I (21f) Wanted to get this out in some way so I'll say it here. pretty much I went to the fair with four other friends three women (20+) and one guy (21) I drove and the traffic was terrible but the day was actually decent when we got there. I asked 1M to drive back and I felt bad about it so I agreed to take one of my other friends back home when we got back to his car. We make it and everything is fine but as I'm backing out I ram into the back of his car. I panicked and went outside and when he didn't open his car door I opened it for him. He was sitting down trying not to lose it with his face in his hands and wanted me to leave him alone understandably. I looked back at the damage on both cars and it seemed like I just scratched the paint on both though I'm still not entirely sure how bad 1ms car really was past that. He was still in the car gathering himself and idk why but I didn't have the patience to wait for him to get out especially if I knew there was nothing I could really do and just said fuck it and told my other friend to get in the car and I drove off. I dropped her off texted 1m my insurance info and plate and pretty much stopped texting everyone I went to the fair with until I called one of them and they pretty much said that I've been reported for my quick exit. Like obviously I feel terrible but that doesn't matter because now i fucked up my best friends car, I have to pay for damages and I don't have the money. my friends that I've had for years are gone too and it's all because I wasn't paying attention to what was behind me and panicked about it in the most stupid and irresponsible way. I didn't apologize and I'm honestly not going to I mean what's the point now I've already fucked up so bad.
EmptyBottle
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- Apr 10, 2025
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Even if it is late, an apology shows your friend you care. Reading on some recount on the site (about someone living in a bad household), a not-so-nice brother was the only person out of a whole family to apologise for their behaviour (even tho time had passed), and the OP was grateful for the apology.
claracatchingthebus
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- Jun 22, 2025
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Depending on your jurisdiction, leaving without exchanging info could be illegal. I would be careful about talking about it with anyone.
If you text anyone and say "Sorry I drove off without exchanging info" technically that may be an admission to an element of a crime in certain jurisdictions.
I don't know if there's already a police report.
You texted a digital copy of your insurance info and your number to the person hit, but that may just be you trying to be convenient, it's not proof of driving away illegally without exchanging info.
Even with witnesses (ie, other people there saying you drove away), it's harder for anyone to prosecute without a confession. (Perhaps the friends were angry? You called your insurance, right?) The right to remain silent may be helpful if that applies to your situation.
An apology may or may not work. Sometimes apologies are admitted as evidence against someone.
You should really talk to a lawyer if you can get a free lawyer.
Even if you think you can get this all to go away by apologizing on the phone and explaining you have anxiety and were having an anxiety attack, that might be an admission and could be entered as an admission against you, even if it's possible hearsay, so you really shouldn't comment on anything regarding whether you drove away without exchanging info prior to speaking with an attorney. If there's been a complaint against you, it's not clear an apology would help if it admits to anything. Silence can be helpful.
The accident, however, clearly happened, so perhaps just apologizing for the accident (with no admission regarding driving away) would be okay of you are trying to repair the friendship, but it could be risky if the other friend brings up that you drove away without exhanging info and suddenly you syop commenting or say you can't comment. It may be better to just talk with an attorney first.
This sucks, but it could be a lot worse. You didn't accidentally kill a friend in the accident (and stuff like that happens a lot), you didn't get hurt (and in many traffic collisions people get permanently hurt), and stuff is replacable. You also have insurance. This is definitely an awful situation, but it could be worse, just please be careful if it's been reported as you having driven away illegally.
If you text anyone and say "Sorry I drove off without exchanging info" technically that may be an admission to an element of a crime in certain jurisdictions.
I don't know if there's already a police report.
You texted a digital copy of your insurance info and your number to the person hit, but that may just be you trying to be convenient, it's not proof of driving away illegally without exchanging info.
Even with witnesses (ie, other people there saying you drove away), it's harder for anyone to prosecute without a confession. (Perhaps the friends were angry? You called your insurance, right?) The right to remain silent may be helpful if that applies to your situation.
An apology may or may not work. Sometimes apologies are admitted as evidence against someone.
You should really talk to a lawyer if you can get a free lawyer.
Even if you think you can get this all to go away by apologizing on the phone and explaining you have anxiety and were having an anxiety attack, that might be an admission and could be entered as an admission against you, even if it's possible hearsay, so you really shouldn't comment on anything regarding whether you drove away without exchanging info prior to speaking with an attorney. If there's been a complaint against you, it's not clear an apology would help if it admits to anything. Silence can be helpful.
The accident, however, clearly happened, so perhaps just apologizing for the accident (with no admission regarding driving away) would be okay of you are trying to repair the friendship, but it could be risky if the other friend brings up that you drove away without exhanging info and suddenly you syop commenting or say you can't comment. It may be better to just talk with an attorney first.
This sucks, but it could be a lot worse. You didn't accidentally kill a friend in the accident (and stuff like that happens a lot), you didn't get hurt (and in many traffic collisions people get permanently hurt), and stuff is replacable. You also have insurance. This is definitely an awful situation, but it could be worse, just please be careful if it's been reported as you having driven away illegally.
