How do you make it less painful for your lived-in partner before you CTB?

[born2win]

I really do not know how to make it at least less painful for my live-in partner when i do escape her arms under the cover of night. I mean, is there anything you would do first before leaving? Are there ways i can do before i go for her psychology?

Of course, all of us dont want to leave our loved ones damaged.

 

[Scythe]

My advice is to discuss this issue with them at least 4 weeks before you plan to suicide. If you think there's no way you will want to live, you can also advise your partner after you tell them that you will kill yourself to enjoy the time left with you, and make some fondful memories together. To do things you've wanted to do. (Or they might react badly and cut ties with you to run away from this issue) If you think there's a way you can recover, you can always tell then that you want to die and then ask for help. This is just some food for thought, although if you are to talk about it, you have to be prepared for consequences like maybe they overreact or get you stuck in an asylum. But if you don't talk to your partner about anything before you die, please at least leave a note, talking about ur reasons because they might blame themselves for your suicide and suffer tremendously.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

It you have thought it through and really are intent on ctb, don't tell anyone, not even your SO or live-in partner. Nothing good is going to come from doing that. Depending on how they react, you may find yourself institutionalized, if they decide to seek help for you. At best, they can, at least, take steps to make it difficult for you to ctb, or tell others, including your family, of your plans. Nope, ctb is a very personal decision and needs to kept at that level, if, indeed, you are serious about it. People who are on the fence oftentimes tell others. But, it is more of a cry for help. If you want help, by all means tell someone. If not, keep it to yourself. You can still tell your SO, or live-in, how much you care for them and how much it means that they are in your life, and how glad you are that they are in your life. Leave them a note or letter telling them how grateful you were to have known them and how much it has meant to you. Make it clear that your ctb had absolutely nothing to do with them.

 

[Hollowillow]

When I demanded to be kept in a psych ward thinking I'd get faster therapy, I was just abandonned & abused. They made me even more suicidal & I'm now agoraphobic.

A man was there with me, he tried to CO with his car. He was super positive "just a bump on the road... I just need to be kinder to people" but the judge forced him to stay.

I saw his wife visit. A fancy stuck up. Demanding perfection. No place for his needs & genuine feelings of worry... He was just tired to sacrifice his needs to please everyone at his peril, but thought he had to do more... His wife demanded it... I thought that he doesn't need a suicide, he just needs a divorce... Or to tell her to back off and build a man cave in the basement.

If you really want to avoid hurting her... Break up a month in advance. But maybe that would hurt her self esteem more... Than the grief of losing a loved one. I wanted to joke about telling her you found out you're gay, but that would invaludate the past.

The only way would be to stay alive & suffer ..

You can tell her about your reasons that life is unbearable... But she can't possibly let you go, society thinks it's like being complucit if murder if she doesn't call the cops to lock the crazy criminal "for his own good" to be shamed, broken, dominated into submission, lobotomized & castrated with drugs...

How much do you trust her... Maybe hints that your life sucks, that she's the only good thing...

Being fully happy then bam would be too sudden... Telling you pkan to ctb is too risky...

Lots of depressed hints without talking about death?

 

[born2win]

So is it better to leave a note or not? im conflicted

 

[TydalWave]

So is it better to leave a note or not? im conflicted

Constantly going back and forth on this myself. If people's natural way of reacting is this happening to their loved one is to detach to protect themselves, then I can't imagine that leaving a note will benefit my loved ones either.

I feel like I owe it to them to let them know but also am not sure if that is what is actually best for them. fuck.

 

[born2win]

Constantly going back and forth on this myself. If people's natural way of reacting is this happening to their loved one is to detach to protect themselves, then I can't imagine that leaving a note will benefit my loved ones either.

I feel like I owe it to them to let them know but also am not sure if that is what is actually best for them. fuck.

Yes, even know deep inside we all know that once we are dead, we're dead and none of it will matter to us since we wont be around to know anymore. However, for them, it's difficult for me much more than SI

 

[makethepainstop]

I really do not know how to make it at least less painful for my live-in partner when i do escape her arms under the cover of night. I mean, is there anything you would do first before leaving? Are there ways i can do before i go for her psychology?

Of course, all of us dont want to leave our loved ones damaged.

It my marine boyfriend was still here I'd probably not be on SS. He was an almost instant recharge of positive energy. I wish my live in man was still here.Ok, damn that hurts!

 

[born2win]

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It my marine boyfriend was still here I'd probably not be on SS. He was an almost instant recharge of positive energy. I wish my live in man was still here.Ok, damn that hurts!

Dont do me like that, anyway, i still believe my girl is strong she's surrounded by her family. Still.. ive seen her cry and that replays to my mind every time i think of CTB and it hurts the same. Im still figuring out how to make it less hurtful. Did your man say goodbye to you before he CTB?

 

[makethepainstop]

NSW my psycho little sister and my idiot niece, ran him off Twice. I should have never let them move in. My marine said he'd rather be homeless , than live with them. My retarded relatives had and still are to stupid to figure out, I needed him to live. But happily my sn should be here soon. Then I can due and the can fuck off.

 

[pleaserethink]

When I demanded to be kept in a psych ward thinking I'd get faster therapy, I was just abandonned & abused. They made me even more suicidal & I'm now agoraphobic.

A man was there with me, he tried to CO with his car. He was super positive "just a bump on the road... I just need to be kinder to people" but the judge forced him to stay.

I saw his wife visit. A fancy stuck up. Demanding perfection. No place for his needs & genuine feelings of worry... He was just tired to sacrifice his needs to please everyone at his peril, but thought he had to do more... His wife demanded it... I thought that he doesn't need a suicide, he just needs a divorce... Or to tell her to back off and build a man cave in the basement.

If you really want to avoid hurting her... Break up a month in advance. But maybe that would hurt her self esteem more... Than the grief of losing a loved one. I wanted to joke about telling her you found out you're gay, but that would invaludate the past.

The only way would be to stay alive & suffer ..

You can tell her about your reasons that life is unbearable... But she can't possibly let you go, society thinks it's like being complucit if murder if she doesn't call the cops to lock the crazy criminal "for his own good" to be shamed, broken, dominated into submission, lobotomized & castrated with drugs...

How much do you trust her... Maybe hints that your life sucks, that she's the only good thing...

Being fully happy then bam would be too sudden... Telling you pkan to ctb is too risky...

Lots of depressed hints without talking about death?

This is a really tough one but I feel like you're the only one with some "solutions" to this…idk about the last part might also fire backwards . Like where did this all come from all of a sudden, then bam and that may lead to "could I have done more?" which might lead to regret emotions which are probably not wanted here…just seems like a really really difficult situation. I think maybe breaking up at least 6 months before might help a little bit. At that point it's a breakup with the emotions that comes with and long enough time to maybe not make the dots to connect the breakup with the suicide. Although this is a tough one