How do I minimize the damage to my family

[kurisutinabestgirl]

Hey fellas

I am a young adult treading the path that leads down to CTB, who still lives with their family (I go to uni), and so far they've been my main reason for holding out and not offing myself earlier. But unfortunately things are becoming too much to handle, and while it greatly pains my heart that I will have to put them through this, I will probably CTB in this 2024, I decided I would stick around and wait one last year, see if anything changes, before I pull the trigger.

But having them is a really big obstacle for me in my plan, because just thinking about the suffering I will inflict upon them absolutely devastates me. But it has to be done. But how do I minimize the damage? I really worry that my Mom will snap and die inside after I CTB, what can I do to make this easier on her? I really don't want to cause pain, I wish I was just never born or forgotten, but unfortunately that's not feasible. What can I do?!

 

[walkingdead2023]

Hey fellas

I am a young adult treading the path that leads down to CTB, who still lives with their family (I go to uni), and so far they've been my main reason for holding out and not offing myself earlier. But unfortunately things are becoming too much to handle, and while it greatly pains my heart that I will have to put them through this, I will probably CTB in this 2024, I decided I would stick around and wait one last year, see if anything changes, before I pull the trigger.

But having them is a really big obstacle for me in my plan, because just thinking about the suffering I will inflict upon them absolutely devastates me. But it has to be done. But how do I minimize the damage? I really worry that my Mom will snap and die inside after I CTB, what can I do to make this easier on her? I really don't want to cause pain, I wish I was just never born or forgotten, but unfortunately that's not feasible. What can I do?!

It's hard when we have to think about others too! I don't know there isn't any way unless it's a natural death even with that family will grief.

 

[girlsboysthems]

same boat here, im trying to distance myself as much as possible, although it is not a good method but yeah. we arent as close as you are with your parents but your kid committing suicide sucks big time. oh well what can we really do about it.

 

[divinemistress36]

Leaving a note explaining why and it's not anyones fault. Either way it's going to hurt them a lot

 

[FuneralCry]

I'd agree with writing a note, maybe it could possibly make them understand.

 

[dinosavr]

Leaving a note is probably necessary to minimize the pain of the others. If you know her approach to life and death, you may mention stuff like "see you on the other side" or anything.
Also, it's important that you choose a place where your family won't find your body.
Another important issue is the day you choose. It's better if it's far from birthdays, holidays, etc. Maybe if your mom has a different sad anniversary, you can choose similar date.

 

[ObscureSunshine]

It is unlikely they will ever understand & certainty they will be devastated.

This is part of suicide & I believe something we must find our way through/make peace with(or not).

Sharing not to be harsh, but to be real.

To be clear, I made my peace with it the times I attempted.

Having said that, I have been left behind.

Having insight into the devastation they will likely live with for the rest of their lives on top of surviving in this sh*tstorm of the world is worse for me than the current misery of my life.

That could also flip for me tomorrow.

At the end of the day, all we can do is our best.

Good Luck

 

[UKscotty]

Suicide will always be tragic and underlines yet another failure of mental health services and society.

I guess a letter could offer some comfort, but it might cause more grief than it's worth.

 

[orAbleCk]

It's a major reason why I keep wishing for some tragic accident to befall me because I don't want my family thinking they didn't do everything they could to "prevent" me from ctb. Because they have exhausted every resource and what I feel is my duty to them is what has kept me alive for at least several months now. Like a debt I'll never truly get to repay but owe it to them to try before death? It's just so complicated because I feel this ever present and unshakable itch now to attempt that I'm afraid I'm not going to go in the way that I want, or make the amends I want in the time I have, and it's going to be an impulsive decision, which isn't ideal. :(

 

[tuey32]

This is the only reason I'm still here tbh

 

[Mayonaise]

Leave a heartfelt goodbye note. Also, some people probably manage to make their suicide look like an accident (i.e. a climbing accident), but obviously not everyone can do that. Hurting my loved ones is my greatest concern too

 

[ihavenothingleft]

This is me too. I don't know what to do anymore. I cant handle it anymore. People are cruel and Wicked. I have nothing to live for truly. I'll never have a family of my own. Never move out be stuck living here seeing the same people move on. It's torture

 

[Kta1994]

Leaving a note explaining why and it's not anyones fault. Either way it's going to hurt them a lot

Yeah in my case they know im in terrible chronic pain so ill write to make them understand how being dead is better than what i have now