why do I want them to know? Because I'm tired of feeling so bad and not being able to throw this feeling off somewhere. I mean, I just want someone to recognize I'm struggling (however, hotline or smth doesn't really help). I don't want to scare them off too much and I know they will support me (emotionally) 100%, I'm just not sure how to put it in words. Like, "hey you know, I want to ctb so bad but you please don't worry, I've survived all these years so I will stay here for some time more" ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Sorry if it's not so clear, my head is a mess rn.

I don't tell them

I tell them I don't remember normal me and I feel really low inside but I'm getting help

Telling them you want to ctb transfers a burden to them that they can find impossible to process, it's a real tough call and context is everything.

Keep trying to get help, I can see you want it, hotlines may not work but if you look hard enough there could be a solution (or at least something that makes a day slightly better than the last)

Keep posting here, we are all struggling in our own ways

 

[JonathanBrisby]

When I told my best friend, he already knew that I had been depressed for some time (maybe you should start there). Then one day I woke up very scared because I was no longer able to contain the desire to do CTB... so I called him on the phone and told him, and everything went well. Since then that has given me confidence to go telling one by one to my other friends, partner, family, etc... all my social relationships have changed, but for the better. I feel that now the bonds are closer and truer, because before with everyone I only limited myself to making myself happy and extrovertive and the one who is always well.

Oh I'm really glad it went well for you! Thank you for sharing!

I tell people that I don't feel myself anymore and that I'm trying to get help which is true. I guess telling someone I want to ctb can be too much for them to process, it's like transferring a burden to them that they didn't ask for, yes people are different and some can deal with it but many can't

So for me to keep the friend I leave the finality of my outlook hidden away

Glad you are here.. This site is great. About your question... I only know what I would do and I would explain my mental/emotional/physical problems but I would never disclose wanting to cbt. No matter how close the person may be, it's too much pressure to know about it but stay quiet and not try to talk you out of it. Just my rule.

Hmm you're probably right. I never thought about this as like transferring a burden, perhaps because when I've been told by another friend about their want to ctb it wasn't such a shock for me. But I agree, people are different. I'll think about it more, thank you all!

I don't tell them

I tell them I don't remember normal me and I feel really low inside but I'm getting help

Telling them you want to ctb transfers a burden to them that they can find impossible to process, it's a real tough call and context is everything.

Keep trying to get help, I can see you want it, hotlines may not work but if you look hard enough there could be a solution (or at least something that makes a day slightly better than the last)

Keep posting here, we are all struggling in our own ways

I'm glad if you're getting help, hope it gets better for you!
And thank you! I guess I do want to get help, however, when triggered I'm not so sure huh