How do you deal with misanthropy and the biological need to be social?

[Volatile]

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[Redt2go]

This site and the decision to die wby?

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I think I've just accepted that I will always take life's back seat, being the observer and rarely the participant. I'm okay with that because I find socializing painful and difficult, even though I can fake it pretty well when needed. I also acknowledge that I should occasionally dabble in it for the sake of my mental health if nothing else. But generally speaking I can take or leave people. That's not all bad, btw. Has distinct advantages at times.

 

[Volatile]

This site and the decision to die wby?

I suffer through the tension. I realize that I don't really have any coping strategies at all. I just endure everything and I'm so tired of it

 

[21Neberg]

I try to fit in. I really do. Though I tend to isolate myself, I do go to a party/see two of my 'closest' friends once every two weeks. (they still don't know a thing about how I really feel). It's just, I can't. I'm not normal, I don't have the social skills like any normal person does. I don't know why, but I just hate myself.

 

[Wolfjob_dayjob]

I might have BPD so I don't freakin' know but come over to my place when you find out!! but also stay away from me I'm scared and angry. (Do you like my emojis I pecked them just for you)

Edit: serious answer podcasts and fringe social media, going cross eyes numbing out on buses and in bathrooms overly cramped places or pulling faces and sighing to myself because eyy they can't put you in jail for being ugly and antisocial to protect your bubble becuase bad things happen when people broach it. Seriously.

 

[Broken]

Took me 15 years to realise I was lonely and that I'm capable of being sociable and likeable and receiving love. Came with a cost though as it also revealed my flaws and showed me that I'm capable of causing deep hurt and damage to others and myself. im hoping in the future I'll be lucky enough to put these demons behind me and make meaningful social connections again.

 

[Broken]

Took me 15 years to realise I was lonely and that I'm capable of being sociable and likeable and receiving love. Came with a cost though as it also revealed my flaws and showed me that I'm capable of causing deep hurt and damage to others and myself. im hoping in the future I'll be lucky enough to put these demons behind me and make meaningful social connections again.

Actually that's not entirely true as I have made meaningful social connections here on SS.

 

[Circles]

I'm tired of being somebody I'm not. I'm tired of all the walls you have to jump just to get an idea of who somebody is. In all reality nobody truly knows what anybody else is really like. Everyone lies, everyone wears a mask, everyone doesn't show their true vulnerabilities, everyone to some degree is fake. It's all a masquerade filled with vice and deceit and because of this every interaction with another human being I feel more lonely and more of a complete stranger than ever before. Every relationship is built on lies to a point. No one will ever understand me and I'll never understand them. It's never good enough to even try as most people will already have an opinion of you before even getting to know you.

 

[Memento Mori]

talk with other misantrophists about your misantrophy, riddle solved :P



socializing got only annoying, I'm glad if I only have to see and talk with someone for a short amount of time
there's no real connection to anyone but I also don't know what to do with my time since I have nearly no interest in anything by now

 

[Redt2go]

. I'm tired of all the walls you have to jump just to get an idea of who somebody is.

All of this is just yes. I'm so tired of meeting new people getting to know them and then losing them

 

[Redt2go]

talk with other misantrophists about your misantrophy, riddle solved :P



socializing got only annoying, I'm glad if I only have to see and talk with someone for a short amount of time
there's no real connection to anyone but I also don't know what to do with my time since I have nearly no interest in anything by now

Yup. Usually try to sleep

 

[kkatt]

I believe it gets easier after you have kids.. maybe because you've fulfilled your role in the survival of the species.
Thank the stars for the Internet. People you can just turn off at will.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I don't do much socializing because i'm a huge introvert. I don't mind being around others, but i'm the most happy and relaxed when i'm alone.

 

[Ldog9]

podcasts is a good answer and was a solution for me for awhile. but lately kinda got numb to them. watching smaller twitch streamers lately.

but honestly i was hoping to find more here and the discord. but thats kinda dead.

 

[TAW122]

I think I've just accepted that I will always take life's back seat, being the observer and rarely the participant. I'm okay with that because I find socializing painful and difficult, even though I can fake it pretty well when needed. I also acknowledge that I should occasionally dabble in it for the sake of my mental health if nothing else. But generally speaking I can take or leave people. That's not all bad, btw. Has distinct advantages at times.

Well put. I share similar situations as well. I'm mostly an shy, socially awkward introvert. I have Aspergers and it fucks me up in day to day interactions. There is a part of me that wishes I never had the damn disorder and just be able to have an easy way around socially and connect naturally, like most people. Then again, I'd enjoy some advantages of the disorder, such as being good at various fields, being detailed, and good memory (not sure if true). Another thing I also prefer is usually serenity and quietness as well, so during the times where I'm not constantly bombarded by people interacting is sorta like a break for me mentally.