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oblivion_seeker
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- Sep 27, 2020
- 26
Hi everyone, sorry I've been posting quite a bit recently after a long time offline.
I go from feeling suicidal to wanting to give life another shot quite frequently, and have been this way for a few years now. Sometimes I'm just momentarily suicidal, when I feel out of control of my emotions and backed into a corner, whereas other times it's more long term - I'll spend time thinking about methods, destinations, preparations, dates etc. So I suppose my question is how do you know it's 100%, absolutely time to CBT? I mean I guess 100% is a little ambitious...but how can you make sure that you're as certain as you can be it's the right thing to do?
A bit of context: I'm 23, living with my parents, unemployed, criminal record, no romantic relationships and only friendships online, still very much grieving a loss that happened almost a year ago, no motivation or desire to do anything but lay in my bed sleeping and scrolling through my phone even when I'm feeling relatively 'okay'. Always exhausted, emotionally fragile, defensive...and have been this way for almost a decade. Life just feels too much for me, and after 2020 being an awful year (loss of a loved one, criminal record, loss of job) and the start of this year being pretty awful too (rejections concerning both jobs and romantic relationships) I just don't see how I'm ever gonna get out of this rut. 2018 and 2019 were also awful due to similar (ish) circumstances. I thought after speaking to this guy maybe I had found something to live for but I ruined that with my insecurity and need for attention, so I feel like once again I'm back at square one and I'm just done. I don't want to try anymore. I don't want to get my hopes up again just to be let down. I just wanna go. But then deep down I know I don't - I just want my life to have some kind of purpose and positivity again but from previous experiences this just doesn't seem attainable...sorry this has just turned into a massive rant about my life! Well done if you actually bother reading it all lol.
But yeah in conclusion : How do you know whether CBTing is the right choice for you?
I go from feeling suicidal to wanting to give life another shot quite frequently, and have been this way for a few years now. Sometimes I'm just momentarily suicidal, when I feel out of control of my emotions and backed into a corner, whereas other times it's more long term - I'll spend time thinking about methods, destinations, preparations, dates etc. So I suppose my question is how do you know it's 100%, absolutely time to CBT? I mean I guess 100% is a little ambitious...but how can you make sure that you're as certain as you can be it's the right thing to do?
A bit of context: I'm 23, living with my parents, unemployed, criminal record, no romantic relationships and only friendships online, still very much grieving a loss that happened almost a year ago, no motivation or desire to do anything but lay in my bed sleeping and scrolling through my phone even when I'm feeling relatively 'okay'. Always exhausted, emotionally fragile, defensive...and have been this way for almost a decade. Life just feels too much for me, and after 2020 being an awful year (loss of a loved one, criminal record, loss of job) and the start of this year being pretty awful too (rejections concerning both jobs and romantic relationships) I just don't see how I'm ever gonna get out of this rut. 2018 and 2019 were also awful due to similar (ish) circumstances. I thought after speaking to this guy maybe I had found something to live for but I ruined that with my insecurity and need for attention, so I feel like once again I'm back at square one and I'm just done. I don't want to try anymore. I don't want to get my hopes up again just to be let down. I just wanna go. But then deep down I know I don't - I just want my life to have some kind of purpose and positivity again but from previous experiences this just doesn't seem attainable...sorry this has just turned into a massive rant about my life! Well done if you actually bother reading it all lol.
But yeah in conclusion : How do you know whether CBTing is the right choice for you?