getting older

[girlboything]

im 27. and everyone keeps telling me how much getting older sucks. like physically. and i don't know how to process that. if ive been suicidal since i was ten how am i going to handle being 40? it's extremely disheartening. people also say getting older is good in some ways but fuck. it just doesn't seem worth it. maybe this is the wrong place to ask. i don't even know what i'm really asking. just like. if your whole life has been like this how do you cope with physically aging on top of it?

 

[Namensjemand]

Many seem to deal with it by having children, giving them a purpose beyond themselves as well as infusing their lives with their youthful natures. I don't think there are many good alternatives.

 

[Hollowman]

I'm almost 50 and I don't cope with it well. I should've kms decades ago.

 

[theslasher]

I don't believe natural death is something you should fear, stoicism embraces death. Our own mortality is the very thing that gives life value.

There is no way to live forever, people age naturally. Billions of humans have been born and have died before us. Our birth and death are natural inevitabilities that cannot be changed. We must make peace with it.

The fact that most people try to ignore this fact, or even run away from this thought, reveals that they don't feel satisfied with the life they've lived. The solution is not to find some coping mechanism to escape this thought. The solution is to embrace the thought, to embrace the knowingness of our fragile lives.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I think it depends on lots of factors. Some of them being luck unfortunately. Depends on what you're asking of your body too. I'm finding aging difficult (I'm 43) because my job has varied in how physical it is and (stupidly,) I've allowed myself to become unfit. I know people in their 70's still doing this kind of work. I've been struggling recently though- much more than I did 10 years ago. Even 5 years ago! If you have a physically demanding life- I'd simply make the (obvious) suggestion to look after your body! Otherwise it will start to strongly object! Of course- you may still be struck down with ill health but you've at least given yourself better chances.

 

[soonatpeace777888]

Yeah, I wasn't happy in my 20s so how it going to be when I'm older, and my health declines?

 

[FuneralCry]

I personally see ageing as being something completely undesirable, I believe it just leads to more suffering, the thought of very old age disturbs me, it's something that I want to avoid at all costs. In my case permanent non-existence will always be preferable to enduring this futile and meaningless existence where I'm slowly dying and decaying, I don't see how existing in general could ever be appealing.

 

[UseItOrLoseIt]

I'm 37 year old alcohol and speed addict that didn't die yet. I feel younger than 37 if I'm being honest. The amount of torture my body can handle - I sometimes feel like a superhero.

 

[girlboything]

I'm 37 year old alcohol and speed addict that didn't die yet. I feel younger than 37 if I'm being honest. The amount of torture my body can handle - I sometimes feel like a superhero.

i call myself rasputin bc of my tolerance for cns depressants lol. i had to stop drinking so much though bc i was regularly blacking out and it just wasn't great. i'm in an rtc rn but usually i will do any drug i can get my grubby little hands on (but im an autistic introvert so i don't know anyone who sells anything other than vape carts and my weed tolerance was at the point that i could rip multiple dabs in a row and not feel anything. i wouldn't do meth or pcp but i have or would do most other things. i did so much dxm they think it caused my tardive dystonia fml. as far as literal torture.... ive been into bdsm since i was 12. and not like spanking and hair pulling, i like cnc, being punched and kicked and choked out and waterboarding myself and alllll sorts of shit. idk im hoping i die by accident. im known on 4chan as 'that bitch who posts nudes, does shitloads of drugs, posts pics of self harm, and is generally into being abused' (sorry being mentioned on 4chan without even posting there is still one of my greatest accomplishments) anyway enjoy the speed dont take it with vitamin c or citric acid it neutralizes stimulants

I don't believe natural death is something you should fear, stoicism embraces death. Our own mortality is the very thing that gives life value.

There is no way to live forever, people age naturally. Billions of humans have been born and have died before us. Our birth and death are natural inevitabilities that cannot be changed. We must make peace with it.

The fact that most people try to ignore this fact, or even run away from this thought, reveals that they don't feel satisfied with the life they've lived. The solution is not to find some coping mechanism to escape this thought. The solution is to embrace the thought, to embrace the knowingness of our fragile lives.

i dont fear death, usually. i fear life getting more painful than it already is, which is very bad. if i could just easily die i wouldn't have this fear. death doesn't scare me, my body breaking down while i'm still alive terrifies me. but thanks for your input i appreciate your thoughtfulness

Many seem to deal with it by having children, giving them a purpose beyond themselves as well as infusing their lives with their youthful natures. I don't think there are many good alternatives.

having children when you already want to die seems unfathomably cruel. as for infusing life with youthful nature... im a lifestyle little, so i basically got that down. thanks for your response