That is people for you.
Its always me, me, me. I've suffered more than you!
People love to pretend they've been through stuff they haven't so they feel like a warrior a survivor! Everyone is the hero of their own story, but with very fewpeople doing anything heroic.
Because people are so full of rubbish they can believe their own lies they tell them enough.
I have been through what your saying, and the way I dealt with it was when I realized the resentment was eating me alive I decided to stop wanting any recognition from anyone,
If the opportunity arose to speak with someone who understood I would take it, but otherwise I whikst I exist I'm the only one who it matters that knows what I've been through, how I've dealt with it. And a pat on the back saying "poor you" only makes me weaker and lowers the significance of what I've been through.
I know it's not nice that nobody else sees the pain you've got through, but if you learn to be independent you can grow.