how do you all cope with people ctbing on here?

[allesistgut]

hello.

i guess i'm finding it somewhat difficult having seen so many users leave us lately. i mean i'm pro-choice of course and am planning to eventually ctb myself, but it still hurts to see so many of us suffering. it does give me comfort knowing that the ones who are gone have finally found peace, but i'm still finding it a bit difficult. how do some of you deal with this? sorry if this is a bit of a stupid question, but thank you in advance.

sending lots of love to you all and a big hug. wish it could be better for us.

 

[Life sucks]

Unfortunately I don't have a way. Being in constant pain and other problems isn't a way to cope.

 

[noname223]

I try not to come too close with members on here so that I am not traumatized which can happen I think.
Here is a thread of mine where I describe my coping mechanisms. The thread has a very similar/ the same topic.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...h-heart-breaking-stories-on-this-forum.82073/

 

[angiegirl30]

I'm finding it extremely hard. I've been crying for the past few hours. So I don't think I'm coping very well.

Sending lots of hugs and love your way. Hope you are hanging in there.

 

[Foresight]

Not well

 

[OrcWitch]

I don't really cope. It hurts and then goes away. I'm not a big feeler unless it's feeling sorry for myself, shameful to admit but it's the truth.

 

[Sanva]

it's sad and it makes me sad & angry that some people who seemed really wonderful have to take this path. i would never try to invalidate anyone's choice but i do wish there was another way sometimes. i try to remember it was their decision and they're at peace now.

 

[an_alias]

i pray for them. i pray for all the people here, as a collective of the damned. i have to accept deaths and suicides as peoples' own wishes, which i refuse to intervene on - i'll never know what it's truly like to be in their shoes anyway

 

[Grav]

Honestly I haven't formed any strong relationship with anyone on here so it doesn't hit me as someone I "knew". This could very well be because of me but I generally don't feel any connection to people who I've only met online, even people I would consider "internet friends" that I've never met ftf.

 

[Oblivion Access]

It is a strange feeling, to read about someone opting to exit life in real time. Sorrowful to know they saw no alternative, but also happy they are spared any future suffering; to no longer be beholden to a flesh cage and how repugnant this world can be. I pity their circumstances, but envy their resolve.

 

[Sherri]

I feel a bit of sadness that the member's life was unfair and brought the member to that decision, but I have to put my feelings aside if that's the members final decision, so I have to respect it, would like the same if it was me . Lost 2 good friends that I met here, cried for days, but they wanted out and wanted peace. They will live trough my memories of them till the day I die.

 

[Depressed Cat]

At first, it saddens me. It is saddening to know that someone like me, who was experiencing pain & suffering similar to (or worse than) mine has caught the bus. Even if I didn't meet them in real life, and even if they're on a different continent (as they usually are), I feel sad that life has been very cruel to them, forcing them to put an end to it.

Then, I think of it from their point of view. They have managed to put an end to their intolerable pain and misery, they have managed to escape everything that was causing them to suffer, they have left behind all worldly needs, wants, desires and miseries, they have successfully caught the bus and they have found eternal, everlasting peace.

Looking at their CTB from their own point of view is quite a relieving and comforting feeling that helps me overcome the initial sadness.

Also, I envy them a bit for having caught the bus. I'm a bit of a coward who is afraid of my SI kicking in and preventing me from catching the bus. I envy those who manage to overcome their SI and CTB.

 

[whywere]

It crushes me a lot. Having been on SS for a while I use my coping strategy of trying to remember good things about a person.

We are all interconnected, and they are still with me in my heart and soul forever.

Walter

 

[allesistgut]

thank you all for your replies.

 

[Feeding Pigeons]

I try to keep in mind that they were suffering and are free from that pain now. It still bothers me. I hate it.

 

[gottago222]

its not the same as someone ive known in real life. im sad so many of us are suffering but i am comforted when sick and hurting people find peace

 

[LADY007]

hello.

i guess i'm finding it somewhat difficult having seen so many users leave us lately. i mean i'm pro-choice of course and am planning to eventually ctb myself, but it still hurts to see so many of us suffering. it does give me comfort knowing that the ones who are gone have finally found peace, but i'm still finding it a bit difficult. how do some of you deal with this? sorry if this is a bit of a stupid question, but thank you in advance.

sending lots of love to you all and a big hug. wish it could be better for us.

It is, of course, initially sad but knowing they are not suffering and got what they came here for is comforting. You realize you have to accept that things are the way they are when it comes to dying. I am 70. My high school best female buddy called me a few days ago to say that the third gal in our group just died at 70 years old. I quietly yelped and was plainly "punched in the stomach" from it but that is a very new normal now. 20 years ago it was who got a divorce or had another child. But now it is focused on and inevitable end of each of us regarding something we have never experienced before. Nothing like oh my friend is moving but she is coming back to visit, etc. No.....you will never speak to them again. Final.......Gone for good. Very sobering events.

 

[FuneralCry]

I am envious of them personally as they are free from pain, but of course it is sad how much some people suffer in this life. This life can be very cruel and unfair and more than anything I wish I never had to experience life in the first place.

 

[someonelse]

I find it really difficult. There was a member who passed away last night and was posting up until his last moments and it made me really sad. But I appreciated him sharing his experience because I'm ctb tomorrow using the same method as him. Overall I've found this site really helpful in dealing with my own plans and pain but it's hard to see so many people leave us. May we all find the peace we're looking for.

 

[Lost Magic]

It's bittersweet because you are glad that they are out of their living suffering but you wish there was a way for them to have found a new way of living. I will always say to people if you can find a path to recovery then more power to you. If you can't then I completely understand your decision to catch that bus.

 

[Manaaja]

My religion and spirituality or whatever you would call it. It's much easier to cope with a death if you can believe that it's possible to meet them again. But even still, it's really hard and hurts a lot.

I feel there's been too much death lately. Both on this forum and in my personal life. Good people die early, bad people live till 100 seems way too true. Fuck parents, stop causing your offspring so much pain and suffering.

I feel mentally too tired to take this anymore. I feel as if everytime I pray for good things to happen, someone I care about dies, and ten years gets added to the lifespans of all the narcissists in the world.

 

[Deleted member 8975]

Best thing to do is never get attached.

 

[Julgran]

hello.

i guess i'm finding it somewhat difficult having seen so many users leave us lately. i mean i'm pro-choice of course and am planning to eventually ctb myself, but it still hurts to see so many of us suffering. it does give me comfort knowing that the ones who are gone have finally found peace, but i'm still finding it a bit difficult. how do some of you deal with this? sorry if this is a bit of a stupid question, but thank you in advance.

sending lots of love to you all and a big hug. wish it could be better for us.

One way of looking at the other members of this community is thinking about the fact that you eventually will lose any real-life contacts that you might have, as well. This doesn't make the passing of an SS member any better, but it's as natural as real life, I think.

 

[orange]

Idk, I don't get too sad, just jealous. But then again I don't hang in the chat anymore.

 

[Pen>Sword]

You'll get used to it. Back then, I answer every goodbye thread, saying my sincere farewells and my feel good replies. I get burnt out by that because we see it everyday. I get desensitized by these goodbye threads, but doesn't mean that they are less valuable as a human being.

I get sentimental when someone familiar CTB, especially if their mental state isn't at peace. I feel sorrow knowing that they left this world in that uncomfortable mindset.

 

[S like suicide]

It's very sad ... it's true, but every time I think how deeply I would like to be in their place, I envy them and admire them .Obviously it's very sad but I know that they are at peace now, that their pain is over

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I never take it for granted that a member has ctb. When you've been around as long as I have and you see usernames resurface enough times, you know to take the goodbye threads with a grain of salt. Of course I'm glad if people decide they want to live, and I fully understand if their attempt failed and they feel embarrassed or what have you. But unless I see an obit, I don't assume they're gone. It's very easy to disappear from SS after all.

If I do see a confirmed death, I feel bad. I think it's a tragedy that we're all here, frankly. And I certainly don't revel in the notion of death, even though I obviously get it.