Discussion Have you lost someone to suicide?

[suizsuicide]

Have you lost a friend or loved one to suicide?
How did you feel before and after they died,?
Has their death discouraged or motivated you?

 

[Lady Laudanum]

I knew multiple people who died by suicide, but none were family members or very close friends. One of them murdered all their family members before they shot themselves. I never noticed any warning signs. However, it's likely that I was just too wrapped up in my own problems to see what's going on around me.

I used to preach to people with trite sayings about suicide being a temporary solution to a permanent problem, and as I became a full-fledged adult, I realized that it was one of the worst things I could say to someone who is suicidal. I still don't condone suicide in any way, and I think that all of those people should not have killed themselves. I also think that the murder part of the murder-suicide was a senseless act of violence. However, I hope that oblivion is preferable to what they were going through before they took their own lives.

 

[Forveleth]

I haven't personally lost anyone but I knew this kid in kindergarten who was like, super troubled, and I found out years later after high school that he committed suicide and it wasn't surprising to me but it was still kind of disturbing. I'm guessing he just had a really bad home life and grew up in a very fucked up environment. RIP

 

[UKscotty]

Yes but I have been a member of groups like NA, GA, AA and CA. Suicide is very common in addiction.

 

[chobonzi]

I lost my father when i was 12 to suicide.

 

[iknowwhatyouredoing]

not exactly but i lost one of my best friends to a F overdose. i know that technically every overdose is a self inflicted death but i'll never be sure if it was intentional or not.

 

[baller]

Lost someone in a while ago to suicide, We were both still pretty young but not the closest. Always thought they were really cool and I always wanted to be their friend.

When they died I didn't really know what to do, didn't know how to handle my emotions or anything so I just cried a lot, could barely keep it together in my classes and I still grieve them to this day, especially on the anniversary.

Uh I dunno if it ever changed my opinion on suicide. I wasn't as suicidal back then but it's only once or twice made me double think about ctb and even if I did think about it, it was only for a moment

 

[DeIetedUser4739]

A few weeks ago someone on another forum I use told me they're ending it and gave me a link to the SN guide on this site. They hadn't been online for a couple weeks then someone else posted a link to a video of their funeral service. I was more surprised that it actually worked more than anything as I hadn't really heard about SN until then.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Nope, I never lost somebody to suicide and I never will because the only people who I even know are my family and they're all too pro life to ever consider suicide

 

[mehdone]

I've lost quite a few loved ones to suicide.
How did I feel before? I could relate to their suffering- I was and am going through the same thing. Life is not an easy thing, is it?

How did I feel after? Heartbroken. Severe grief for the loss of them- but at the same time hopeful that they finally found their peace. Years later, the feeling is the same. I have an empty place inside me where they used to be.

No discouragement or motivation except for one when I was a teen- we had an agreement that we would both give life an honest try, and if one of us didn't make it, the other damn well would. She didn't make it- and even though I have had multiple attempts since her death, that promise did help get me through some rough patches when I was younger.

 

[cait_sith]

A friend of mine jumped from the 5th floor (wich is not high enough to die usually) and immediately died, according to his mother, the thing is he wasn't ever suicidal or depressed but delusional and schizophrenic , he was there with his family being normal with them, also recently got a gf, then said he was just going 0n the balcony for a cig, then he just jumped probably spontaneously. Crazy how people survive their carefully crafted plans they make for years or how so many people on here suffer so much with si and he just jumps out of nowhere from only the 5th floor and dies instantly.

 

[iloverachel]

I lost an online friend to suicide
I met him on a depression support group and chatted with him for a few months.
I still remember his last message to me, talking about how hard it was to screw the nembutal cap off.

He was actually quite popular and well known

JJ Brine - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

 

[Meteora]

I knew about 10 people who took their own life. It was not a partner or family member but people I knew and had spent time with.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I've never lost irl friends or relatives to suicide or other people I knew irl. However, since I became a member here, I lost so many good people with whom I was in contact here. So many good souls that did not see any other way out anymore.

 

[Orange Cat]

A friend of mine walked to the woods near her house and shot herself when she was 15. Her father was abusing her and her younger sister. The two of them had been living with their grandmother for a couple of years. Her grandmother had gotten sick and was unable to take care of two teenage girls by herself. Social services forced them to go back and live with their parents. She killed herself a couple of months later.

 

[xenny]

my grandad shot himself when i was very little. i didn't know him well so i wasn't hurt too much. my uncle also died of overdose, but we still don't know whether it was suicide or not

 

[bookie]

My friends overdosed and jumped in front of the train