How do I subdue my sex drive?

[Ambivalent1]

It's an annoying pest. I wish I was asexual.

 

[Holu]

It's an annoying pest. I wish I was asexual.

Prescription drugs + exercise would be my advice. My meds kill my libido, but exercise also does the same shit since your just gonna be too tired to be horny lmao

 

[soonatpeace777888]

Low sex drive isn't all its cracked up to be either. I get resentment from women I've been in relationships with because I don't have the stereotypical male sex-drive.

 

[CTBookOfLife]

It's an annoying pest. I wish I was asexual.

I feel this, honestly. I'm extremely hypersexual due to trauma and it's honestly Hell. Stay strong.

 

[Ambivalent1]

Low sex drive isn't all its cracked up to be either. I get resentment from women I've been in relationships with because I don't have the stereotypical male sex-drive.

Why care about that? Low sex drive is internal peace

I feel this, honestly. I'm extremely hypersexual due to trauma and it's honestly Hell. Stay strong.

Why would trauma cause our problem?

 

[Wehmut]

Although I get what you mean, being asexual doesn't mean you have no libido. You just don't experience sexual attraction. So you still have a libido and a sex drive. Also some people become hypersexual, because of sexual trauma. It does exist.

 

[_Alfarooq_]

It's an annoying pest. I wish I was asexual.

I know right? It all comes from puberty. Puberty is in my opinion the most useless thing god ever created. I have been suffering from it's evil effects for 7 years. When I was little, people were complimenting that my voice was perfect, had no life issues, no depression, and didn't know much about this stupid life so it was impossible for me to suffer. But ever since I was infected with the curse of puberty, I had sex drives, my voice became deep and ugly, and my family was making fun of it, I sounded like a bastard, I was older meaning I had more bullshit to worry about, and women were also a big nuisance to my life as well, and I hate being around them because they aren't friendly, and the list goes on.

Look at what puberty is doing to kids. It's making them have less manners, it's making them horny, changes their voice so they no longer are the same person anymore, and doing immoral things is much easier to fall into. What is even the point of it? What have I turned into?

 

[Ambivalent1]

I know right? It all comes from puberty. Puberty is in my opinion the most useless thing god ever created. I have been suffering from it's evil effects for 7 years. When I was little, people were complimenting that my voice was perfect, had no life issues, no depression, and didn't know much about this stupid life so it was impossible for me to suffer. But ever since I was infected with the curse of puberty, I had sex drives, my voice became deep and ugly, and my family was making fun of it, I sounded like a bastard, I was older meaning I had more bullshit to worry about, and women were also a big nuisance to my life as well, and I hate being around them because they aren't friendly, and the list goes on.

Look at what puberty is doing to kids. It's making them have less manners, it's making them horny, changes their voice so they no longer are the same person anymore, and doing immoral things is much easier to fall into. What is even the point of it? What have I turned into?

What? I'm well into adulthood

 

[bluesoapyskies]

antidepressants, exercise, what holu said basically. exercise can be anything mind you. even walking around for more than an hour a day will make you pretty tired. or if youre looking for a job, pick something physically demanding. when i was working the service industry, i had nooo sex drive. too tired every night lol

 

[withouthope]

Take up meditation

 

[Ambivalent1]

Take up meditation

How long for it to make a difference?

 

[Suicidal Ideation]

It's an annoying pest. I wish I was asexual.

if you dont mind me asking, did you have any trauma that causes this? in my experience, mine caused me to be hypersexual and also mentally ill.

 

[Ambivalent1]

if you dont mind me asking, did you have any trauma that causes this? in my experience, mine caused me to be hypersexual and also mentally ill.

Yeah but I've never noticed it's effects I don't think. My sex drive is higher as I've gotten older. I'm not around people due to lack of money so no options for sex.

 

[Suicidal Ideation]

Yeah but I've never noticed it's effects I don't think. My sex drive is higher as I've gotten older. I'm not around people due to lack of money so no options for sex.

I think its normal for sex drive to be more persistent as you get older. If you are hypersexual though completely different story because the drive is more abnormal in it's rate. You could try meds if you hate your libido but they will numb you down a lot. I don't know if exercising will help in your case since in mine, it kind of makes it worse. So maybe try meditation. I don't really do anything to fight mine my mood swings often just make me hate sex or crave it. Wonders of bipolarity I guess. I mean, do you feel it's having a negative impact on your life? Then I would suggest subduing it. But if not, imo its fine as long as your will is good.

"I'm so horny but that's okay, my will is good." - Kurt Cobain on Lithium.

 

[SpaceBoyEvangef]

To be honest, sleeping does it for me, when I'm horny and don't want to be, I just take a nap.

 

[withouthope]

How long for it to make a difference?

That depends on many different factors but if you take to it well and practice regularly you might find that it works rather quickly. There's many techniques but I would choose a mantra based one in which you focus on the third eye- the point between your eyebrows. It will shift your energy to your prefrontal lobe and calm your libido. Among many other benefits.

 

[Ambivalent1]

That depends on many different factors but if you take to it well and practice regularly you might find that it works rather quickly. There's many techniques but I would choose a mantra based one in which you focus on the third eye- the point between your eyebrows. It will shift your energy to your prefrontal lobe and calm your libido. Among many other benefits.

Other benefits? Like superpowers?

 

[withouthope]

Other benefits? Like superpowers?

Ultimately, yes. But that shouldn't be your main motive as that just strengthens the ego. A simple Google search will tell you of the many benefits. It can be life changing.

 

[Ambivalent1]

Ultimately, yes. But that shouldn't be your main motive as that just strengthens the ego. A simple Google search will tell you of the many benefits. It can be life changing.

So if one accomplishes the mastery of meditation then their life was worth living?

 

[Holu]

So if one accomplishes the mastery of meditation then their life was worth living?

I want to be snide and say no, but who am I to say no to focusing your life for the better. That said meditation is obviously not a "solve all" typa thing. Other things can make your life worth living. It depends on the person, so if you feel it's worth pursuing go for it

 

[withouthope]

So if one accomplishes the mastery of meditation then their life was worth living?

Yes, in the sense that it moves one closer to Self realization, which is awakening to your true reality and the realization that this world is just a dream, a projection of the ego mind.

But that's not why everyone meditates. Many take it up as a form of therapy and for a happier, more peaceful existence.

 

[Ambivalent1]

Yes, in the sense that it moves one closer to Self realization, which is awakening to your true reality and the realization that this world is just a dream, a projection of the ego mind.

But that's not why everyone meditates. Many take it up as a form of therapy and for a happier, more peaceful existence.

So you only exist in my mind?

 

[withouthope]

So you only exist in my mind?

Absolutely

 

[Ambivalent1]

Absolutely

But don't you exist even if I don't?

 

[withouthope]

But don't you exist even if I don't?

I'm not sure this is the right place for where this conversation is going, but I'm happy to continue it in private if you want to message me.

 

[reviveneon]

it's often a sign of good health, I'd say get yourself a partner, but that's perhaps easier said than done, especially if youre a man

 

[jar-baby]

Well, there are foods— anaphrodisiacs— you can eat. I think soy is one of them. Check out r/antisex on reddit. iirc people have asked this question over there and i'm assuming they have resources to answer it.

 

[Whistea]

1) Be horny.
2) Jerk off.
3) Don't be horny anymore.
Simple as that. I'll never understand guys that make such a huge deal out of their sex drive or have trouble keeping their urges in check. A shockingly high amount of people are barely even a step above animals in that regard.

 

[Kundalini Guy]

Sometimes you wish that but when it truly happens you will wish to be able to orgasm again

 

[Ambivalent1]

it's often a sign of good health, I'd say get yourself a partner, but that's perhaps easier said than done, especially if youre a man

I did well on tinder last decade. Not anymore. I could've met up with quite a few women but I was afraid of STDs and pregnancy.