Discussion Highly sensitive people(HSP) with strong desire for ctb

[happiestman]

As an HSP person myself with strong desire to ctb, it would be great to know any of you here are with similar character, if so pls share your experience.

This natural personality trait has caused many problems in life and career as well, and also pulled away from social life end up with hardly any friends.

Just to give idea about what's HSP - Feel things more deeply ## Emotionally reactive ## Sensitive and takes simple things personally ## Takes longer to make decisions ## Upset quite often ## Mostly introverts ## More prone to anxiety or depression ## Feels very uneasy on loud noises or bad smells ## Light hearted and cry easily ## The effects of criticism are much amplified. For more abt it search "hsp personality" .

 

[Ghost2211]

I can see why that would make this world very abrasive for you and other HSP. In that position I would likely move out of the city to a rural area, and enjoy the quiet and lovely smells of nature. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. It must be hard enough to deal with on its own let alone how people must treat HSP.

 

[DyingAlf]

Yes I'm a HSP
Not so much crying these days, I'm so very numb, but definitely in the past.

 

[rt1989526]

Sounds like qualities of Borderline Personality which I have

 

[Superdeterminist]

As an HSP person myself with strong desire to ctb, it would be great to know any of you here are with similar character, if so pls share your experience.

This natural personality trait has caused many problems in life and career as well, and also pulled away from social life end up with hardly any friends.

Just to give idea about what's HSP - Feel things more deeply ## Emotionally reactive ## Sensitive and takes simple things personally ## Takes longer to make decisions ## Upset quite often ## Mostly introverts ## More prone to anxiety or depression ## Feels very uneasy on loud noises or bad smells ## Light hearted and cry easily ## The effects of criticism are much amplified. For more abt it search "hsp personality" .

Interesting, never heard of this as a classified condition before. I think I fit all of these except the bad smells/loud noises one. It would be cool if they had some objective measurement for a person's overall sensitivity.

 

[schopenh]

I figure this is really difficult and that basically next to nobody really understands how hard it is.

 

[happiestman]

Interesting, never heard of this as a classified condition before. I think I fit all of these except the bad smells/loud noises one. It would be cool if they had some objective measurement for a person's overall sensitivity.

You can try this.. https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/

 

[Spitfire]

Being sensitive to noise can kind of come and go. I can mostly ignore it, or deal with it.

Smell does not seem to change for good or bad to me.

 

[sadgirl2002]

I am definitely HSP... everything affects me a lot. I am an introvert and I react emotionally to things. I can't take criticism and I always knew that I was really sensitive, I didn't know there was such a thing as HSP. A lot of what you've said relates to me, I don't cry much anymore because I feel numb. I also have borderline personality disorder which makes things worse.

 

[Deleted member 20852]

I'm a HSP, I wish I wasn't.

 

[ecmnesia]

gosh, I never knew that was a condition. Just thought I was too soft and dumb, as many people told me.

 

[NeverGoodEnuff]

Just saw this after posting about it in A Lightbulb Moment thread. I wish I had seen this thread sooner as it explains so much. Except I have trained myself not to cry as in my family, crying made you a sissy and that was a bad thing.

How do you deal with it (HSP)? Other than being really reclusive?
Off the top of my head...

Visiting my mother is excrutiating. She is a hoarder and just being in her house is a prelude to an argument because my anxiety level goes through the roof. All that stuff!

Criticism (or what I perceive as criticism) throws me into the pit because I dwell on it, blame myself, how could I have been better. Dwell on it for years.

Smells and sounds...Do you smell that? Do you hear that noise? No, but I do. Makes me think I imagined it.

Decisions...don't even get me started.

Perfectionism in ALL things. I wash the dishes before putting them in the dishwasher.

Perception of others' feelings...well, that made me really good at my job as a nurse. But I suffer from it.

Violence in movies, etc., throws me into full blown anxiety. The thought of an argument brings on the flight response.

Yes, this former extrovert has become a recluse as a self preservation method. Yet the lack of social contacts is so depressing, a real conundrum.

I feel for those who are HSP!

 

[happiestman]

Just saw this after posting about it in A Lightbulb Moment thread. I wish I had seen this thread sooner as it explains so much. Except I have trained myself not to cry as in my family, crying made you a sissy and that was a bad thing.

How do you deal with it (HSP)? Other than being really reclusive?
Off the top of my head...

Visiting my mother is excrutiating. She is a hoarder and just being in her house is a prelude to an argument because my anxiety level goes through the roof. All that stuff!

Criticism (or what I perceive as criticism) throws me into the pit because I dwell on it, blame myself, how could I have been better. Dwell on it for years.

Smells and sounds...Do you smell that? Do you hear that noise? No, but I do. Makes me think I imagined it.

Decisions...don't even get me started.

Perfectionism in ALL things. I wash the dishes before putting them in the dishwasher.

Perception of others' feelings...well, that made me really good at my job as a nurse. But I suffer from it.

Violence in movies, etc., throws me into full blown anxiety. The thought of an argument brings on the flight response.

Yes, this former extrovert has become a recluse as a self preservation method. Yet the lack of social contacts is so depressing, a real conundrum.

I feel for those who are HSP!

Wow!! you put it very well.

Can't agree more. Perfectionism, drags me like hell and annoys others. Empathy is beyond a limit except when am angry n go insane.. I can watch psychological thriller movies and series although run away from such incidents/situation it real life.

Perception of others' feelings, and intuition - fortunately or unfortunately pretty good at it.. which done more bad than good :(

 

[Deleted member 23885]

Wow, ecnmnesia posted here. I hope she found peace, wherever she is. Life is full of suffering, but I wish you the best. Nothing in life is ever easy :(