Discussion Hi I’m new:) Anyone else here suffer from bpd and what are your coping mechanisms?

[freemefrompain]

Hi, I feel comfort joining here, my bpd has made me drift apart from all my freinds, and as I am no longer a college student and currently having difficulties finding a job, my parents currently aren't speaking to me and looking down on me. So yeah, very lonely and lost! My bpd coping strageies aren't stable, I no longer act promiscuous but sometimes binge drink and I need help with not making everyone leave my life. Any comment would be help hope I don't every annoy anyone here:):*

 

[Fr2]

From my experience and rather narrow point of view, bpd comes from periodical surges of inner feeling of connectedness there where usually is chronic disconnectedness (waves of secretion of the respective 'connection' chemicals in the brain there were the chemicals are usually not secreted or secreted with severe deficit).

So usually one feels down, unmotivated, foggy, lost, and then seemingly out of nowhere these bursts happen of immense energy and hope and belief in good, love etc. usually as a result of some more or less subtle triggers, like minor good events (these triggers can be very hard to identify at times).

The idea is, those surges of chemicals are normal, that is what should happen continuously, the manic behaviour comes simply from the fact that the person can't maturely handle those chemicals, the body doesn't have [consistent] experience with it, for it to have a balanced and productive response to it.
Give money to the chronically poor, and he will be overwhelmed and emotional and unexperienced and will throw the money away thinking he is investing. The same here.

I don't have a practical advice at all, other than see if the above feels right to you. And if it does, to just sit on it and explore the thing further.

 

[dramaqueen]

My coping mechanisms are suicidal thoughts...

 

[a_strange_day]

BPD is awful, I've lived with that condition for 20 years before starting to understand what it is, I destroyed my family and everyone around me and I was still sure to be the good one.
too late for me but for you maybe you should try DBT, I've heard a lot of good things about it, it helps you to manage your emotions, identify triggers and manage them etc...

 

[Morto]

BPD is awful, I've lived with that condition for 20 years before starting to understand what it is, I destroyed my family and everyone around me and I was still sure to be the good one.
too late for me but for you maybe you should try DBT, I've heard a lot of good things about it, it helps you to manage your emotions, identify triggers and manage them etc...

What do you mean by dbt? And how old are you to say that is too late for you? Thanks. Im bipolar also, type 1.

Hi, I feel comfort joining here, my bpd has made me drift apart from all my freinds, and as I am no longer a college student and currently having difficulties finding a job, my parents currently aren't speaking to me and looking down on me. So yeah, very lonely and lost! My bpd coping strageies aren't stable, I no longer act promiscuous but sometimes binge drink and I need help with not making everyone leave my life. Any comment would be help hope I don't every annoy anyone here:):*

What type of bipolar do you have? Are you on what type of meds? Ahhh and also how old are you?

 

[a_strange_day]

What do you mean by dbt? And how old are you to say that is too late for you? Thanks. Im bipolar also, type 1.

well I think we are talking about borderline aren't we ? if not then sorry being off topic

 

[dramaqueen]

What do you mean by dbt? And how old are you to say that is too late for you? Thanks. Im bipolar also, type 1.

BPD stands for borderline personality disorder, not BD that is bipolar disorder. Bpd is usually misdiagnosed with bp. But bp is a brain malfunction while bpd is a personality malfunction. Bpd is inherited while bpd not.. for effective therapy for bpd you are dupposed to go to a psychotherapist while for bp you mostly only have to regularly take medicaments.

 

[freemefrompain]

What do you mean by dbt? And how old are you to say that is too late for you? Thanks. Im bipolar also, type 1.

What type of bipolar do you have? Are you on what type of meds? Ahhh and also how old are you?

I am 18. And by dbt I'm sure they mean behaviour therapy which I had for around two years but my therapist was pretty lacking, can't really describe it other than she was clearly there to just get paid, but my town is known for having poor mental health support.

From my experience and rather narrow point of view, bpd comes from periodical surges of inner feeling of connectedness there where usually is chronic disconnectedness (waves of secretion of the respective 'connection' chemicals in the brain there were the chemicals are usually not secreted or secreted with severe deficit).

So usually one feels down, unmotivated, foggy, lost, and then seemingly out of nowhere these bursts happen of immense energy and hope and belief in good, love etc. usually as a result of some more or less subtle triggers, like minor good events (these triggers can be very hard to identify at times).

The idea is, those surges of chemicals are normal, that is what should happen continuously, the manic behaviour comes simply from the fact that the person can't maturely handle those chemicals, the body doesn't have [consistent] experience with it, for it to have a balanced and productive response to it.
Give money to the chronically poor, and he will be overwhelmed and emotional and unexperienced and will throw the money away thinking he is investing. The same here.

I don't have a practical advice at all, other than for you to look at what I wrote and see if it feels right to you. And if it does, to just sit on it and explore the thing further.

You sure know you're stuff. Thanks for all the details really appreciate that:) I am not good at science so try to avoid overthinking the science behind it all i just know my brain is not normal lmao

 

[Morto]

Ooooooopssss. My bad. Its just weird there is no big topic here about bipolar disorder, or am I missing something? Tks

 

[dramaqueen]

Ooooooopssss. My bad. Its just weird there is no big topic here about bipolar disorder, or am I missing something? Tks

May be because bp mostly cbt impulsively during depressions. And just fail safety while being maniac. While bpd having the highest suicide rates among other mental disorders

 

[Morto]

May be because bp mostly cbt impulsively during depressions. And just fail safety while being maniac. While bpd having the highest suicide rates among other mental disorders

As far as I know, bipolar disorder is known for having the highest suicides rates amont all the mental disorders...

 

[freemefrompain]

Ooooooopssss. My bad. Its just weird there is no big topic here about bipolar disorder, or am I missing something? Tks

Have you tried starting a topic on it yourself ? Don't be afraid I will be here to give my best advice for you don't feel secluded:)

 

[dramaqueen]

As far as I know, bipolar disorder is known for having the highest suicides rates amont all the mental disorders...

Impulsive ones may be.

 

[a_strange_day]

I am 18. And by dbt I'm sure they mean behaviour therapy which I had for around two years but my therapist was pretty lacking, can't really describe it other than she was clearly there to just get paid, but my town is known for having poor mental health support.

that's the most difficult part, find a therapist who really wants to help and who you trust, dbt group therapy maybe
I tried a lot of stuff, even EMDR, but nothing works, I've lived with that for too long or maybe I just dont want it to work

anyway good luck, you'll need it

 

[freemefrompain]

that's the most difficult part, find a therapist who really wants to help and who you trust, dbt group therapy maybe
I tried a lot of stuff, even EMDR, but nothing works, I've lived with that for too long or maybe I just dont want it to work

anyway good luck, you'll need it

Thank you for your advice I really appreciate it:)

 

[Dawn0071111]

I am sure I have it but refuse to get officially diagnosed. So I'm going to CTB to evade the whole thing.

 

[Bathsheba]

I have it but was only recently diagnosed. My 'coping mechanism' so far has been drinking between 1-2 bottles of wine a night, self harm and planning to ctb. But that's not just due to the diagnosis.. it's partly to cope with how my whole family are now saying of my diagnosis 'oh that explains everything ' like I've been basically mental or bad all my life and thank god they no longer have to blame themselves because there's an actual reason for it..

 

[Ruffian]

From my experience and rather narrow point of view, bpd comes from periodical surges of inner feeling of connectedness there where usually is chronic disconnectedness (waves of secretion of the respective 'connection' chemicals in the brain there were the chemicals are usually not secreted or secreted with severe deficit).

So usually one feels down, unmotivated, foggy, lost, and then seemingly out of nowhere these bursts happen of immense energy and hope and belief in good, love etc. usually as a result of some more or less subtle triggers, like minor good events (these triggers can be very hard to identify at times).

The idea is, those surges of chemicals are normal, that is what should happen continuously, the manic behaviour comes simply from the fact that the person can't maturely handle those chemicals, the body doesn't have [consistent] experience with it, for it to have a balanced and productive response to it.
Give money to the chronically poor, and he will be overwhelmed and emotional and unexperienced and will throw the money away thinking he is investing. The same here.

I don't have a practical advice at all, other than see if the above feels right to you. And if it does, to just sit on it and explore the thing further.

I think you're confusing bipolar for Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD.) I have both and they share a lot of the same symptoms. Even mental health people have difficulty telling them apart. DBT is effective for BPD destructive inner dialogue, but won't help a manic episode, since it's organically based. What I think is what you're describing in your discussion if brain chemistry.

 

[Final Escape]

I have never gotten it identified or treated and it stole my life. I think I have both complex ptsd and borderline. Only way I've coped is living on the fringes of society. I avoided getting married, having kids, struggled at jobs so I went into prostitution to avoid having a boss and more control over my work environment and hours. I know right? It's really embarrassing what ended up happening to me because of untreated issues. Had I had access to good long term talk therapy, trauma therapy, plus maybe dbt I imagine this could have been prevented. But we don't have a good way of treating maladjusted people currently. They just want to medicate u, throw u in prison, if they could kill u they probably would lol! I also use amphetamines and weed to cope with life.

 

[DepressionsAHo]

I really hope that person in your profile pic is you. If it's not, please realize that having an Instagram handle and it being linked back to here on a site like this could ruin that girls life. If it's you, go ahead, but if it's not. That's REALLY fucked up. Stock images are fine but not a picture of a real person

 

[Girobatol]

I have BD and I don´t like the meds because they take away all pleasure from life.

 

[hypo666]

the gym, gives me a routine and something productive to do, anabolic steroids {satisfies my risk taking urges} and someone to use as an emotional tampon. {basically someone paid to listen to my rants about how terrible and unfair the world is and what a terrible person Iam}I find expressing what is in my thoughts to someone provides relief.

 

[Ruffian]

I have never gotten it identified or treated and it stole my life. I think I have both complex ptsd and borderline. Only way I've coped is living on the fringes of society. I avoided getting married, having kids, struggled at jobs so I went into prostitution to avoid having a boss and more control over my work environment and hours. I know right? It's really embarrassing what ended up happening to me because of untreated issues. Had I had access to good long term talk therapy, trauma therapy, plus maybe dbt I imagine this could have been prevented. But we don't have a good way of treating maladjusted people currently. They just want to medicate u, throw u in prison, if they could kill u they probably would lol! I also use amphetamines and weed to cope with life.

There would be another holocaust for sure. Only there's a very small percentage of us so they don't bother. Yeah, my life fucking sucks, and I'm trying to do more than raise awareness. I'm trying to blow our shit wide open, but who the fuck will listen to a 51 year old white woman with a criminal history, hospitalization history, etc.?

 

[Eikuyuriki]

Hey, 19f and diagnosed a few months ago. I like to constantly create hobbies or interests. They don't even have to last longer than an hour. Just something you feel like doing that you can get engrossed in for a bit. Makes you want to reveal your worth, which is huge for me. I also do a lot of weed, which obviously helps as much as the first part

 

[Rachel74]

I am two people bipolar Rachel and Rachel. Rachel doesn't exist anymore and even sometimes when I think she's there BR is there. It's destroyed my life, my family, my relationships, my career. It's a fucking awful thing to have. Year after year it gets worse.
I wish I could offer some light and say it gets better but if I did I wouldn't be on here.
There are so many combinations of meds you can take but after a time they don't work then it's a new regime.
Carbmazapine and Venlafaxine have been the best and I was pretty stable for a few years with only the odd mania and major shopping sprees and sleeping around.
Since October I've been on the worse depressive episode and its not lifting. Sleep is my only salvation and taking illegal sleeping pills as my Dr cut me off.
I was going to try ECT but having read about it on here that's now a no.

Hey, 19f and diagnosed a few months ago. I like to constantly create hobbies or interests. They don't even have to last longer than an hour. Just something you feel like doing that you can get engrossed in for a bit. Makes you want to reveal your worth, which is huge for me. I also do a lot of weed, which obviously helps as much as the first part

Mine is jigsaws and I've started knitting. I'm crap at it but it keeps my mind free for a while.

 

[welshie84]

I have bpd and my coping with it I sleep a lot

 

[a_strange_day]

Only way I've coped is living on the fringes of society. I avoided getting married, having kids, struggled at jobs so I went into prostitution to avoid having a boss and more control over my work environment and hours.

This is exactly how I lived for more than 25 years, apart prostitution. Changing job every 1-2 years or as soon as people got too close, I've always lived alone, never got married, no kids, superficial/sexual relationships only, and if the person wanted more then bye bye. That's a sad life but I'm unable to do otherwise because I know well that sooner or later I'm gonna hurt people just for making them leave me while thinking I'm the bastard.