Discussion has any else been described as either mean/rude or pessimistic

[tsykoais]

i constantly get that. i mean i try to be as nice i can be but it's never appreciated or recognized and it's so hard to be nice 24/7 when i'm chronically depressed.

 

[hellworldprincess]

Imo people react hostile / try to make you look unreasonable simply because you remind them of the darkness within themselves.
They don't actually think that you're wrong for being pessimistic, but they're unable to confront their own struggles with life / the human condition.
Just like you, they try to be nice and positive, but when the cracks in this facade start showing, people start lashing out.
I also struggle with this constant expected dishonesty, but I've gotten kind of good at not saying anything instead.

 

[banger12]

i constantly get that. i mean i try to be as nice i can be but it's never appreciated or recognized and it's so hard to be nice 24/7 when i'm chronically depressed.

Oh yeah I definitely get that thrown my way, especially when I was younger. I am in fact a very pessimistic person but I don't try to be mean. Where "mean" comes from is probably misunderstandings due to my poor social skills but also because I used to be very blunt and honest and direct and ig people felt judged pr would rather I shut up. But I try to be kind.

 

[3/4Dead]

I'm constantly told I'm a pessimist, but everyone thinks I'm pretty chill otherwise. Nobody tends to have an issues with me as I'm generally very adaptable and agreeable

 

[tsykoais]

They don't actually think that you're wrong for being pessimistic

i 100% agree with everything you said here but i don't really considered myself "pessimistic" and i'm not really open to people to be about how i feel about most things. i'm just more withdrawn/introverted than anything. i notice that people just use words that have negative connotations around them without actually knowing what they mean to describe anything that they don't like. a lot of people don't know the difference between honest/blunt and pessimistic.

 

[banger12]

Imo people react hostile / try to make you look unreasonable simply because you remind them of the darkness within themselves.
They don't actually think that you're wrong for being pessimistic, but they're unable to confront their own struggles with life / the human condition.
Just like you, they try to be nice and positive, but when the cracks in this facade start showing, people start lashing out.
I also struggle with this constant expected dishonesty, but I've gotten kind of good at not saying anything instead.

This definitely makes sense. To a degree I think optimistic and non-depressed people often lack empathy and get really upset when you're not enjoying a moment that they are. They take it personally or maybe even see it as ungrateful.

I also think though that some people are just more sensitive to negativity or are uncomfortable with unfortunate truths and literally willfully delude themselves on some points. Not that there isn't some value in that sometimes but I have pessimism and realism bias so it's hard fir me to understand why.

 

[etherealspring]

eh ive been called pessimistic tons of times, mainly because it's true. never been called mean or rude tho, if anything most ppl tell me im "nice" or "chill".

 

[sugarb]

Nope, never. I'm generally very polite, cheerful, and personable despite also being very asocial. Also not much for pessimism, more of an optimist or realist at worst. Sometimes I'll get a little snippy when I'm emotional and having an argument but otherwise not really

 

[tsykoais]

Nope, never. I'm generally very polite, cheerful, and personable despite also being very asocial.

it's always been a mix for me i'm either what you just described to some people or seemingly rude to others.

 

[sugarb]

it's always been a mix for me i'm either what you just described to some people or seemingly rude to others.

Y'know, now that you mention it, I think I might be the same and people just don't say it explicitly to my face lmao
I occasionally act weird or do semi-offensive things.

this one time in senior year i was in the hall with a friend. just walking along, doop de doo. And I looked down and saw these bad bitches on some girl's feet




Giant oversized plushie shoes. I nudged my friend and went
"hey. hey. look. fwip fwop"
And then we simultaneously burst out laughing hysterically
She went "WHATS SO FUNNY" and we scurried off. I managed to restrain myself from saying "YOUR FWIP FWOPS" and laughing hysterically again until we were a bit aways
So yea maybe I'm a dick

 

[YandereMikuMistress]

Yes I do get it but only from my family, i lack sympathy I'm told.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I haven't seen other people describe me as pessimistic but that's because I rarely even interact with others anyway. I am pessimistic (only because pessimism aligns with realism and I like to be truthful) and I guess people hate seeing others with pessimism because they've trained to get rid of any negative feelings from society even though sharing negative feelings is just as essential as sharing positive feelings

 

[yxmux]

Yes. My parents, especially my dad, have always told me that I should be nicer to people. I've been reprimanded in school multiple times for this.

 

[CatLvr]

Oh yeah. My whole life. Don't ask me what I think if all you are looking for is validation that you are better than the rest of us. Plus, sarcasm is apparently a language few understand.

 

[TapeMachine]

My facial expressions and/or tone of voice can definitely seem "rude." It took a long time for me to catch on to this, but now I can hear it when I'm speaking sometimes, and I have to say things like, "I feel like what I just said might have come off as sarcastic or smart-ass, but I assure you I am being neither." Same with facial expressions. I feel like I'm always apologizing, but it saves me from having unnecessary confrontations, so

 

[divinemistress36]

Yes. I'm a proud pessimist

 

[CantDoIt]

Yes but to be fair I used to be mean and rude for no reason and I highly regret it. Genuinely do not know why I was like that.

 

[SoulWhisperer]

I get described as many bad things, sometimes justified sometimes not. But it's no surprise my depression always ruins the mood and brings down the morale unfortunately. That's just a fact...

 

[Bananaman]

Imo people react hostile / try to make you look unreasonable simply because you remind them of the darkness within themselves.
They don't actually think that you're wrong for being pessimistic, but they're unable to confront their own struggles with life / the human condition.
Just like you, they try to be nice and positive, but when the cracks in this facade start showing, people start lashing out.
I also struggle with this constant expected dishonesty, but I've gotten kind of good at not saying anything instead.

I'm guilty of having done that and I can say that I felt the exact same thing you are describing