Discussion How do you get over abuse?

[justletmedieplease]

Mental abuse that left you emotionally broken? It went on for 17 years. Could I ever recover?

 

[Miss_Takes]

I dont think you 'get over it' but I do believe most can recover at least to a degree if you can find the appropriate strands of help ... and these may or may not be the traditional routes. It comes down to what works for you and your ability to engage in the process fully.

 

[Life_and_Death]

i spent 16yr being abused after about 4 years om finally starting to get somewhere. its possible but its not easy

 

[Symbiote]

I wish I could magically get over my abuse, but that's just wishful thinking on my part. Some days are bad, real bad, and other days are okay. The days that are okay is when I don't think of it much or I'm so preoccupied with something that it doesn't appear. When it's real bad, like today for example, I'm stuck in a tunnel with no end in sight except the voices, memories, and actions forcing me to relive the pain and shame of those days. Time will help you get over it....time by yourself that is. Including anyone into the web of abuse just makes things worse because they don't understand why you're having a bad day and that it has nothing to do with them.

 

[_Kaira_]

I don't think I can, myself.

Personally I don't think anyone simply 'get's over' abuse. People handle things differently. Some are able to find the help they need and others can try to find help for years to no avail. I think you could recover, but it might take a lot of work and effort. I hope you do find comfort and find the help you need to recover.

 

[Darrenloses]

All the abuse I put up with scarred me for life. its made me incredibly bitter I could snap.

 

[Shero]

I don't, I channel and even direct it to myself.
I became my biggest abuser. At least this way no one can hurt me as much as I already do :)
It's a different approach that works for me. Destructive, but at the same time it serves the purpose of protection and shortening my end.

EDIT: I don't know your story, but there are alot of people that recover or "survive".

 

[muffin222]

I recommend seeking out therapy if you can. I notice that therapy has a bad rap on here, but I've personally benefited greatly from seeing my therapist over the past few months. I'm so sorry you've had to suffer for so long; I do believe recovery is possible for most people with the right tools and coping strategies

 

[stygal]

I personally didn't ever get over it and now it's pretty much too late to work on my resulting mental illnesses. They made my life really complicated and I should definitely have tried therapy methods or medication at some point.

In general I think that not getting over it but getting a way to live with it as best as you can is the way to go.

 

[Misantrope]

I can't.

That abuse led me into developing personality disorder and it will stay with me for the whole life..

My parents actually didn't trust in that diagnosis, they were in denial.. But still wanted to help, they would pay for my treatment, but my country offers none. DBT is not practiced here, so yeh I continue with my struggle. I'm 28 now and none of my symptoms have disappeared...