Venting How do people cry ?

[Worst creature]

I genuenly am not sure how people cry ? I remember all the Times ive wanted to break down so badly unable todo more than shed a few tears. does anyone have some advice for the next time I just want to break down about my sorrows ? when I was Younger I used to cry almost every single day after school for a few months maybe even years... and I miss beeing able todo this. My life has gotten no less miserable, quite the opposite actually and I need to cry

 

[Unlucky777]

i had experienced something similar to this but the reason why i wasn't able to cry is because i was taking these poisons called antipsychotics and mood stabilizers. they destroyed my ability to feel emotions and cry/laugh for example.

only after getting off all that garbage now am i able to cry sometimes and experience joy on rare occasions. are you taking anything that can cause emotional blunting?

 

[NutOrat]

I've been called a crybaby many times in my life, but by no means can I make myself cry on command. It mostly happens during times of intense spiraling into one of my frequent "meltdowns", or whatever they are, where I'm gradually overcome with panic, hopelessness, self-destructive thoughts, behaviors, etc.

It is more self-imposed than anything, you can definitely avoid getting to such an overwhelmed state by just not spurring yourself more and more, you know, if you have any sort of self-respect, which I don't. And I definitely do NOT recommend that way of making yourself cry, it does not lead to any relief afterwards, only more shame and self-hatred and other stuff you don't need more of.

I will say music affects it a lot, both the general mental state and the likelihood of crying. Again, I don't know if I would recommend listening to some very depressing/mean stuff to make you cry, it might just make you feel like shit before, during, and afterwards. That's true for any depressing and heavy media, regardless of how good it is.

Basically this post is just one big "don't be like me" message, I don't have any actual answers for you... sorry. I hope you can make yourself cry WITHOUT resorting to self-destructive methods Also yes, your medication might play a big role in this.

 

[fallen.dove]

are u on some medication that can cause that?

 

[Alpacachino]

Alcohol used to make me cry like a baby. One of the reasons I stopped it.

 

[Worst creature]

i had experienced something similar to this but the reason why i wasn't able to cry is because i was taking these poisons called antipsychotics and mood stabilizers. they destroyed my ability to feel emotions and cry/laugh for example.

only after getting off all that garbage now am i able to cry sometimes and experience joy on rare occasions. are you taking anything that can cause emotional blunting?

Im not always sober and ocasionally indulge in certain things like alcohol or cannabis. I dont do them often tho and cant pinpoint any corelation between drugs and the specific kind of emotional numbing ive been dealing with for a long time

 

[tonicer]

I couldn't cry for decades but last year i discovered romantic anime and i cried like i never did before.

I am nearly 43 and i never had a girlfriend or anyone (besides my mother) who told me "I love you." when i hear two characters in a show say it to each other i break down completely and cry my eyes out. Even slight touches like holding hands bring out the tears. Just writing this make me tear up.

I hope... i pray... i wish... i want this year to be different and that i finally get some romance in my life or i end it all. This body seems to be cursed somehow. Why is my brother good looking and i am not?! It's not fair. Sure he had his heart broken by bad women a bunch of times but before the heart break he experienced love, for a limited time but still i never experienced it.

Why can't i be a normal man with a wife and kids?! Why am i cursed with being alone?! I never harmed anyone and i always help others if i somehow can. I don't deserve this.

 

[venerated-vader]

Pre-testosterone I cried over the littlest thing. Since I started transitioning, crying has gotten a lot harder. I can squeeze out a tear or two, but it's nothing like it used to be. That being said, I think the goal of crying is getting out the terrible emotions, and to do that sometimes I just sit and dwell in how I feel. I give myself a time limit of like 15-20 minutes, and I just focus on all the shit that makes me miserable. Eventually it stops hurting and I feel better. But the key is to stop after a defined period of time so you're not stuck dwelling for hours and hours. It's a great strat for dealing with grief too.

 

[Unlucky777]

Im not always sober and ocasionally indulge in certain things like alcohol or cannabis. I dont do them often tho and cant pinpoint any corelation between drugs and the specific kind of emotional numbing ive been dealing with for a long time

ok yeah so alcohol and weed won't cause emotional blunting UNLESS the use is very severe, even at that it varies by person. stuff like SSRIs, mood stabilizers, antipsychotics, and a bunch of other psychiatric drugs will cause emotional blunting. for the 10+ years I was taking all that garbage, I was not able to cry or enjoy myself. I could not feel sadness or joy.

I'm not sure what else would cause this in your case. Have to think about this one

 

[Worst creature]

Pre-testosterone I cried over the littlest thing. Since I started transitioning, crying has gotten a lot harder. I can squeeze out a tear or two, but it's nothing like it used to be. That being said, I think the goal of crying is getting out the terrible emotions, and to do that sometimes I just sit and dwell in how I feel. I give myself a time limit of like 15-20 minutes, and I just focus on all the shit that makes me miserable. Eventually it stops hurting and I feel better. But the key is to stop after a defined period of time so you're not stuck dwelling for hours and hours. It's a great strat for dealing with grief too.

"give myself a little time"

I should try that

 

[JmPittsburgh]

This may sound kind of stupid, but I can always count on a sad movie to get me started when I'm in that "a good long cry would really help right now" situation. There are a few movies that always just hit me, so when I can set aside some free time, I'll put one on and let it all out. I'm mostly into classic Hollywood cinema, so this includes "The Best Years of Our Lives" (William Wyler, 1946), "The Umbrellas of Cherbourg" (Jacques Demy, 1964), and "Make Way for Tomorrow" (Leo McCarey, 1937) - that last one Orson Welles called "the saddest movie ever made. It could make a stone weep! And nobody went!"