How do you eliminate suicide as an option?

[Everydayismisery]

May be the wrong website but idk where else to post since this is technically "recovery" and the suicide section gave me a ton of ideas as I sulked in misery for endless hours with everyone else for months despite recently making an account. I no longer want to visit that part of the site.

Basically I've been completely determined to end my life due to this movement disorder I developed. I'm only 27, my life did a complete 180 in the last 8 months and I am now housebound for the most part now, indefinitely. I have a family who loves me dearly and my brother gave me a pretty inspirational and tear jerking speech today.

I now want to fight these thoughts, persevere and be content with my life as it is. Idk how to do it though. As I said maybe this is the wrong place but I'd appreciate any advice you have, if maybe any of you are in the same place.

Thank you all

 

[Angi]

I now want to fight these thoughts, persevere and be content with my life as it is. Idk how to do it though. As I said maybe this is the wrong place but I'd appreciate any advice you have, if maybe any of you are in the same place.

I hear two very different questions. The one in you title is about taking away the option of suicide. The could maybe be done with increased surveillance. You say you are housebound, so someone making sure they keep any decent poisons and everything that resembles a rope from you might go a long way. Sounds horrible though, like keepig the desire but losing the option...
Then you ask for advice for dealing with life rather than ending it. I would choose this route. It looks harder to pinpoint, though. You sound like you have a decent amount of grief due, over a life you can no longer life with your illness. I am sad with you, this sounds terrible! I bet there are websites with resources for dealing with permanent illnesses. Have you read about the spoon theory? (https://web.archive.org/web/2019111...ticles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/) It does not apply directly to your problem, but I think it goes in a similar direction and may point you somewhere interesting. Also, I bet there is a subreddit sharing resources for your problem. (Maybe here? https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueChronicIllness/ ) If you are willing to try trust a stranger and have the means, try therapy! There are specialized branches for helping people cope with their physical health.

I hope you get to replace the life you lost with a new life for you!

 

[timf]

There are many options in life. You might stick a fork in your eye, you might hit your thumb with a hammer, or you might give all your money to a homeless person. The reason we do not give these options much consideration is that exercising them would hurt us. You might begin to put suicide in the same category or it might come to be in that category as a result of the more you focus on elements of your life that can be cultivated to being more satisfaction.

 

[rancidJLJL]

There is no way to completely eliminate. On the other hand completely disabling yourself could work. Although thats an extreme option. The path to recovery starts within. Perhaps talking to a counsellor who specialises in people with serious medical diagnoses might help?

 

[TalvezQuemSabe?]

Hi I am noob in this subject but I will say what I would do: You can study de mind set of peoples who overcome tragedy In their lives and still move on. Those people have the keys to not look at suicide as a option some how. And if you see their lives you can find something to inspire you in your worst moments. I have a close exemple in my life, and that would be my mom. And I am trying hard to comprehend what make her be who she is and maybe I can use that formula. Also find a spritual path always help to overcome barriers in their lives, I have a huge exemple in my life that was my past aunt, she was trafficked as a sex slave to Japan, when she got there she converted to Christianity (I'm not proselytizing it's just an example) and with this spiritual path she found tools that helped her overcome this tragedy in her life (later she was found by the Japanese police and was extradited to Brazil, my country) but the point is that with good mental tools that some spiritual paths offer, you can gradually stop looking at suicide as an option. I am trying to combine those things in my life. I suffer from depression for 10 years, I suffer from bipolar disorder and schizophrenia that developed at age 22. now I am 25 years old.

 

[HappyForever?]

If you've been there, I don't think there is a way to completely ignore suicide as an option. Even if you get to live the best life in the world, suicide would still be lurking in the deepest corners of your head preparing to strike when things start to go downhill. The only way IMO is to improve your life to the point where living is preferable to death, and when you get there cultivate hope that things will get better.

 

[Grav]

I have the same question as you and don't know how. I guess what would it look like for you to be content? Some things can't be changed but if you want x, y, and z to be "ok" can you get them or be on the path to get them? Maybe let the family in on what you're thinking about (not wanting to CTB and live a life)? It sounds like they're interested in your well being.

 

[Chronic]

What has helped me is medication and therapy.

 

[Lautronjay]

Until the moment you have a heart attack, or a grand piano falls on you, or however you die, you can't eliminate suicide as an option permanently. But what I can tell you from first hand experience is that you can live many years with suicidal thoughts and never make the decision to kill yourself. It might be handy to remember that if you keep feeling depressed and feel like it's a torment that will never end. You can also be productive and enjoy yourself at times. You're already perserving whether you know it or not.